I don't know what to do with my life?

[RebeccaC]

I feel like I keep failing at life. I keep getting fired cause of stupid issues and my state is an at will state so if you just happen to get sick twice in 2 weeks you're gone cause they can do whatever they want to you. I'm still living with my parents cause it's been hard to get onto my feet. Still looking for a job and I'm afraid of turning to trying to sell myself to try to make money. I can't keep living with my parents or going nowhere. I mean what will my future boyfriend think of me if he would find out how useless I am. I don't want to work fast food or retail. I mostly work in warehouses cause they offer better pay but its been harder recently to find jobs. It sucks do much. If anyone has advice please. I need somthing. I don't want to go to my parents cause they'll just be disappointed.

[Anonymous]

You mentioned that you don't want to work at fast food. Is that because you're allergic to their foods? Then what is your diet? I think you just sound stressed out overall. Have a good rest, and a good diet will help you reduce stress levels and make better choices.

[RebeccaC]

I just hate fast food. Fast food is garbage food in a work place that's 99% of the time toxic as hell. I've heard all kinds of horrible stories and fast food is not a place where you can work your way up. Fast food is always a dead end job

[Opinion Owner]

speaking of horror stories, do you like knowing how the politicians are getting revenge?
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[RebeccaC]

Ugh. No. Idc about politics. I don't follow news or politics online.

[ohsheeT]

Okay look it first of all you're not failing in life because there is no such thing remember when you were 1. 1 1/2 two and you wanted to learn how to walk you stood up you took a couple steps you fell down and you got back up and you did it again and you fell down and you got back up and you did it again life is exactly the same way when you are ready to walk you will be ready to walk

Your parents probably give you too much freedom and don't challenge you that much or maybe they do I don't know but it all comes from within

You say you want your own place you want to move out well how bad do you want it you're going to have to get a job and make that money but if you get lazy one day and don't want to go to work and then you get fired well when you have a house you can't do that because you have that house payment

You say you would like to have a boyfriend well how bad do you want to get f***** how bad do you want to feel it how bad do you want him to take you to the Moon because when you want it bad enough you go out you'll get a job you'll get a house just so you can get that feeling just so you can get your brains f***** out

Now I'm just going to take a wild guess here but it doesn't mean that I'm right and it doesn't mean I'm trying to be rude or anything I'm just trying to be straight to the point I bet you like to masturbate a lot so you like to stay home a lot because you love that feeling true or not well if it's true then you have to figure out a different way you can still have a good job a good house and masturbate a lot we all do it LOL that's funny but it's true I can tell you a couple things to motivate you but I mean it's up to you

[RebeccaC]

First. I understand and i agree with most you said. Second, I want to have a boyfriend cause I want to spend my life with someone, and share it with. The point of getting a boyfriend is not to get my brains fucked out.

[ohsheeT]

That makes total sense to me but then on the other hand why would you want to sell yourself I understand to make money but I mean there are so many ways in this world you can make money it's unreal and they're all legitimate I mean selling yourself that is legitimate too but what does it do to the inside of you what's to make you feel I mean I understand you have to do what you have to do but you don't have to do that and you don't have to get a boyfriend to take care of you you have two feet two hands a mouse eyes and a brain if you're not going to use them you might as well just get the s*** f***** out of you and sell yourself I mean I don't mean it the way it sounds but maybe in a way I do

[ohsheeT]

I have one of my best friends and she sells herself and that's her business but I watch what it does to her you should every time that she goes out and meets one of these guys and she makes hella good money and she has a new car and she has a house and she takes care of her kids but I'm watching a destroy her because she's too f****** lazy to go get a real job that's all I'm saying

[RebeccaC]

I'm trying to get a real job. Day by day I send resumes and applications but it's a challenge just to get a job that pays min wage. And that's dirt money.

[ohsheeT]

Well I'm not sure what you meant by dirty money but in around about where you're right because these big businesses I don't care who they are they're overhead and their profit margin definitely do not balance and they definitely make more profit and they definitely should keep the people that keep them going going if you know what I mean with higher wages no I understand what you mean I mean it's stuff out there if you could reinvent yourself to run your own business that's the way to go but then once again you have other headaches but it's still well worth it what are you good at doing

[Screenwriter]

What are you skilled at? What do you like to do? Those are two factors that could lead you to job satisfaction.

Also, there are training programs for women and other minorities who would like to get into the trades: plumbing, carpentry, HVAC, electrical work, painting contractors, culinary school.

These jobs provide lifetime work, benefits, unions and excellent pay. You could also get trained in computer work. Also jobs with benefits and good pay.

There are other types of jobs in horticulture and landscaping where you can earn online certificates showing you've studied to learn the basics.

If none of the former careers appeal to you, have you gone to college to get a general degree: meaning, you've studied math, English, taken a science, history or other courses that give you general educational skills. A bachelor's degree offers entrance to some managerial roles. People with bachelor's degrees make more money than those with only a high school education, except those in the above trades.

Find out if there are any other training programs in your area that involve young adults. Contact your community college to find out more.

[RebeccaC]

Skilled at? I don't know. I'm a good problem solver. But who isn't. And I work hard. Again who doesn't. So I don't know. What I like to do is create thing. Either it be stories, art, or whatever it be. Unfortunately I'm colorblind so I can't do HVAC, Electrical, medical, cook, engineering would be challenging, actually painting jobs. Being colorblind fucks you over.

Computer work is Hella confusing, I'm so stupid for that.

[Kaneki05]

I mean you really bothered about doing a job just do any whether food or not. You can't really be picky. Or just don't work shrugs.
Do what ya want. And don't worry what others think, there are people who aren't bothered.

[RebeccaC]

I have to find a job where I can move out on my own or I'm living on the streets. I'm with my parents still. I hate that

[Anonymous]

I think your future boyfriend will look at you even more disgusted if you were to become a prostitute. So I’d avoid that. Second, you’re barely 23. There’s a lot of people twice your age or older who still can’t get their shit straight. I’d consider that obviously whatever you’ve been doing for the last 5 years you change that as it has t worked out for you after all this time.

[LiamJHayden]

1. You are not useless. Stop that thinking that way.
2. Whatever job you work, learn to invest. Be diligent and you will be able to develop income streams that require little to no work. Yes, it takes time, but you'll be the same age in ten years if you do not do so, so you might as well build.

[Blinko35]

Don't sell yourself for a little extra cash.. simply because as men we value purity, meaning the lower your body count the better your chances to get a good guy, where as if u got a higher body count 7+ a guy will most likely still have sex with you but most likely won't commit... It sucks but that's how it is

[RebeccaC]

I can't ever find a job anymore. 😒 I'm just not good at anything in life.

[Blinko35]

please don't do that don't sell yourself short cuz trust me it can be worse

[BoobSlayer]

@RebeccaC What makes you think you would be good at being a sex slave? Do you have nice honkers or any sexual skills like face sitting?

[RebeccaC]

I doubt it's hard. I have a pretty good chest. And no gag reflex so. Yeah.

[BoobSlayer]

@RebeccaC I'm intrigued by your confidence

[RebeccaC]

At the end of the day that's what matters

[Anonymous]

Try working for a non-profit and stop trying to serve corporation. They will dispose of you when they don't like you. Non-profit are disorganized but a lot of them put people first because the owner gets money from the government and has no profit insentive.

Again they are disorganized and sloppy, but its mostly a chill ass job with less stress and less kissing people's asses.

And your boyfriend won't care if you work at McDonald's or not.

[RebeccaC]

Wouldn't a non-profit job not earn me a whole lot of money though? I can't expect a boyfriend I. The future to pay for everything. With the way the world is I want a good enough job to pay for 50%

[Opinion Owner]

It's less money, but most people leave the corporate life and work for the government or a non-profit because corporate is not sustainable.

It's not you work at a company for 40 years and get a pension and retirement those days are gone. They will fire you before you get to retirement. There's unions and if they don't like you they get rid of you.

As long you have enough to do what you are want to do you are rich.

And your boyfriend won't care if you are a millionaire. As long as you are a kind feminine woman. Just make a decent to okay income to save up.

And you're in the same situation most early 20s are in. So you're not alone. The housing market is crap.

[RebeccaC]

I decent amount of money to make is 50k. Thats decent in today's world. I don't expect a man to make over 100k, heck. Idc if he's making 30k as long as he's working on getting better just as I am. I don't put expectations onto people that I don't also expect of myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly you'll have joint income when you meet a guy. So just work a chill ass job with good benefits. You won't be making 30k forever your pay will go up over time. Nobody likes the corporation and that's why they have a worker shortage. People are quitting and moving to cheaper countries to enjoy life and not work to the bone-serving corporations with no benefits.

[Opinion Owner]

Your mid-career pay will be higher than when you start.

[RebeccaC]

True. How would I find a non-profit job?

[Danny_dan92]

Ask why they are letting you go to see if there’s a trend. A common reason why, then upon identifying that problem. Fix it

[RebeccaC]

I've tried. Many times. Sometimes it's that they didn't like me questioning their authority or that I called out sick 2 times in a month. I like to work but I always try to improve how things are done and not just blindly follow orders. I'm not a robot to be commanded. I love to solve issues and find better ways to do stuff. Bosses hate that when a employee isn't a good little sheep flock to do his bidding.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah you’re not wrong.

Maybe it’s your approach or method in which you do this.

Instead of bringing up ideas or suggestions to see what they think. You just do them, bosses and management in any work place don’t like this because naturally people that hold those positions have a chip on their shoulder because of their position not only that they could also have experience. Maybe they once were in your shoes, so the same ideas you might have. They could’ve also had those ideas once and realized they aren’t ideal.

[RebeccaC]

Maybe but I'd at least want to work with them. I always hate the leadership role cause they act they rule you rather than work with you. I much prefer a leader that works with their employees side by side.

[Danny_dan92]

Those leaders are very rare. Like I said, most people in leadership roles have a chip on their shoulder. I adopted the best traits from all the different leaders I’ve had and from the feedback I’ve received I make a good leader.

You have to be compassionate, considerate, understanding, supportive, hard working, motivational and driven

[RebeccaC]

So I just have to do whatever they say like a good little employee and just suffer though it?

[Danny_dan92]

If the things they are making you do are against company policy or are illegal you can easily take them to HR.

Note: Typically the second an employee goes to HR to submit a complaint on another employee you get put on the shit list. Unless the complaint is very valid and if they don’t act, that employee can sue tf out of the company

[jahaims]

Stop making excuses for yourself. A pity party gets you nowhere good. Do the things you need to do and stop being lazy.

[RebeccaC]

I not lazy. I work hard all the time. On everything I do I want to be the best at. But it ain't fair or fun when I just try to improve work at the work place and cause I'm not a good little work slave for my boss doing as he pleases without questioning I get fired.

[Iron_Man]

Keep moving forward

[RebeccaC]

How though. Everywhere I turn its a dead end. I can't seem to get good at anything in life that means anything.

[Iron_Man]

Seek out God

[RebeccaC]

Who's to say I'm not already a Christian.

[Iron_Man]

Well that is awesome. I’m glad to hear it. I hope it’s true.