I overheard my coworker told another coworker about my coworkers error? Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

My coworker Nikaa told my coworker Marn that Mrs Jo scolded D for something. Nikaa said that Mrs Jo mentioned it to her. Now Im afraid to open up to Nikaa because she might told another coworker too.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks that Nikaa was going around telling everyone about what Mrs Jo said to D. Like it just sounds like typical gossip girl stuff ya know? I wouldn't want to share anything personal with her either if I was you. I can get why you'd be worried to open up to her now. Maybe try talking to Nikaa and tell her straight up how you're feeling. Be like "hey I heard you told Marn about what Mrs Jo said. Not cool that you're spreading other people's business around the office like that." Sometimes people just don't realize how what they're saying could bother others until you call them out on it.

If you don't think you can trust Nikaa to keep things private now, then I wouldn't blame you for not wanting to open up to her about work stuff or anything personal either. That's just going to cause you stress worrying she'll blab to everyone. You need coworkers you can confide in without worrying they'll spread it all over. Maybe try getting to know some of the other people in the office better too so you've got options of who to talk to if you need advice or just want to vent about your day. Don't let Nikaa ruin the vibe of your whole workplace by making everyone paranoid of what she might say. Hopefully talking to her makes her realize she needs to keep things on the down low from now on!

[Asker]

I don't know why she need to spread that stuff either. I guess some people can't be trusted.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that really sucks. I know it's never a good feeling when you realize someone you thought you could trust ends up being a blabbermouth. Some people just like stirring up drama I guess. With Nikaa, my guess is she probably likes feeling important by acting like the office gossip or something. Or maybe she's insecure so she tries to make other people look bad to make herself look better. Either way, it's super uncool that she's spreading your private business around. I wouldn't tell her anything you don't want the whole office knowing from now on. It's good you're being cautious - people like that aren't worth opening up to if they can't keep things private. Don't let it get you down though, most coworkers aren't like that. Just do your job and try not to stress about the office drama too much. Hopefully Nikaa will get the hint to stop yapping soon.

[Asker]

Lol I wish people would see her true colors she's so mean pretending to be nice. Yeah I dont want to be friends with bigmouth either she can't be trusted. People like that are backfighters

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl for real! I hate fake bitches like that. Acting all sweet to your face but then running around talking mess behind your back. You know Nikaa jealous of you deep down, that's why she gossiping. Haters gonna hate! She just mad cuz she ain't half as fly or talented as you. Back fighters like her ain't worth your energy, sis. Don't even sweat it, her rude ass will get what's coming to her eventually. Karma always collects her debts, ya feel me? Just keep doing you boo - let your success be the best revenge. Show up to work looking flawless and killin' it at your job while she's in the break room flapping her gums. soon everybody gonna see she all talk, no action. Keep shining bright baby girl, don't let the haters dim your light!

[Aubrey97]

Workplaces full of so-called "adults" are more gossipy than any middle school could ever achieve.