How to deal with a whiny kid?

[Anonymous]

I babysit a 6 and 4 year old, the 4 year old boy whines about everything to get his way and will even scream and get loud. Half the time I try to talk to him he gets louder. Sometimes I can distract him but other times he ends up getting his way. This morning he wanted soda and I said it's too early, he tried getting in the fridge and I kept saying no yet he got louder and louder, I tried ignoring him because that usually will work but it didn't. I told him if he has breakfast as well then he can have some. He took like 1 bite of his cereal and refused to eat more. Is there a better way to deal with this kid where he won't scream and whine?

[8UniquelyBoring8]

It can be challenging to deal with a child who whines and screams to get their way. Here are some tips that may help:


1. Set clear boundaries and consequences: It's important to establish clear rules and boundaries with the child. Make sure they understand that whining and screaming won't get them what they want. You could also come up with consequences, for example, if they whine, they won't get what they want at all.


2. Stay calm: When dealing with a screaming child, it's important to remain calm and not respond with anger or frustration. Take a deep breath and speak in a calm voice.


3. Use distraction: Try to distract the child from the thing that they're whining about by engaging them in an activity or toy that they enjoy.


4. Positive reinforcement: When the child does behave well, praise and encourage them. This can help reinforce positive behavior.


5. Give choice: Giving the child a choice between two options can also help them feel like they have some control over the situation. For example, instead of saying no soda, offer water or juice as an alternative.


Remember, dealing with a difficult child often requires patience and consistency. It may take some time, but with persistence and a positive approach, you can help the child learn to behave better.

[comekitty]

His behavior continues because he's learned that he can win and have his way.

Consistency is important - if you mean 'no' then it's always 'no'. Children thrive when consistent boundaries are set.

It is easier and, I'm sure more peaceful, to give in but that teaches children that you don't always really mean 'no' when you say it and if they fuss enough you'll give in.

The behavior can be corrected but you've got to stand your ground. When he learns that you're not budging, his behavior will improve. You are the boss - not the other way around.

Good luck to you! 🙂

[caring__1]

He continues the behavior, as he's discovered it works for him. Never reinforce dysfunctional patterns. Give him positive attention for positive behavior, and remove yourself from the situation if he's choosing negative behavior. Withdrawal of affection has greater impact on people than power struggles. Go in another room and close the door. When he calms down, come out and give him positive strokes for being calm. Be a role model and show him what does work rather than constantly complain about what doesn't work. Kids just want attention... they'll take negative attention over no attention.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Ignore him, stay strong, talk with the parents.

as long as he gets what he wants he will continue with this behaviour.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Important thing is to get the parents on board.

[chicken_nugget24]

My mum used to lock us in a room or outside for hours😖

If I have kids, I'm gonna have a soft play room and they can have their fit there 😂

[Agape93]

Let him go hungry