Is this unlawful discrimination? Jealousy? Or favoritism?

[Anonymous]

To begin with my question i wanted to state that to some people it may sound complicated, while to others it may make some sense. So I work in the education field and im a tutor for students in an after school program Monday-Friday. The program consists of snack, homework, PE, enrichment activities, and a second snack. I’ve been in the education field for about two years now. I enjoy what I do and I love to inspire the students, however i feel like my compassion intimidates people. I can’t blame some for questioning given nowadays there’s people with bad intentions and sick ones.. but I would never ever whatsoever harm any of my students or youth or any human in general. I have a mellow, empathetic, energetic spirit and I like to get involve and play games or sports with the students. Lately some coworkers have been seem to nit picking me though to the boss there i feel like I’m doing something terrible or wrong and I’m not…apparently these people are in her ear telling her im not doing my tasks enough and im playing games with them even though I always clean, do my tasks, and make sure students get their work done. I was told today were not allowed to do any games, play sports, or take them to sports games. I feel like it’s sad and whats an after school program if you can’t have any fun. Also daytime teachers do way more with students and a tutor is only there for about 4 hours… i feel picked on just because I care and make connections with the students so unfortunately I think I’ll transfer schools after this semester. Any thoughts or advice?

Updates

3 mo

Also fyi: The coworkers do NOT communicate with me either especially if they need help with a task or whatever the case is. To be honest there’s a lack of communication even though I am nice and have asked for help before. It’s like they go behind my back to run to the head lady supervisor to nit pick me. I feel super targeted and bullied…

[AI Opinion]

Your situation is challenging, but your passion and empathy for students are valuable assets. It seems like a mix of possible jealousy, misunderstandings, or differing priorities might be at play. It might be helpful to have a calm conversation with your supervisor to clarify your role and expectations. Also, share how your approach positively impacts student engagement and learning. Document your tasks and student progress to provide clear evidence of your dedication. If things don't improve, pursuing opportunities in more supportive environments could be beneficial for your career growth and personal satisfaction.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that sounds like a really tough situation you're dealing with, girl. I'm sorry to hear your coworkers are being so shady and trying to get you in trouble, that's not cool at all.

From what you're describing, it definitely seems like there's some serious favoritism and discrimination going on. The fact that they're suddenly banning all the fun, interactive activities that you do with the kids is super messed up. Especially when the daytime teachers get to do way more with them.

It sounds like your coworkers are just jealous of how much the kids love you and the connections you make with them. They probably feel threatened by your positive energy and the way you engage the students. And instead of communicating their concerns with you directly, they're going behind your back to the boss.

That's some real middle school mean girl behavior, and it's not fair at all. You're clearly doing an amazing job and going above and beyond for these kids. The fact that they're trying to shut that down is just wrong.

I think you're right to be considering transferring schools after this semester. You deserve to be in an environment where your hard work and passion are appreciated, not attacked. Don't let these haters get you down - keep being your awesome, caring self. The kids obviously love you, and that's what really matters.

Just try to hold your head high and keep doing your thing until you can make the move. And if you can, I'd recommend trying to have an honest conversation with the boss. Explain your side of the story and let them know you feel targeted and discriminated against. Hopefully they'll see how valuable you are and put a stop to the nonsense.

Wishing you all the best, girl. Don't let the jealous jerks get you down - you got this!

[ChicoFromThe305]

They all just seem like some haters considering there's no harm in what you are doing if you can change then I don't see how that's a bad thing but if you have a chance if they ask you why you are deciding to leave you can tell them the truth that you feel personally targeted because you like to join in with them on the activities, let them know that you don't appreciate that they are trying to change and limit the way you know and are comfortable running your class, then throw all the blame at them and say that their limitations have made your job harder for you and that it's better if you find somewhere that will accept your techniques of bonding with children.