How do you feel about work wives/husbands?

[Poppymarie]

While I don’t think these situations necessarily indicate cheating, I would definitely be uncomfortable if my partner had a work wife. To me it feels like it blurs boundaries when you start calling someone else your “wife”, even if it’s just joking.

[ShellyB]

I have heard this used to mean more like, work best friends who are male and female and do little things to help each other for example if one of them goes to a meeting without their laptop charger and the other one notices they may take the charger to them or whatever. I have not heard it used to mean anything actually romantic, no kissing or anything like that just a level of "best friend" type connection that is less common between men and women except in a relationship.

Maybe that is not really what it means but it is how I understand it. I am saying that bc I think a lot of people are reacting here as if it means it's a romantic relationship at work.

So the way I define it, I think it is borderline OK although risky bc it could easily lead into other stuff. If it stayed like I described it, that would be fine in my opinion but it reminds me of friends with benefits in the sense that one or the other may want something more.

I do not have a "work husband" but I kind of have "work dads" "work moms" "work uncles" "work aunts" I work w older people and they tend to be caring and protective of me in those types of ways although we don't use those terms for it.

JMO!

[arodriguez664]

I'm not sure if it's cheating, but I would be highly uncomfortable with being called a "work wife". Unless it was someone I was super close to and of the same sex. I also think being called wife in any capacity would make me uncomfortable because of my fear of commitment 😅

[Andres77]

The example in which I am most familiar with the concept of a work/spouse would be male and female team on a radio show. They have to have really good chemistry. They have to appreciate each other. They have to understand each other, and they share a public life on the radio.
There’s one locally where both the man and the woman have both been married twice and I think the man is divorce the second time. They watch each other’s kids grow up. They talk about their kids, their home life on the radio just about every day, but in this case it would seem that there is no sexual connotation and that it’s purely professional.

This would be the healthiest example of a work spouse that I can think of

[Andres77]

https://bobandsheri.com/

[KrakenAttackin]

"A shoulder to cry on becomes a cock to ride on".

[Andres77]

@KrakenAttackin as I've told my daughters, "human nature says that if you think you can get away with it... you're gonna do it."
Unless one has great character and discipline and integrity. But it's foolish to bet on one having all that consistently over time.
The example I gave, they have so many people watching that it would be harder for them to get away with it. The "Hawthorne effect" comes into play.

So my example is an extreme exception. This quote, for 99% of humanity is quite accurate and reliable.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Andres77. Well said.

[asphaltrhymes]

Lol that photo in the question description is hilarious and relatable. Lol. At least they're smiling. That photo makes me feel good about them, and that under the surface, I'd say in reality that work wives husbands are either stressed out or only staying together because divorce would be expensive and who gets what who gets custodies etc etc 🥴🥴🥴

[God_of_Thunder]

I've never even heard of such a thing until just now, but it reeks of being completely inappropriate.

I would never engage in such behavior, nor would I accept my partner doing so, either.

[Anonymous]

never heard of it. but that sounds stupid. i keep to myself at work because everyone around me is an absolute moron. if someone was in this situation, i'd think their marriage is in not a good state or they're assholes. and actually i do think that is considered cheating.

[Jamie05rhs]

That is not a legitimate relationship. Not acceptable under any circumstances. If you think it's okay to have that type of relationship with someone who isn't your spouse, then you shouldn't be married.

[Simslover92]

Yeah the thought of my boyfriend having a "work wife" just rubs me the wrong way. I don't think it's cheating but it just doesn't seem right to call someone that at work.

[Crankor]

Nah its not cool to even have pretend spouses. It becomes a psychological mishap of that person absolutely having feelings for them eventually.

[ohsheeT]

No when your married your married it's the wrong thing to do.
Hmm but I'm single and you have me thinking I need a GaG wife lol

[BoopBoopBeep]

I love my work wife. My significant other's work husband is a pretty good guy. We all go out for drinks together.

[LazerBean]

It's something only done by people in no relationship or in a poor relationship.

[Miristheiss]

Semi cheating, inappropriate and not to be tolerated.

[billmunch]

That's fine with me. Even if it turns into sex, I wouldn't break up.

[worldscolide]

Sounds like it's an invitation to cheating which I do not support

[mommymommymommy]

Really makes you wonder why marriage is really necessary at all, doesn't it, right?

[LiamSawyer]

Is a work wife even a real thing.

[asphaltrhymes]

It's a modern crazy world out there 🤣

[KrakenAttackin]

Nothing good can come from this.

[KrakenAttackin]

If you are in a committed relationship, than be fucking committed. Don't put yourself in situations where cheating becomes more likely.

[EaterPeter]

Much better than most real husband wives