Is It Too Much To Ask : A Happy, Passionate Job?

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so i have been arguing back and forth with mom about me seeking job... and the ones she looks for pay fairly well but don't polish any of my skills or reflect any of my talents, they just want a person who can operate a computer and keep files and speak in English — which even an AI robot can do... while my dream job is where i get to make art, or edit novels, or be at HR, or even a librarian's job is more desirable than that of a bank's! because i do wanna earn a lot, but i wanna be happy and satisfied with my work life! is that too impractical?

AimeeKyle · Accepted Answer

While it is important and aspirational to have a dream job, you still have to pay the bills / support yourself.

Sometimes the dream jobs won’t pay the bills and sometimes it takes time and experience to get the opportunity to obtain your dream job.

I have obtained what most in my field would consider a dream job. It took me over 20years of experience to be qualified to do it / be considered/respected to do the job appropriately.

One final thought, life is all about choices and life balance. Each choice (financial, socially, travel, proposed retirement age, etc) has an effect on either work or personal life. You have to take the path that helps to fulfill your goals.

One final thought, be practical and patient. The path to get where you ultimately end up is an important part of the journey…. enjoy it (it’s not always easy).

Good luck to you!

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

It is not too much to ask, no. That's a tough spot to be in.

Follow your dream and do what you love. I've chased a paycheck and it sucks. It becomes a self-licking ice cream cone as one of my better bosses once said. I'd find the job/s you love and do those.

I wonder here: is this possibly a case of your mom's bark being worse than her bite? Like, if you got the editing job or the librarian job would she just bitch at you and leave it at that or would there be worse consequences?

To your point, though, you're right: a job you don't like is depressing af and that has a cascading effect through your life. Keep pursuing the one you really love.

wittymilf · Accepted Answer

Generally you have to do a few jobs for the sake of it to actually truly appreciate the dream job🤷‍♀️

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's not too much to ask, but you have to learn how to balance the practical with your passion. I found that balance through investing in the stock market. If you get good at investing or passively generating income, you can have a lower set salary with your creative work and build up your money with more freedom than you would ever have through a cushiony job. But, it is definitely more risky.

DJB72 · Answer

Life isn't fair. You don't get a participation award in real life.

Grow the fuck up. Most people work to provide for their life. Your job isn't necessarily representative of who you are. It pays the fucking bills.

Take any job that keeps food on the table, a roof over your head and let's you do the things you love. Suck it up, buttercup.

AdithyaR · Answer

If you wanna do something like novel editing or HR, absolutely go for it. Those do have very good paying potential with enough time and if you love doing it then great!

exitseven · Answer

I know what you are saying. I got into IT, not because I was really passionate about it but because I had a wife and 3 kids to support and needed a job that would pay the bills and maybe I would not hate it too much.

You are young and do not have all the responsibilities that I had so maybe you could figure out how to do your dream job. It probably will not be easy because fun jobs are really in demand and most of the time some politician's kid ends up with it.

westend12 · Answer

It's a delicate balancing act of being happy and getting paid a decent salary. I've just started a few months ago as a consultant and the happiness to experience ratio can get a bit much sometimes. Having a job is better than not having one though so just doing it until you find the dream job is the way to go

Sparkie460 · Answer

It's ok to Chace after your dreams but if you're not working something is better then nothing. Take a job that pays well but keep looking for one that you will love to do. I'm going through the same thing with my son. He wants a particular job that doesn't have any openings now. I told him to take any job now so he can pay his bills but keep looking for his ideal job

jayhams · Answer

If you are living at home and don't have a job (I'm making this assumption because I don't know why else your mom is involved) get a job to pay your bills and then look for jobs you would enjoy.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You could do a boring job for a couple of years just to make money, and then switch to something you like better. Invest that money and it will grow to provide you a nice return in retirement.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

You want HR? Do MBA. You are a graduate anyways.

Getting a job in itself is a big thing. You need to be at the highest of posts to be happy and earn a lot at the same time.

What you are expecting is impractical. Yes.

Most marriages are loveless. You got to deal with it. Not everything you want in live is what you get. You need to adjust with a lot of things.

Andres77 · Answer

it gives you experience. you don't have to do it forever. plus it helps pay the bills. no worries from what i can see.

Guardian45 · Answer

I'm in a job I hate, but I love my colleagues; otherwise, I would have left years ago.

es20490446e · Answer

What's the difference between a mediocre bar and a five forks restaurant, if they are doing the same kind of job?

joeldalton · Answer

But the reality is you need to pay the bills.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

You seek the best combination of the two that you can manage while paying your bills.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

How developed are your skills as an artist?

Twalli · Answer

You need money to do what you want to do.

shortster · Answer

I think that you are right.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

No but doesn't always happen

SpringValley · Answer

Yes.

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