Do you think its annoying to have a coworker like me?

[Anonymous]

Im admin assistant and I only talk when its only work related. I dont participate in gossips. I talk sometimes when they just ask me. I sometimes make small comments about someone. Say good morning/good afternoon when I first came in office. and say bye before I leave. I help my coworkers staple forms we need for hospital. Am I annoying coworker if I dont talk too much? Or Am I not a team player if Im too quiet like that?

[AI Opinion]

Your approach sounds professional and respectful. Not participating in gossip is generally a positive trait. Saying good morning, good afternoon, and goodbye shows courtesy. Helping with tasks like stapling forms demonstrates teamwork. Being quieter doesn’t mean you aren't a team player. Not everyone has to be extroverted to contribute positively to a workplace. As long as you’re approachable and fulfill your duties effectively, you’re likely seen as a valuable colleague.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl don't even sweat it! Sounds like you're the perfect coworker to me - professional, helpful, but not all up in everyone's biz.

The only ones who might think you're annoying are too juicy coworkers cause you don't feed into their drama. But trust, most people appreciate someone who keeps it work-focused.

As long as you're friendly when interacting directly with people and help out when needed, ain't nobody think you're not a team player just cause you're not all loud and gossipy all day.

Some of us just aren't chatty Cathy's, and that's okay! As long as the work is getting done and you can collaborate when it counts, who cares how much you yak.

So keep doing your thing, sis. Not every office babe has to be Besties 4 Life with coworkers. Some of us just clock in, get our job done, and dip - nothing wrong with that!

[Asker]

Lol I got reported for not talking because they felt like I dont like them and my superior said they were turn off about me and Im disappointed in myself because I can't please them because Im introvert.

[Asker]

I got a warning that if I didn't change my behavior she will fire me and Im sad cuz Im not accepted like there should be diversity in job.

[Asker]

Especially in hospital

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that really sucks they're giving you a hard time about being more quiet. I think it's total bogus they'd threaten to fire you over something like that. I mean come on, not everyone's gonna be some super extroverted, outgoing person all the time. Some folks are just more chilled and introverted, and that's totally normal too. Don't feel bad about just being who you are. Their problem if they can't accept people being different, that's like part of what makes a team work well is having all types. And it's not like you're not doing your job right or anything either from the sounds of it. It's super unfair they'd give you a warning over this when you're just trying your best. I'd say don't even stress trying to change yourself to please them. If they really fire you just for being a bit more on the quiet side, then they don't deserve someone as good as you working there. You'll find somewhere that appreciates you for you, and that's what really matters. Don't let them get you down, you seem chill to me!

[Asker]

Well yeah Im also scared because Im always the one who is always get blamed for things when I just help people. I just can't explain why Im always the one who is always get blamed and Im edge of quitting and Im also get anxious when my superior want to talk to me in private that means Im in trouble again like next week on Sept 25 she wanted to have a meeting with me again and other coworkers like right now Im so anxious like what would she say will she blame me for things again? Will I get blamed for being aloof again? Im so scared.. I don't know what to do is it my last day of work in 25 like that...

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's really tough. I can't blame you for feeling anxious about that meeting coming up. It doesn't sound fair at all that you're always the one getting blamed for stuff when you're just trying to help out. Makes total sense why you might be feeling scared about what your boss will say next time.

If it was me, I think I'd try talking to your boss before the meeting. Be honest about how the constant blaming is making you feel not appreciated and stressed out. Maybe have some examples ready of times you got blamed for things that weren't really your fault. Stick up for yourself but stay respectful too.

You could also let them know you like your job overall but feeling like a scapegoat is making you consider quitting. Hopefully putting it out there directly will make them listen better in the meeting. If things don't change after that, it's probably best to start looking around elsewhere to work where you'll feel more supported.

Try not to psych yourself out too much beforehand. Easier said than done, I know. But you've done nothing wrong, so don't let them intimidate you. You got this! Let me know how it goes. I'm sure things will work out one way or another.

[Asker]

Can you answer this? Is it my fault? Or the person who got swabbed? ↗

[Oliverlogan263]

Sure

[razelove]

You sound like the perfect co-worker. I want to do what I'm paid for at work and nothing else.

If we could work together for over a year and I don't even know your last name, and forget the first sometimes, I'll think fondly about all the conversations we never have sometimes.

[Asker]

Lol I got reported for not talking because they felt like I dont like them and my superior said they were turn off about me and Im disappointed in myself because I can't please them because Im introvert.

[Asker]

I got a warning that if I didn't change my behavior she will fire me and Im sad cuz Im not accepted like there should be diversity in job.

[Asker]

Especially in hospital.

[razelove]

Sue for wrongful termination if that happens. Ask what they expect you to talk about. I have worked so many manufacturing jobs to get away from women who are like that and work with guys. At my last one me and my female coworker could be quiet all day and work, the manly man manager wanted to talk.

Also try making those employee events mandatory. I asked to be paid for it and got left alone.