Does pain help you grow if you resist it and fight it?

[jennifer_bloom]

My cousin worked 14 hour days and became a successful business owner and her neighbour cut herself in her teenage years because of low self esteem and verbally abusive parents and she would cry during her first training shift at work but now she has a PhD and her husband has PhD and a degree in law and she is a house wife because he makes so much money. The ones in my circle that succeeded sacrificed and suffered and it did not come for free. The ones who had easy lives went to community college or low tier schools, even if they were very intelligent.

[Uenvy694u]

The pain of growing up effects people different ways. Meaning some people use it a postive way. They look at pain as another speed bump. It might temporarily hurt them. But in the long they know how 2 use it 2 thier advantage. Proof all those long hours of working and studing paid off. Remember its not always good 2 have things come essy. Cause when things go 2 hell. They are ones who question life. Some start wanting 2 feel sorry thierself. Having anything good cause of pain and hard work makes u appreciate it more. Some people don't know how 2 be thankful for they have.

[richardcory]

Pain doesn't help you grow. Sometimes growing may put you in a position where you have to endure pain, but its always better to avoid it if you can get the same result.

But really hard work does help you grow

[smashleyy]

No. Everyone’s different and because of that pain is also handled in various ways. Two people can go through the same trauma and cope with it differently with one ignoring it, throwing themselves into work to occupy the mind and the other could throw themselves into drugs for the same reason. Just cause someone’s career is flourishing off of pain doesn’t mean they aren’t lacking in other aspects of life. One thing I know from working through my own shit is that pain doesn’t resolve over time by itself. It stays with you subconsciously. Something that happened 10+ years ago can very much be influencing your mindset and day to day behaviour. I had a lot of “core beliefs” that were actually just a result of baggage and unhealed trauma. The only way truly out is through. Pain helps you grow if you allow yourself to feel it and work through it. There is lessons in pain but it’s up to the individual rather they choose avoidance or not. wouldn’t say anyone has a easy life either. Regardless of their background and what they allow others to see. Some are just better at burying it. I grew up in a poor abusive household and i unintentionally had a bit of envy towards kids that seemed to have a great home life with involved parents. But each and every person I befriended who I thought had a easy life I got to see what the family dynamic was like behind closed doors and to say the least it was never pretty. Some seemed more dysfunctional than my own which as a child I didn’t think was even possible. They were just really good at putting up a front.

[Tonitos]

Yes pain is a pleasure