How to handle it tomorrow my first day at new work ?

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I had been waiting this job for 2 years and 6 mounts until they accept me. I have social anxiety. I begin my first job tomorrow but I'm super nervous and shaking. I can't stop thinking about it. And now I don't want to go. I'm going to feel so uncomfortable and I will be shaking. What can I do to not feel like that?

RACSKC0B · Accepted Answer

Anxiety is a pretty difficult thing to deal with sometimes, often it's the only voice that you hear, and when it's not it's still usually the loudest.
Sometimes in life you don't get a choice though, and you have to do something your anxiety is so sure it's going to be the worst thing ever. And you get through it, and you're fine.
I don't know anyone who has bad anxiety, that can't relate to that.
So that's the thing then, right?
Anxiety only thinks of the worst possible outcome, and then it tries to convince you it's the only possible outcome. But it's not even a realistic, seriously even when things didn't go well, they've never been anywhere near a bad as my anxiety was telling me it would be. Anxiety doesn't have any experience, it doesn't know what's going to happen, it's making stuff up as it goes. Where's anxiety when you're confident about what you're doing, and it doesn't go to plan? It wasn't there trying to warn you.
Sure next time you're doing something similar, it's not gonna shut up about what happened, or how much worse it's gonna be.
But it's never right.
Don't worry about them sending you home early, they got busy, and it happens. To the new person, always. The new person is the one with the least experience, so if it gets busy they'll need help, and customers will get impatient. If it's too slow and they're gonna send someone home, they might ask people if they want to go early, but if they say no, you send the new person home so the other people can make their money without fighting over who's getting the next customer.
It's nothing personal, it's just how things are done usually, that's all.

Khronuskeeper · Accepted Answer

You can't change what has happened. You can't control what will happen. You can choose how to act now. Prepare for tomorrow, get your clothes out, make a lunch or know where you are going to buy lunch from tomorrow. Ensure you have you bag packed with everything you need and then get an early nights sleep. Set a reasonably early alarm and give yourself plenty of time to get to work. Once you're there, do you best. Whatever will be will be, but you can give yourself the best chance for success.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

When you feel nervous and don’t want to do something just count backwards- 3. 2. 1. And jump into whatever makes you nervous.

The people who are going to be there are average people, just like you and me, with their own worries, their own anxieties, with their own flaws…

You are not less than them.

You landed the job you always wanted! You are amazing! You are one step away from being where you wanted to be for the past 2 years.

Your hands shake? Even if the Earth shakes, you should and will go there tomorrow and you’ll have a great time! ☀️

You’ll meet friendly people, you’ll be alright.

I had an anxiety of public speaking, it didn’t stop me to perform in front of 300-400 people and rock it. My hands shook too and I won the debates every time, I got the “Best Speaker”, “Best debater” title all the time.

I even became a director and later on a vice-president of the international companies with over 45 European countries in it.

All while, my hands shook every time I was performing in public. Until one day they didn’t, anymore. Because I already felt like a fish in the ocean, like the scene was my home.

I promise you, you’ll be the fine as long as you go there, stand against your fears and step over them. You can do it! ❤️

Anonymous · Answer

Whatever fears you're having, forget them because they won't happen. The first day especially is the nicest day you'll have, because there's NO expectations of you yet. Depending on the job, you may not even have to "work" yet (often it's just a training day). So just relax! It'll be a great day! It's normal to be nervous, but once you get there it should go away pretty quickly.

BCRanger10 · Answer

What's the job? And what kind of experience did you have before? It would seem to me that the employer thinks your previous work would be relevant and useful to them.

baserunner611 · Answer

Take deep breath and then smile 😏 you got this

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