What was a lesson you had to learn the hard way?

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Mine was I can't help everyone. Not everyone has the compassion for others like I do.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

A lesson I learned is at any time any place anything can happen and if I was put there for a reason he was to help somebody I'm not looking for any gain from it I'm doing it because I'm there and I can there are many people that take will take your kindness as weakness and they don't know when to stop you need to stop them I've gone to a thrift store before and I've bought something not really needing it or wanting it and then probably that same day to a week later I'm going to run into somebody in that moment they need what I just bought everything does happen for a reason you are who you are for a reason when you do things you're either doing them to teach or to guide somebody else and like I said because you were there and because you can

_no_one_ · Accepted Answer

People are overly selfish they just do not care.
Most people who'd exaggerate about their mental illnesses in front of a crowd want attention which too is some mental illness. They won't be knowing what depression actually is but term their "feeling low" as depression lmao.
Tough time is necessary to remind people of their priorities.
Blaming others never solves the issue.
Your friend circle defines your future.

Cathy7734 · Accepted Answer

There are people who deny anything wrong they did. Each time they look in the mirror all they see is good. They will "spin" whatever happened to make themselves look like the victim.

"If you hold a cat by the tail, you learn things that cannot be learned in any other way." Mark Twain

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

That you can't have a good future without hard work and self denial - I spent at least half of my 20s doing nothing useful either academically or financially and now my friends are Ivy league graduates and wall street millionaires and I'm still childless and unmarried.

ZDoes · Answer

That those you are closest too are the most likely to betray you. And not because they're just evil, although I'm sure that comes into play with consistency. I'm talking about inconsiderate behavior. See when we love, allowance, acceptance are easy. We take that for granted in time and just see it. It makes it safer to behave poorly because we know we are loved , that forgiveness will be forthcoming. This is how children get away with being horrible. And we all have allowed significant partners to get away with behavior that we would never tolerate from anyone else

KAT247 · Answer

I have a favorite saying that perfectly sums up something I had/have to learn- “No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future.”
Live in the present. Dwelling in the past keeps you a victim to regret. Worrying about the future makes you a slave to something that hasn’t happened and may regret it when it becomes the past due to overthinking.

sage2021 · Answer

That people can look at you straight into your eyes and lie to you and sound so convincing. It doesn't bother them at because all they care about is themselves and lying has become most of their conversations. 🤥🤥

Hairylegs222 · Answer

That being picky towards a partner is a good thing. Everytime I lowered my standards, it was a bad idea, and they all were disappointing.

Think ahead before making decisions, especially big decisions. Was awful at it when younger, now I'm the opposite. Many hard lessons from that.

Dude_777 · Answer

That people are selfish, and that they will chew you for their own benefits and spit out heartlessly when you are of no use to them.

I normally prefer to learn lessons the smarter way, i. e to learn from other people mistakes, read wise quotations that offer tons of meaningful valuable lessons / advice.

bambi_01 · Answer

To love myself first. And that if i don’t love and respect myself, then I’ll only attract men who don’t don’t respect me or love me either. Was a hard lesson to learn and am still learning it to this day.

Lionman95 · Answer

1. Life is hard for everyone. Just because have it easier in some places, they also have problems and obstacles in life.
2. You need to love yourself before you can love someeone else.
3. Life has much to offer if you live it.

DonkeyDan · Answer

To never divulge too much information about your personal life to a superior at work or your boss, as they can use it against you for their own personal gain and gratification.

samavia · Answer

Find yourself  Accept yourself  Speak yourself  Love yourself  Be the best version of yourself  Life is one time chance use it with full heart but use brain as well

Relux47 · Answer

I had to learn that I never really had friends the hard way, when a girl seems like she’s interested by doing something that you never expected for her to do it turns out that she really wasn’t and it was just a one time thing, I was trying out for the basketball team in high school and when I had to go home I realized that I wasn’t fit for it and I really wasn’t good at basketball like I thought I was

Anonymous · Answer

You can’t be 100 percent happy. Cherish the moments where you are and try to take it easy in life. Because life is very hard and things just get harder and harder the older you get and the more responsibilities you take on. Understanding that I would never be as carefree as I was as a kid opened my eyes to the fact that life goes on and you can either try to make the most of it or miss out

JustAnj · Answer

To give up and move on

I am a fighter and a person who never quits until I can find a solution. Sometimes it's okay to just let it go and that is so tough but it's the best choice I can make for my mental health. ❤️

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

That men can’t be your friends ever. They usually want more if they accept your friendship

snowboarder720 · Answer

Math. I was never good at it growing up but I knew it was my passion and I understood it. I now have a degree in electrical engineering 😊

PositiveNote · Answer

I learned if you are nice to people, you risk having them take advantage of you. Man! I had to "learn to be stern." —not all the time. Just to some who are that way.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Here's a big one: people very often do not have any good reasons for doing the things that they do. A lot of people, maybe even most, just do things "because." They give it absolutely no thought whatsoever.

MCheetah · Answer

That I need to work on my own life and stop expecting others to bring me happiness. Also, that people will always disappoint you, if you expect anything reasonable from them.

Cherry234 · Answer

That you can't trust everyone that you meet or befriend, especially online

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

Most people are all for themselves and their happiness. Not all adults are mature. Some people are really weird.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

That you can't trust everyone. Not everyone is courteous and not everyone has good intentions. This was mostly in my much younger years.

stupidgirlllll123 · Answer

Sometimes people pretend to be your friend so you can leave them alone and then they act like they don't even know you anymore.

JosyJosy · Answer

That everyone dies eventually and you don't know when so if you want to say something say it while you can

NobleFlight · Answer

i licked a subway seat with stuff all over it when I was 10 for fun.. and I got sick, lmao

Assi2k · Answer

You can change anyone. They resent you if you try. Some people are simply incompatible and there’s no changing it no matter how much effort exerted.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Not everyone is going to put up with my shitty behavior when I have a meltdown. Not everyone is equipped to handle someone in that state and that's ok

itsdarci · Answer

the older you get the less happy and more stress you become , I look back to the past a lot and I changed completely

NerdyEngineer · Answer

To leave women be. I have seen so many women cheat its not even funny, while I have seen men cheat I do not see them cheat as much a women. And the men get blamed for women cheating. After being cheated on 3 times, its not worth it.

SaoirseS · Answer

That some people consider friendships as disposable.

15_Debo · Answer

not all bad boys are bad  some are broken And  Love makes u a liar

Wester1967 · Answer

That corporate censorship in the USA and western countries is just as bad or worse than vulgar censorship from totalitarian dictatorships

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Growing up isn't as exciting as the media protray it as, actually it is mostly boring and hella slow but I definitely love the freedom and independence of being an adult.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Don’t move in with a boyfriend 😑 worst decision I made. I’m currently saving to buy property feel like that could have happened 2 years ago so by now I’d be fine but I wasn’t really focused.

Starwitch23 · Answer

You're all alone. People would leave you at any given point of time.

Twalli · Answer

How to study. I am smart. I was smart enough to not need to study in highschool. It doesn't matter how smart you are, you need to study in college and I had no skills in that area, because I never needed them.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Same. But modesty is important too. Most people have some degree of empathy.

Cakegirl · Answer

Mine was you can't be way too nice because people will walk all over you and take it for advantage

humpbackjack · Answer

Man I’ve had to learn so many lessons the hard way some lessons more than a few times there might even be one or two that I haven’t learned yet

designer1 · Answer

You may follow the golden rule but not many others do.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I've learned every lesson the hard way. Pick a category

t-8900 · Answer

Unconditional love doesn't exist... everything has a price attached to it.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You should come 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th. Invest in yourself to the max, and give what's left for others.

thegirlinstilettos · Answer

That not everyone who say they are your friend is your friend. My “best friend” only acted like a friend to gain personal details to go back and laugh with her real friends.

thatkendy · Answer

You can't trust everyone. People somethimes are diffrent than you think.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Women can't be trusted! Especially those in your own family!!

noohair · Answer

Most lessons are learned the hard way. If it were any other way, you would repeat the mistake until you felt enough pain.

Nerdvana · Answer

All though there are many. Here's The only thing holding you back is the thought that something is holding you back.

Glasgow55 · Answer

There have been a few. One is, don't buy a house online. Ever.

jasco · Answer

That life isn’t easy and theirs no way to make it easy, just less stressful. Theirs no easy route

Babygirl_S · Answer

That most people are less emotional and romantic than me. It's like they're robots.

TexasRed95 · Answer

Don't touch the clothing iron. But after that I always listened to my parents lol

ALoser · Answer

That I'll never achieve anything in life and no girl will ever love me

Hanmakevi · Answer

If you leave a drink unattended someone will spit in it

Anonymous · Answer

What women say they want versus what they really want are rarely congruent.

Anonymous · Answer

NEVER give a partner access to your phone , passwords, email, or bank account

pink_and_inlove · Answer

That I can’t trust everyone not even family

xf25x · Answer

You can't love someone into loving you

exitseven · Answer

The world is not a nice place.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Never date women from work. Ever.

douride2 · Answer

Mine was not to be so trusting of others.

FatherJack · Answer

Human beings cannot be trusted

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