Work wife/husband?

[Anonymous]

How do you feel about the topic? I’ve been married to my husband for nine years we have a pretty good marriage over all but today while he’s showing me some video on YouTube he gets a call he immediately sends it to voicemail… not normal for him, he’ll typically mute it but let it continue to ring. Then he continues to show the video when a text pops up and says how rude to ignore your work wifey. He pushed the message away quickly I’m sure he didn’t know I saw what it actually said because I have terrible vision but not when that close. I asked him what that was and he said nothing just his manager texting him.
What do I do? I feel like this is at minimum borderline cheating but am I over reacting?

[TheLoneTerran]

I really hate to use the word, but those types of relationships are so cringe worthy. Work friend is more than enough. And if you're spilling secrets enough that you hide your messages from your real SO, you're saying too much. And you know it's wrong because you're trying to hide it.

[Asker]

Thank you that’s what I thought but i didn’t wanna be the crazy wife.

[Anonymous]

Honestly I think it’s just plain cheating emotionally. I wouldn’t go and break up with them immediately. I’d just say stop I’m not cool with this. The toxic part of me would need access to the phone after that though. Praying my fiancée never does that shit, such a hard place to be in.

[Vendela]

Most definitely. Makes you seriously wonder if they've been doing more than just "paperwork" at the office. Sad.

[Asker]

I definitely don’t want to be hasty and break up after being together so long, I’d rather work things out. I’m so beyond hurt over this, I get he works with girls that are younger and cuter than me but I’ve given 100% loyalty all these years from when he was a gym rat till now that he’s put on a few, I’ve never judged him and always supported him. I don’t understand where something like this could come from

[Vendela]

You are definitely not overreacting. Having a "work spouse" is for single people only. The amount of disrespect to be that close with coworkers while in a relationship is unfathomable for me.
The second thing you should be worried about? Him hastily pushing aside her phone calls and messages. He's definitely hiding something, and I'm not the type of person to just say that without much context. He's been thinking about cheating if he hasn't already.

[Vendela]

I wish you the best of luck in this situation, 9 years is a long time to be married, just to be lied to and betrayed.

[Asker]

Ugh it’s so hard my heart hurts I’d never treat him like that if I felt the need to step out I’d tell him something was wrong and try to fix us because that’s what our vows were. If we couldn’t be fixed I’d split up but cheating isn’t it. 😢

[Vendela]

My heart really hurts for you. I was fuming while reading your post, being unfaithful in relationship is something I have no tolerance for and cannot even begin to fathom.
There is a chance that he's not cheating, but he knows this behavior is risky and is still doing it. Either way I wish you the best, I really do.

[Asker]

Thank you. I appreciate your comments knowing I’m not overreacting made me feel a little better.

[Vendela]

And please listen to me when I tell you, if you decide to confront him and he tells you that you are overreacting, something is definitely wrong with him. Like these are serious red flags

[1smcguire1]

Nope your not over reacting. You need to nip that shit in the butt. If he hasn't cheated on you he's going to. If he has cheated. Divorce his ass. No marriage counseling, no bullshit. If he did he broke rule number 1 "don't break the trust rule" he won't be able to go get a gallon of milk by himself without you thinking he's out cheating. Some of us guys actually can stay happy having sex with one woman. So be up his ass, his phone, his office. if he hasn't cheated and you find out who the slut is grab her by the back of the hair drag her out the door and beat her ass let everyone know why.

[spartan55]

It's likely nothing, but that work wifey shit annoys me to no end.

[JamesRandiDebates]

You need to up your sex game. Don't let him leave for work without emptying his sack.

[Asker]

I don’t need to up my sex game, he can’t have sex right now due to injury he had surgery for but before hand we had no issues in our sex life, I’m the more adventurous one and I indicated 5 of 7 days a week prior.

[JamesRandiDebates]

You can either get to sucking your husband's cock, or you can continue making excuses while he gets his needs met by the bitch at work. Your choice.

[Asker]

Your such a jackass. I can’t help his medication after surgery gave him E. D but yeah place the blame on me

[JamesRandiDebates]

Even if his dick won't get hard, he will appreciate you sucking on it.

[bamesjond0069]

Why women shouldn't be in the workplace. Smh.