What was a lesson you had to learn the hard way?

[mr_empathy]

Mine was I can't help everyone. Not everyone has the compassion for others like I do.

[ohshee]

A lesson I learned is at any time any place anything can happen and if I was put there for a reason he was to help somebody I'm not looking for any gain from it I'm doing it because I'm there and I can there are many people that take will take your kindness as weakness and they don't know when to stop you need to stop them I've gone to a thrift store before and I've bought something not really needing it or wanting it and then probably that same day to a week later I'm going to run into somebody in that moment they need what I just bought everything does happen for a reason you are who you are for a reason when you do things you're either doing them to teach or to guide somebody else and like I said because you were there and because you can

[_no_one_]

People are overly selfish they just do not care.
Most people who'd exaggerate about their mental illnesses in front of a crowd want attention which too is some mental illness. They won't be knowing what depression actually is but term their "feeling low" as depression lmao.
Tough time is necessary to remind people of their priorities.
Blaming others never solves the issue.
Your friend circle defines your future.

[Cathy7734]

There are people who deny anything wrong they did. Each time they look in the mirror all they see is good. They will "spin" whatever happened to make themselves look like the victim.

"If you hold a cat by the tail, you learn things that cannot be learned in any other way." Mark Twain

[jennifer_bloom]

That you can't have a good future without hard work and self denial - I spent at least half of my 20s doing nothing useful either academically or financially and now my friends are Ivy league graduates and wall street millionaires and I'm still childless and unmarried.

[ZDoes]

That those you are closest too are the most likely to betray you. And not because they're just evil, although I'm sure that comes into play with consistency. I'm talking about inconsiderate behavior. See when we love, allowance, acceptance are easy. We take that for granted in time and just see it. It makes it safer to behave poorly because we know we are loved , that forgiveness will be forthcoming. This is how children get away with being horrible. And we all have allowed significant partners to get away with behavior that we would never tolerate from anyone else

[KAT247]

I have a favorite saying that perfectly sums up something I had/have to learn- “No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future.”
Live in the present. Dwelling in the past keeps you a victim to regret. Worrying about the future makes you a slave to something that hasn’t happened and may regret it when it becomes the past due to overthinking.

[sage2021]

That people can look at you straight into your eyes and lie to you and sound so convincing. It doesn't bother them at because all they care about is themselves and lying has become most of their conversations. 🤥🤥

[Hairylegs222]

That being picky towards a partner is a good thing. Everytime I lowered my standards, it was a bad idea, and they all were disappointing.

Think ahead before making decisions, especially big decisions. Was awful at it when younger, now I'm the opposite. Many hard lessons from that.

[Dude_777]

That people are selfish, and that they will chew you for their own benefits and spit out heartlessly when you are of no use to them.

I normally prefer to learn lessons the smarter way, i. e to learn from other people mistakes, read wise quotations that offer tons of meaningful valuable lessons / advice.

[Dude_777]

A lot more, but don't want to think about them.

[bambi_01]

To love myself first. And that if i don’t love and respect myself, then I’ll only attract men who don’t don’t respect me or love me either. Was a hard lesson to learn and am still learning it to this day.

[Lionman95]

1. Life is hard for everyone. Just because have it easier in some places, they also have problems and obstacles in life.
2. You need to love yourself before you can love someeone else.
3. Life has much to offer if you live it.

[Cathy7734]

#1 is a hard one to swallow. Because all over social media it seems like happy couples and good-looking people don't have problems or obstacles like the rest of us. It seems like life is so much easier for them.

[Lionman95]

@Cathy7734 Yes it was hard. But everybody has strong and week spots. But they will always show you the shining good side of their lifes. Being a thin guy I always admired all the guys with strong arms who seemed to have gotten their with nearly no afford. But it´s not true, they have also problems where others have it easier.

[Cathy7734]

How about people who are aggressive and seem to get what they want in life at the expense of others? I know a wealthy doctor who has a beautiful wife who is obedient. They live in a beautiful home and have a beautiful life. When he yells she and her daughter snap to attention. Life seems pretty easy for him.

[Lionman95]

@Cathy7734 I think he still has some weak spots though he might be good at hiding them. One of them could be his aggressive attitude. Maybe he thinks he has to be aggressive because he thinks his wife or his daughter might not take him serious as a man if he isn´t. I don´t think life is easy for him, just because his wife is obedient it´s not getting easier because there are other responsible decision he has to face like paying the bills, like decisions about which insurance would be best to choose.

[DonkeyDan]

To never divulge too much information about your personal life to a superior at work or your boss, as they can use it against you for their own personal gain and gratification.

[Cathy7734]

I've had that happen to me too. I reveal too much and then they use that information to attack me.

[samavia]

Find yourself
Accept yourself
Speak yourself
Love yourself
Be the best version of yourself
Life is one time chance use it with full heart but use brain as well

[Relux47]

I had to learn that I never really had friends the hard way, when a girl seems like she’s interested by doing something that you never expected for her to do it turns out that she really wasn’t and it was just a one time thing, I was trying out for the basketball team in high school and when I had to go home I realized that I wasn’t fit for it and I really wasn’t good at basketball like I thought I was

[Anonymous]

You can’t be 100 percent happy. Cherish the moments where you are and try to take it easy in life. Because life is very hard and things just get harder and harder the older you get and the more responsibilities you take on. Understanding that I would never be as carefree as I was as a kid opened my eyes to the fact that life goes on and you can either try to make the most of it or miss out

[JustAnj]

To give up and move on

I am a fighter and a person who never quits until I can find a solution. Sometimes it's okay to just let it go and that is so tough but it's the best choice I can make for my mental health. ❤️

[kyleelyn199723]

That men can’t be your friends ever. They usually want more if they accept your friendship

[mr_empathy]

That's not true. My best friend was a woman for ten years. I never expected anything more than for her to... Be herself and do good for herself. Till she brutally betrayed me

[kyleelyn199723]

@mr_empathy maybe I said this the wrong way, but I think In most opposite gender friendships, there is one person that develops feelings. Maybe she was the one that developed feelings for you personally.

[mr_empathy]

Not romantically. Perhaps she liked what I did for her more than actually being my friend

[kyleelyn199723]

How did she betray you if you don’t mind me asking

[mr_empathy]

Stole my identity and my car

[kyleelyn199723]

So she was using you, not an actual friend. I am sorry that happened to you.

[mr_empathy]

It would seem so. However, I don't understand why she would for ten years. Just to get my ID and car

[kyleelyn199723]

Did you do things for her?

[mr_empathy]

Yes as well as teach her how to be a parent to her daughter

[mr_empathy]

It's a long story indeed

[kyleelyn199723]

That can definitely be a reason she stayed around. There’s quite a bit of drug addict girls that used my boyfriend in the past.

[kyleelyn199723]

He was “friends” with a girl for more than 10 years and her drug addicted and alcoholic ways made her use him for rides , money, pay for food, a time away from her house, rides to the liquor store

[mr_empathy]

If I may ask, is that why you said such a thing was impossible?

[kyleelyn199723]

Yes. Because a real true friendship truly ends up in a relationship. I consider my boyfriend to be my best friend. He is obviously attractive as hell but our personalities mesh to create a great relationship

[kyleelyn199723]

Relationship /friendship

[kyleelyn199723]

But not just that, I’ve tried being friends with guys in the past and it would all come down to them wanting to have sex with me. Even back in my childhood years every boy that wanted to be friend me in school ALWAYS had a crush on me.

[mr_empathy]

A friendship is the foundation of a good relationship. Then once the relationship collapses. I do believe there's hope. I won't let one person ruin my outlook on friendship. However, kinda have no friends now 😅

[kyleelyn199723]

@mr_empathy I personally think same genders have more to relate to and that’s why I think it’s important to make friendships outside your relationship which opposite gender friends don’t typically mesh in relationships

[snowboarder720]

Math. I was never good at it growing up but I knew it was my passion and I understood it. I now have a degree in electrical engineering 😊

[PositiveNote]

I learned if you are nice to people, you risk having them take advantage of you. Man! I had to "learn to be stern." —not all the time. Just to some who are that way.

[FilmGuy93]

Here's a big one: people very often do not have any good reasons for doing the things that they do. A lot of people, maybe even most, just do things "because." They give it absolutely no thought whatsoever.

[MCheetah]

That I need to work on my own life and stop expecting others to bring me happiness.

Also, that people will always disappoint you, if you expect anything reasonable from them.

[TwinkleLily5]

Most people are all for themselves and their happiness. Not all adults are mature. Some people are really weird.

[ArrowheadSW]

That you can't trust everyone. Not everyone is courteous and not everyone has good intentions. This was mostly in my much younger years.

[stupidgirlllll123]

Sometimes people pretend to be your friend so you can leave them alone and then they act like they don't even know you anymore.