Boyfriend’s dad doesn’t like me. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now but his dad still has issues with me. Ever since we started I could tell he wasn’t a fan and yesterday during Thanksgiving was just the most awkward and embarrassing situation. The dad was drunk and pretty much told me in front of several people how he doesn’t know what his son sees in me, and I just stayed there and pretended as if what he thought didn’t affect me, but it did to the point where I had to run to the bathroom and cry... My boyfriend wasn’t present at the moment but one of his family members told him about what was said and he came running to me and took me home. I’ve done a lot of thinking and I don’t no where this puts me in the relationship with my boyfriend, it’s just all very sad for me.

[paleguy94]

I'm very sorry to hear all that. Hmm, well it's like that saying isn't it, you can't choose your family. I think running off together and ditching his family wouldn't work out in the long run, as in you guys cut off contact not saying you are literally running away. Hmm, I suppose were I in the same boat, I would think whether the relationship could handle the father's disapproval or whether the father will ever change his mind. I would be curious to ask his father, why don't you like me. But that's me as a curious person. I like to be liked. Hmm, I guess you'll think it through and handle this as mature adults that includes the father as a mature adult. I think there must be more to the story regarding him. Best of luck.

[ARandomGentleman]

This is unfortunate, luckily for you however it is not up to his father whether you guys date or not or who loves who. So the simple fact is that nothing the father says should bother you because its the people who love you whos opinions matter and if he is going to remain sour, then nothing from him is of any value to you. Or even true for that matter. People can be stubborn, so solving this might not be so possible, however the best course of action is to approach with respect and dignity, and if you maturity is not respected and returned by the father, then he is not worth your time, an you should just continue your relationship but with less exposure to his father.

[Demosiac]

And get the man disowned. Boom!! Great plan. Love conquers all.
- Happy ending.

[ARandomGentleman]

Im not saying cause any troube or cut all ties. Just manage a way to avoid conflict.

[Demosiac]

Well the father wouldn't give any blessings if they were to get married. And probably the only way to get it if they make a deal that the father wouldn't get burden by the responsibility as a parent then he'd probably agree.
If it somehow affects him officially then he should have a say in it.

[ARandomGentleman]

Absolutely, but like i said, its not cutting him out of the picture, just avoiding conflict and acting with maturity. Thats the best any can do, and hopefully he will come around since there will be no reason to antagonize her anymore.

[goddess87]

What did your boyfriend say? This is tough but it depends on how he plans on handling the situation. Since he didn't already confront his dad right then and there tells me that maybe he won't. I wouldn't go back to their house for sure until the dad apologizes. Thing is when the parents don't like you, it kind of means doom for the relationship. If your boyfriend knew how his dad felt the whole time, he shouldn't have even brought you over there and put you in that situation. He should have at least told you

[ymlf97]

Don’t be too bothered! You’re not dating his dad. Although, if you’re really bothered by it then you need to let your boyfriend know and have him talk to his dad to let him know he can’t be disrespect you like that. A good dad will respect his son’s decisions and in turn at least be civil to you. If not, then your boyfriend will have to respect you and your choices if you don’t want to go to his family events.

[marianabettencourt]

It's easy for me to say but you should talk to his father, soon! Be honest with each other and do make the questions you've been waiting to be answered.
Then you should think about what to really do, depending on the closure of your conversation.
Best of luck :*

[marianabettencourt]

This is if you guys (you and your boyfriend) are that serious about each other

[Miristheiss]

It would help to know why he doesn't like you.

If he's openly putting you down in public than the boyfriend should intervene and tell him not to speak to you that way. If the boyfriend is really serious about you and you might be his wife you two may just need to stay clear of his dad and not be around him.

Definitely stay away from him if he's drinking.

It takes courage but a really direct person would just schedule some time with the dad and sit down with him and confront him and say respectfully that I know you don't like me but I love your son so much and want so much for you to like me and accept me and it hurts me that you dislike me so. Why don't you like me or accept me? Try and reach his heart and see if you can break through.

[GingerGuy]

What does your boyfriend think of it? Don't put so much into it (invest yourself). People will like you or they won't and sometimes for no "good" or logical reason. I personally would just let it be and avoid any contact with him. And on that, I'd talk to your boyfriend about his dad's behavior. He needs to let him know that like you or not, that was inappropiate and unacceptable. Tell him you're not going to be in any situation when you'll be around his dad. Especially if he (bf) isn't there with you and isn't going to stick up for you! Just avoid him completely is what I would do.

[KazariaVulpix]

I dunno. I’d tell him that I dunno what his wife sees in a drunk bastard who sticks his nose in business it doesn’t belong in. I’m not telling you to not be sad but don’t let it bother you. Clearly your boyfriend sees you as someone special. So his dad can go fuck off

[Nik1hil]

That old cocker is an asshole stop trying to win his opinion, when you stop trying to win his opinion, you will win his opinion..

[Demosiac]

Time for your boyfriend to disown his father (or vice versa) if people don't accept the situation right now. Bam!! Love conquers all!
-happy ending

[Ayer93]

Parents have no say in a relationship between 2 people. It is your choice in who you love. My mom didn't like my ex, but I didn't care. Do what makes you feel right.

[Anonother]

Prove him wrong, be polite, respectfull and do right by your guy.

[SamKoop]

Ignore him if your boyfriend like you & you also like him

[giantreddwarf]

Well u ain't dating your boy friends dad, u are dating your boy friend. It is between your boyfriend and his dad.

[es20490446e]

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[TallAnon]

Nothing, he'll have to get used to it and you can tell him to go stuff himself. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you don't feel comfortable around his dad. A good boyfriend will find a solution.

[Raideninsane]

Try to convince him emotionally or ran away with your boyfriend

[Chrysis]

What does it matter? You're dating his son, not that guy.

[bi-mike-95]

maybe talk to your boyfriend about this and say how you dont want to see him anymore until he treats you with respect :)

[jacquesvol]

If your boyfriend can ignore it, you can ignore it too

[Juxtapose]

Who cares what his dad thinks. You're not dating his dad are you?

[MrSpliff]

Tell your dad macho nerds on the internet want to bash U. It not aware it a fat alcho. That thing is Ron burgandy mate

[Anonymous]

Stop being such a thot. Stop ruining young men's lives so often.

[quirf]

Welcome to the future

[Nandor]

What matters that your boyfriend loves you