Polls: Dating

I became attracted to transgender women because I had a hard time with Cis women.

Not sure if I should tell my family or not.
I want kids someday, So i don’t plan on marrying a transgender woman.

I would date a transgender woman temporarily, I wouldn’t want it to be a big surprise to anybody.
Also I wouldn’t want a trans girlfriend to feel hidden.

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I don’t get along with majority of cis women
our thought processes are just very different,
they’re extremely hard for me to get along with. I’ve met a couple of cis women who’s personalities were perfect but generally
I just can’t.

I have a different perspective on love than most people. I see love in more of a scientific sense. I see love as a source of personal pleasure and natural biology, when we look for love we seek mainly two things, pleasure and procreation. When we love someone we are flooded with "feel good hormones" such as oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin and we naturally seek pleasure as humans just like how you listen to your favorite song and eat your favorite food you get pleasure from that. We also seek love in order to procreate and keep the human population flourishing, i. e. sex. I probably left some facts out but you probably got the gist of it by now. Some of you may think it's bland and dull, some of you might agree, some of you might find it cute in a nerdy way.

BEFORE YOU GET THE WRONG IDEA OF ME

Do I believe in love? Yes, I just don't believe in the whimsical fantasy of it portrayed in movies and fairy tales on how there's destiny and there's that "one" out there.

Do I think love is all about sex? Mostly, but it doesn't have to be. I'm actually waiting until marriage to have sex and populating the world isn't important anymore. The reason I say mostly is because if sex wasn't a thing then relationships wouldn't be a thing either, there would be no gender and no real reason to be in relationships and we would have friends instead.

I live in between two college campuses, Eastern Michigan and University of Michigan in Ann Arbor. There are plenty of people around here in my age group, but I don't get any matches. I honestly think it's because I'm boring, but maybe you have a different idea.

I paid, so I can see the girls who like my profile... I've gotten a handful of desperate looking women and that's it, so it's not just me being picky.

I swear. I'm not a bad looking dude at all. I get told that I'm handsome and I get compliments for my voice all the time. I get told I'm smart, honest, kind, funny, artistic, passionate, I could go on. No girl has ever had anything bad to say about me in regards to my looks. However I'm forever friend zoned and on dating sites I get 0 matches and 0 replies. Even if I swipe everyone (50+ girls) right indiscriminately I only get maybe 1-2 matches every 3 days and it's always some morbidly obese girl who is obviously just scraping the bottom of the barrel. To a lesser extent I'll match with gays or transgenders, or cam girls who act like their interested and then randomly reveal that they are actually a cam model and want me to look at their site. The super rare occasions where I actually match up with someone decent, they either don't reply or they stop after 1-2 messages. The only things I can think of are:1: I've been lied to about my looks my entire life.
2: Most girls aren't into black guys.
3: Girls on those sites are incredibly picky and expect a solid 10/10 man for a right swipe.

I know that some people expect to have sex on a first date and holding hands means absolutely nothing to them, but other people don't even kiss on a first date and holding hands IS a big deal. While I hope that I will get a good night kiss at the end of a first date, I don't expect it; for me, holding hands is an exciting milestone on a first date. It's a way of establishing a small degree of intimacy in a non-sexual way that is not threatening to most people. If a lady will hold my hand for more than a few seconds on a first date, I take that as a sign that she likes being with me and is wanting to encourage me.

What does holding hands on a first date mean to you?