What do you think about people who have work spouses?

[Simslover92]

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11 mo

Just to clarify, I mean what do you guys think about people who call their work friends "work wife" or "work husband" while at work?

[TycheKairos]

That they need order, that they need someone on the path of life, and that they have children so that they don't get bored...

If the right people have found each other, there is no problem. We can't blame anyone for being normal.

But I think people who marry at an early age and have children are too ordinary, thoughtless and backward for a world like this.

I would rather not get married until the age of 30 and strive to achieve their dreams and get somewhere.

The unnecessary reproduction of unnecessary people in the world is too much.

Under a similar heading, people cry because they can't find a job. The main reason for this is the population crowding

People who come into the world do not deserve to feel inadequate, worthless, unqualified.

So they don't have the right to do that just because someone is going to play house.

[Simslover92]

I agree but I think you misunderstood my question. I'm asking about people who go around calling their friends from work their "work wife" or "work husband."

[TycheKairos]

I can help if you elaborate a little more. Husbands and wives who are married and working?

[Simslover92]

No. People who are not married to the people they work with where they call each other work wife and work husband at work but are not married at all. They just call each other that even though they may have spouses at home.

[TycheKairos]

I heard it for the first time, it's ridiculous and wrong. So if a man and a woman call each other "husband and wife", that's wrong.

[Simslover92]

I feel it's inappropriate if they have spouses at home.

[TycheKairos]

Yes, it is inappropriate in this sense.

It can be said superficially, but there is no need, it is disrespectful to the actual woman.

[Simslover92]

Yes it is indeed and the husband if the woman is calling another man husband at work.

[IslaTheWitch]

for me, it's too close to emotional cheating, and from this point, it's easy to do the next step...

[ManInChains]

If they’re both working who is with the kids? I think one of the parents should stay with the kids idc if it’s the mother or the father but most people I talk to believe it’s the mother’s role as caregiver and women don’t seem to want to be caregivers let alone homemakers let alone care for their husbands like their supposed to

[Simslover92]

I agree 1000% but I meant people who call their friends at work "work wives" or "work husbands". Sorry for the confusion in my question.

[ManInChains]

Oh, sorry 😅 I think it’s kinda silly to be honest. It is one of those things that shouldn’t mean anything and is just meant to be funny. However if I had a girlfriend and she told me she had a work husband that would bother me and I’d probably consider it cheating

[Simslover92]

Yeah I think so too and it would bother me too if my boyfriend said he had a work wife.

[Zbrody1997]

It needs to stop if they have a S. O. It’s disrespectful to your real spouse.

[Simslover92]

Thank you. I definitely agree!

[mrbug_kun]

What is the meaning of "S. O"?

[Zbrody1997]

Significant other

[Dinklex3]

If you’re single, it’s fine… If you’re in a relationship I think it’s weird and disrespectful.

[DishLady]

A lot of people have that... It just refers to the person who has their back no matter what in the workplace. It has nothing to do with sex or attraction. It's most common in very hectic, stressful professions.

[Simslover92]

I think it can be disrespectful if you have a real wife or husband at home though. It's kind of weird to call someone that at work when you have a spouse at home. Why not just call them "work bestie" instead?

[DishLady]

It’s true. I used to think the same thing till one day my boss’ wife came in and smiled and hugged me for being “best office wife”. (They’re not from here so I just thanked her politely and went about my business, knowing she meant it in a good way — that I’m supportive of the projects and the team, blah blah blah. Basic stuff.)

But you’re right in saying “Work BFF” or the equivalent (more platonic), which would have made me personally feel much more comfortable with the title.

(Also, some people do take the association much too far and in those cases I agree that it’s very disrespectful… folks should know better.)

[Apple1996]

That's just really weird. Glad my husband doesn't work with women so it's impossible for him to have a work wife

[Simslover92]

You're lucky though my boyfriend said he would never call any woman he works with that.

[Apple1996]

That's good

[BarryLiverstone]

Seems normal. They are at work all week and start to trust and rely on someone else while there day in and day out. Obv it’s just a friendship as they don’t have romantic feelings

[Simslover92]

Some spouses might not see it that way though. You don't think it's kind of disrespectful to call them that when they have a spouse at home?

[BarryLiverstone]

No I don’t. It’s not the same as an actual wife or a husband. It’s just a term.

Now it can become disrespectful if the workers start spending lots of time together outside of work. Also if they are communicating and sharing personal things after work. I see where some lines can be a bit blurry but again it’s mostly innocent as a better term would be “work bestie”.

[Simslover92]

Yeah I think a better term would be "work bestie". I wouldn't want my husband calling some other woman a work wife no matter how innocent it may be.

[BarryLiverstone]

But could your hubby say that you are his best friend? At some point words are just words and meant to be descriptive

[Simslover92]

Of course but I believe words/terms have power and it can lead to other things if not careful. I just don't think calling someone a work wife or work husband is the best thing when one is married. If single, then it's fine.

[BarryLiverstone]

And that’s why each married couple can negotiate and decide what’s best for them. We wouldn’t wanna all be the same, right?

[Simslover92]

That's true. But I think many would agree it's not very appropriate.

[PeachyPie93]

Stupid, you shouldn't be getting that close to a person of opposite sex at work, especially if you are married or have a partner.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I think that's something you should ever do if your in a relationship but if you not in a relationship then it's all good

[Simslover92]

I agree.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You know what they say intelligent minds think alike

[Simslover92]

Haha yep!

[itsclearlynicholas]

I think every country needs every average able-bodied tax payer paying those taxes and working 9 to 5

[itsclearlynicholas]

Excluding those unfit for work as defined by each country's laws

[LiamS95]

Sounds a bit weird to me especially if they are married in real life.

[dolemite58]

It’s dumb to be so close to coworkers in any context

[Xia1994]

Sounds disrespectful to me… 😭

[Simslover92]

Same.

[bowenw]

I'm okay with it when it's just a joke.

[Simslover92]

Yeah and not married.

[bowenw]

Not married, just a fun thing to say.

[DrPepper12]

It's so normal among teachers it doesn't raise an eyebrow.

[RedInnocent69]

It’s fine. Sometimes it’s the actual spouse that uses it…

[KrakenAttackin]

Nothing good comes from this. Nothing.

[jahaims]

Stupid concept

[Simslover92]

Yeah I don't understand it myself.

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Too gutless to leave their real spouse.