Can I have some advice about a potential promotion?

[Anonymous]

Regarding my managers and coworkers.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Kiss more ass, smoke less grass, make more cash

[Asker]

I’m serious. I actually need advice because I’m going through something at work right now.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm serious too. It's solid advice.
But without more details on your situation and what exactly you need help with, there's not much else to say lol

[Asker]

I want to explain it all here. Is that okay with you?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Absolutely

[Asker]

Thank you very much! It’s regarding my coworkers and managers

[Asker]

When I first told my coworkers about the fact that I considered becoming a manager within my company one day, everything changed. My relationship with them had completely changed they seem more reserved and somewhat arrogant towards me. In the past, I tried establishing a bond with them and still to this day do try. One of them tries to rub stuff in my face indirectly and bombards me with messages on if my managers as well as the department were pleased with my work, which got on my nerves, but I kept my emotions in check.

[Asker]

The reason as to why I told them was because I thought that they would support me with the decision. Instead, I’m being micromanaged and bossed around by them. They also try and take credit for the work that I’ve completed. There’s a lot more going on as well. I made all of my managers aware of my goals and there are two new managers in the department. One of them that acknowledged my effort had left the company and so he told one of the new managers about my expression of interest and they all said that I can talk to them about it; which I did. One of the managers said that they seem jealous and threatened by me and that they will make them both aware that I will be managing a different department, but I’m not sure when that will be or if this is technically considered a promotion for sure.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

When I first started my job 8 years ago, I reported two people for sleeping and they got fired. They happened to be black, so for the next year, EVERYONE hated me.
I was treated like shit and everyone thought of me as a racist rat, and no one wanted to work with me.

I shook it off, kept my nose clean and my mouth shut, and continued to be nice to everyone and do my best work. Now I'm very well liked and respected. I've gotten two promotions and everyone wants to work with me.

Your coworkers don't have to like you. Just keep to yourself, do your job and focus on your own goals. Whatever they have agaisnt you will either pass or end up hurting them in the long run, not you.

That's my best advice

[Asker]

One of the coworkers that has micromanaged me and bosses me around has talked shit about a few of the superiors multiple times and is complaining to me about how depressed he is because he has been working overtime and I handled the situation well by saying “You’re doing well, but if you feel as though you need a break, by all means take care of your mental health first, so that you can perform better.” He then said “I still went, I still did it. I worked because I had to.” And then I preceded to say “Well done. You did a good job for holding on to that many hours for so long.”

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sounds like you're doin just fine. You can always go to your supervisor if you're having major problems that effect your performance, but only if it effects your ability to do your job

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your advice! I really appreciate it! I’m going for two promotions myself. My boyfriend works in the department where my coworker works at and apparently the office manager complained multiple times about his body odour and my boyfriend also thinks that he doesn’t do a good job and it’s not because we’re dating either.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's awesome. Sounds to me like you're doing great! Don't change a thing. That guy is just digging his own grave

[Asker]

I will. I need to update my supervisor more on how he is trying to boss me around and micromanage me, when I am doing just fine on my own. I responded with “Thanks a lot for your ideas. I will consider them.” Whilst proceeding to add my own. I let my other coworker share her ideas, she feels less threatened by me right now, but she is still threatened. Recently she let me take charge in a way where I didn’t micromanage her and she could tell that I appreciated it. The department told me to tell her that she did a good job and I did. I told her that the department and I were proud of her. I also let her share her ideas with me freely and we both worked on our ideas accordingly.

[Asker]

Thank you very much! Can I go to you for advice in the future too?

[Asker]

I’ve also complimented staff in the department that have recently been promoted and I am currently looking up to them, rather than digging myself a deeper ditch. Their success motivates me to succeed too.

[Asker]

I’m wondering if they’re considering me for a promotion for real because when they told me that they were going to make my coworkers aware of my transition; that they were going to do it when they meet with all of us. Yesterday, they met him for the first time and he has been treating me like absolute dirt. When I asked my boyfriend if he thinks they told him his response was “I’m not sure, but the shoe seems to fit.” They didn’t speak to me about it when they saw me yesterday and I wasn’t going to bring it up either because I met one of them for the first time.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Right on. You sound like a pleasant person to work with to me.
And yeah you can reach out any time 😊

[Asker]

I’ve done a lot for both of these coworkers, both inside and outside of the company. It’s all on them and their own insecurities at the moment.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Exactly

[Asker]

Thanks a lot! You sound like a sweet and successful individual yourself. 🫶🏽

[Asker]

Also, right on as in you agree with my boyfriend that they made him aware of the promotion? They didn’t discuss it with me at all today, but supervisors from the other department are treating me with HEAPS of respect for some reason and I’m not 100% sure if they are aware of it at all.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's first time anyone's ever said to me 😢 lol

[Asker]

I’m serious. Positivity will always attract positivity back, no matter where it comes from, my friend! 🙂

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I don't know about any of that, you're probably right. Right on about the things you said to them

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yes it does! Indeed

[Asker]

The things I said to them as in?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

The stuff you put in quotes and everything after it.
Sorry I'm getting them mixed up lol

[Asker]

That’s okay. I haven’t told the managers about how I’ve recently been responding to them. This situation kind of knocked me off my equilibrium to the point where I broke down yesterday.

[Asker]

The male coworker is actually rude and annoying towards me. I actually wished nothing but the best for them.