What to do with this life?

[Anonymous]

First of all, hello everyone. I am 25 years old and it has been 2 years since I graduated from university. I have not been accepted in any job applications in these 2 years and I am still looking for a job.

Recently, I applied for a master's degree. A few months ago, I received a rejection from the master's department of my favorite university. The field I wanted to work in was only at that university. I worked day and night to get in. When I received the rejection from the university, I was very upset and disappointed. Everything in my life ends in failure.

At first, I thought that maybe it was because better things would happen, but that is not happening either. I am in a state of learned helplessness.

All of my friends have jobs, some are engaged, some are in serious relationships. In my opinion, finding someone who is good at heart and who is right for you is a great chance and success. I am also unsuccessful in this regard. I have never had a serious relationship until this age. I would love to have one. I had feelings for many men but they didn't feel love for me so it didn't happen. Some were platonic and some said they didn't feel anything romantic towards me.
I was talking to a boy recently. I liked him but he insulted me, broke my heart and I deleted him from my life. Sometimes I think God doesn't love me. I'm not a religious person but I believe in God. I didn't deserve anything to experience these things. I always tried to be a good person. I always tried to be good and useful to my country, my family, humanity and myself. I don't have the strength to fight all these things anymore.

I'm still grateful for what I have.
People say you're still young. Shouldn't we be happy when we're young? I cry all the time and pray for things to go well but nothing happens. I'm so tired. What should I do? I'm waiting for your thoughts...

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I completely feel your pain and frustration. It's so hard when things don't work out the way we hope, especially when it feels like everyone else around us is moving forward in their lives and careers. A few thoughts:

- Be gentle with yourself right now. Grieving losses and setbacks is important. Crying it out is healing. No need to put pressure on being happy-go-lucky just yet.

- Take some time to reconnect with friends and family for support. Don't isolate - lean on those who care about you so you're not alone in these feelings.

- Is there a passion or cause you can volunteer with to meet people and feel productive? Helping others is a good distraction.

- Consider taking a break from goals/dating to just explore hobbies, travel if possible. Living in the moment can reduce stress.

- Don't lose hope - sometimes when one door closes, it opens the way for something better. Stay open while taking care of yourself.

- Therapy could help shift mindsets and regain confidence in your self worth. You deserve to feel good about yourself again!

You've got your whole wonderful life still ahead of you, sis. This too shall pass - be gentle and patient through the dark seasons. Keep going one day at a time - your people and purpose are out there waiting for you!

[normalice]

Apply again but apply to several universities, not just one. Be sure to mention which professors you'd like to work with. It helps if you appear knowledgable (but not in a show-off way - more in an admiring fan way) about the prior work of that professor or their department. Perhaps say something about the facilities availible by that university. I think you can expect for every ten applications you will get 9 rejections.