Hey quick question?

[mrsweird]

I'm a 22 year old female and I've been stuttering since primary school. My parents never cared and I got constantly bullied. I still live with my parents and I've been working in a factory for years even though my actual dream was to be a teacher. Also I stopped seeing my friends after hs graduation because always changing words with another word, staying silent and speaking the shortest sentences so I won't stutter, made me exhausted as hell. I don't know what to do, antidepressants made me dumb af, and therapy is expensive. What should I do?

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Um helloooo?

[FunkyMonkee]

Practice not stuttering.
I'm not sure if recording yourself would help but, it might. Record yourself talking or reading out loud and then play it back and when you get to a stutter point, pause tape and try to say that word without the stutter. When you do it, continue to the next one.
Or, try to talk slower. i was just listening to a video about 8 hours ago about James Earl Jones. He developed a nasty stutter when his family moved from Tenn. (or was it Miss?) to Mich. (I think) and he eventually overcame it and, although the video didn't say so, I think he did it by speaking slower. Listen to him today and notice how he tends to speak a bit slower than normal.
There used to be a famous country singer, Mel Tillis, who had a nasty stutter when he was just talking but, once he started singing, there was no stutter to be found! Maybe you can try singing to practice not stuttering.
There was another country singer, Shug Fisher, who had no problem talking or singing but he did this really funny bit where he did stutter and it he was even put into a Tom & Jerry cartoon singing that same song.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/7W5ka9M6oTEhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/_FyJyurljoM

Or, you can listen to others talking, like older comedy albums where they tell stories rather than just rattle off jokes (Jonathan Winters, Bill Cosby, Phyllis Diller, etc., maybe Shel Silverstein's "Where The Sidewalk Ends" or "The Giving Tree".) and try to mimic what they say and it might "force" its way into your normal manner of speaking. Maybe some poetry records and you just try to mimic what they say.
Can you do accents? Maybe try using an accent and see if you still stutter that way. If not, try talking that way.
There was an episode of The Addams Family where they tried to teach Cousin Itt to speak clear English by putting marbles in his mouth. I've heard of professional speech therapists try that and had great success with it.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/IIdNGQL1rUQ

[mrsweird]

Thank you for your comment! I'll try out the tips 🙂

[FunkyMonkee]

I hope they work.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You don't need either, I think your stuttering is coming from anti social problems, you think too much about opinions and what you are saying so when you speak, you stutter, if your anti depressants are effecting your mental health them maybe take a break from them at the very least.

[mrsweird]

I don't think it's just that because I overthink due to my stutter. Like I know people who's so much more anxious than me but they speak perfectly. Also my dad had it too so it's in the genetics too. I don't remember a lifespan of mine where I spoke perfectly.

[ChicoFromThe305]

So you naturally stutter? It's a speech impediment I think, you should practice speaking to yourself and trying to fight off the stutter, like a form of your own therapy or class to stop yourself from stuttering, but to be honest people should accept you for the way you are, don't hang around immature people that make fun of it, they are clowns.

[mrsweird]

I did so many speech exercises but they don't really work actually so I gave up on it, and I stopped seeing my hs friends mostly because of that reason cuz they would mock when they could. Therapy is the only way, I just need the money for it

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I think until you can afford therapy don't listen to exercises online but create your own, try yourself to find any way to put words together without a stutter, try with 2 words together then 3 and keep going, but practice 2 words for a while then move to 3, these are just examples, according to your stuttering you'll know what to try, and those aren't friends, they are children, find the same maturity as yourself in friendships.

[mrsweird]

Thank you 😊 I tried many ways but they didn't work, guess I'll just wait until getting more money😅

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep or maybe while you wait you'll learn to embrace it, either ways, love yourself and best of luck and blesses to you 🙂💯

[jennifer_bloom]

I think if verbal conversation makes you tired, try digital friends and reduce the time you spend on a verbal conversation. There might be people who also are looking for friends that could offer you emotional support.

[mrsweird]

Thank you but having online friends made it only worse for me, and I have it since I was a kid so I know that won't be easy to fix

[DryGermanGuy]

Obviously go to therapy! I am sure there are financially reasonable solutions. And you should involve your parents to support you. I find it weird they are so oblivious.

[mrsweird]

Haha they literally want me to get married and leave😄 Maybe I might just find a rich husband so he will afford my therapy money 😅

[exitseven]

Look into medicaid. They will get you a specialist and the government will pay.

[KrakenAttackin]

Have you explored treatments for stuttering?