Is it smart to work two jobs, one being full time, do overtime, go to school and raise a two year old?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say the father is in the child’s life as well but you two just aren’t together. Would that make it easier.

[Kaneki05]

One can work to death ya know? Not saying that will happen but it will for sure bring a lot of stress and that can come with many issues, it's not a smart idea to overdo yourself if you don't have to.
Money don't mean much if your health is in the gutter. And that's just talking about yourself, we aren't even talking about the psychological effects your kid can have from your absence. Which I am sure is a worse thought.

There is a reason why Kaneki got a split personality ya know? There's a reason why the exorcist is a tale that's not really about a demon but the fact that Regan's mother is always busy with her job, so Regan does things for attention, and the end of the story is her mother realizing she needs to spend more time with her daughter.

And yeah these are characters, but these ideas come from real psychological effects, and kids can pick up on your stress too giving themselves it.

[AaronKrieger]

Look, my mother had three jobs while in nursing school and had three kids to take care of (thankfully one was a teenager). My parents were also separated by then, so it definitely is possible, but I would not recommend it.

My mother barely sleeps due to stress, is a workaholic, and has amazing willpower which helped her succeed. However, it did affect her parenting and relationships. So, I would do school part-time and look into ways that the school can be flexible with you. Take advantage of resources they offer

[IslaTheWitch]

I was raising two kids, worked one full-time job, studied in college and revived my university studies at the same time... I did it for one year only (as I finished college) and lived with my husband... but tbh I don't remember much from this year... I lost one year of my kids' lives...

but I didn't have much choice... so I would probably do the same... :D

[IslaTheWitch]

and no... it's not smart... but sometimes life doesn't give you many choices...

[Asker]

So in other words it depends on the circumstances. It would be easier if the dad is helping out. Like you said you had your husband which took some stress off vs being a single mom and doing it all.

[IslaTheWitch]

even if... i still lost this year from my memory... too much is too much even if you have help... we have one life... it's better to treasure it... and enjoy it...

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sounds exhausting. Burnout sounds imminent

[Anonymous]

Probably not. You’re going to stretch yourself thing. You’re going to breakdown mentally. A lot of women have a hard time as it is being a single mother that’s why they always go after men for child support. Men really don’t so we don’t usually seek child support if we have the child. You’re going to expect him to change his routine so you can go to school, work an extra job. I’m not sure how that would sit w him.

[beefcakebradybatson]

No, it's part of 2024 life for far too many folk.

[Asker]

i mean sometimes you have to do what you have to do to provide for your child and getting an education and more money can do that but then you have to consider what you’re sacrificing. Time with your child. Someone else raising them. Not getting to experience their milestones. The little time you do have all you can do is feed them and bathe them. So it’s something heavy to consider. All accomplishments and success comes with a sacrifice but I guess you have to ask yourself is the sacrifice worth it? It’s like sacrificing your rent at the casino. It’s a catch because you have a chance of winning but you also have a chance of loosing and you loosing is far worse outcome.

[Asker]

Currently I work a regularly full job overnight. I’ve been doing over time so I been working from 10:00 pm past my scheduled 6:00am shift into the morning. I’m also in school to be a hiring manager. I’m now doing an internship. I question it sometimes and consider giving up because my daughter is two and she needs me more than ever but I get encouraged a lot by friends, family and co workers. They always give me a kudos because they say I’m doing something tough and most people can’t juggle it especially with a child so it pushes me to keep going. It’ll pay off in the end I’m sure but the days are tough.

[jahaims]

You need to make sacrifices for your kid. Time with your kid is the most important thing now.

[Lokiion]

I would argue no