My dad treats me like a nobody because I’m not an engineer, dentist or a doctor what should I do?

[Anonymous]

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1 y

My boyfriends family are a lot more successful than my family as they are Engineers and University teachers none of them look down on me and never boast about salaries/ status.

My side of the family aren’t even dentist, teachers and engineers so why do they look down at me and expect me to be better?

[Anonymous]

It is important to remember that your worth and value as a person are not defined by your career or your job title. You have many strengths and qualities that make you unique and valuable, regardless of the profession you have chosen.

It can be difficult when family members do not support or appreciate our choices or accomplishments, but it is important to remember that their opinions do not define us. It may be helpful to have a conversation with your dad and express how his words and actions are impacting you. It may also be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor, who can help you process your feelings and develop strategies for coping with family conflicts.

Remember, it is important to prioritize your own well-being and to choose a career path that aligns with your personal values, interests, and goals. It may take time and effort to overcome family expectations and pressures, but with patience, self-reflection, and support, you can create a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself.

[Anonymous]

We all have our talents and which areas we excel in and which areas we don't. It is wrong for them to take that attitude towards you. Especially since they themselves aren't even in those fields. They most likely have no idea what it takes to do those things. Perhaps it is a cultural thing? Do you belong to a culture where this type of thinking is prevalent?

[EmmaMary]

So what exactly is your Father's occupation?

[Asker]

He is a Electrician

[EmmaMary]

OK... So what's his reasoning for wanting you to be one of those you've mentioned?

[Asker]

Wish I knew he wasn’t exactly an angle at my age he had 2 failed marriages and even to this day he can’t keep a women dunno why I get so much crap

[EmmaMary]

Would I be right in assuming you still live at home, under his roof?

[Asker]

No I live with my boyfriend in our own flat and I live about 4 hours away from the town where he lives

[EmmaMary]

Well in that case as hard as it may be, I would suggest you trying to take as little, or notice at all, in what your Father has to say or do.

Gently remind him that although he is your Father, you are now happily living your own life.

Purely out of curiosity, what exactly is your own occupation?

[Asker]

Marketing/Admin role

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[TonyMetal___86]

A father must love his daughter no matter what she is as long as she's a good girl!
Not everyone were born to become engineers or doctors!
If i had a daughter i'd still love her the same if she was a doctor or if she was still living with me with no profession at all!

[exitseven]

I don't know what you should do. I do know that you are not nobody. Even though you post this anonymously I can tell you are a great person in your own way.

[richardcory]

It depends on how you measure success. To me, happiness is the most important measure - but money does make it easier to be happy because it fixes so many problems

[razelove]

Make babies, it's an inherent advantage women have. It doesn't matter how skilled you are or aren't. You can get pregnant.

[Alpha714]

You should keep doing what you do best... One day he will be glad to c u successful

[AngryCarl2]

They want to live vicariously through you to make up for their own failures. They're basically toxic. Do what you enjoy an what you are good at.

[Wise4myage]

Follow your own path in life and don't let your father get you down.

[SlothySlob]

Become an engineer, dentist or doctor.

[tedbuoyy]

I'm a dentist I'm still a nobody

[Anonymous]

Change the father 😂