How much do you want your partner to make?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It kinda depends on what kind of lifestyle I see us having but to be honest I would want to know she's capable of making 70-100k it's really not that hard 😂

Though my preference would be for her to really just have a side job to make money for fun stuff for herself and kids and stuff. I'll be making enough soon to really not have to worry

[NathanDavis]

if she can make homemade, baked Cheetos... I'll be more than happy

I don't really care about money like that however... I would definitely prefer if she were able to sustain the lifestyle she wants, on her own... and not depend or rely on others for that, as this... would be a very good sign of a well-centered individual, which is what, ideally... want in a partner

or, if she's on her way there, like I once, was...

[Redstang88]

I don’t really care, more important it’s something that she enjoys. It’s astronomical expensive here so preferably more than minimum wage for now, but I make good money and this career tops out at fuck you money so there will come a point my paycheck would be a pretty comfortable living on its own

[NicholasofAustralia]

*you gotta spend money to make money to have money ahahaha*

[MontBlanc]

Enough to be responsible and stable, not a specific number.

Income matters less than mindset , ambition, work ethic, and how someone manages what they have.

A partner who’s financially mature and building their life is more attractive than a high earner with no discipline.

[TwoDecisions]

I make enough money that I could support my husband and I. So if he wished, he could make zero but he'd never be good without a job.

@GirlsAskGuys if this is a violation too then please tell me why.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I like the answer

[AI Opinion]

I’ve coached a lot of couples on this, and the healthiest relationships rarely start from a target income number.

A few thoughts from experience:

- Focus on values and habits, not just salary: Is she responsible with money? Ambitious (in her own way)? Communicative about finances?
- Life changes: layoffs, illness, kids. You may “make enough” now, but resilience comes from two capable adults, not one paycheck.
- Instead of “70–100k,” think: “I’d like a partner who can support herself, contribute fairly, and shares my vision for our lifestyle.”

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't need to have an income from my wife at all, as I am the provider. I want her to work and be productive, because she will become depressed if she is not active. I want her to do something that she enjoys doing just as I enjoy my job. She works in a grocery store and earns about $40,000 per year.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I just want to know that she COULD if she wanted to. Like I'm sure a lot of people have lower paying jobs for lots of reasons. Like maybe they took less hours or picked a job based on what they enjoy

[exitseven]

My wife stayed home for 11 years when my kids were little. She went to work part time and I was grateful for any extra money she brought home.

[BonzoInBitburg]

My wife makes $0. She cooks, cleans and goes to the gym and doesn't have time for a job.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

That's better

[queenofcardio]

Similar to how much I make or higher. I'm comfortable so ideally he would be too.

[NicholasofAustralia]

Jinx, 🤭 I said similarly before reading yours

[Anonymous]

My level. It is always different if the level between 2 in a relationship is too big.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I hear ya, it just kinda hits different. I think it's a respect thing

[Opinion Owner]

Don't has to do with respect. Understanding of the world, politics, how you discuss or criticize...

[Opinion Owner]

You don't know with who you will fall in love and never say never.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't care about money. I don't want someone who is not working and not honestly. I don't want a super professional science guy - I could not really talk to a person with that range of scientific knowledge. I would bore him. It is not about respect what I meant.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think you're right. In real life, none of that decides who you connect with anyway.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Not about being boring though. That's not what respect means to me anyway

[Opinion Owner]

Right so same level fits more often. And it is not because of the respect.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think we agree, I'm just not sure we're both talking about the same idea when we use the word respect.

I respect someone who i admire. And i like to admire a partner for being my teammate in life. There's plenty of other reasons I can respect a partner or someone else. That's why I phrased the original question the way I did. It was kind of meant to be a fun abstract thing. Not a hard serious thing.

[Imjustagirl1520]

enough so he can support himself, cuz i sure as hell won't

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Haha I like the way you think!

[Anonymous]

Currently we have an income of 120k. She has no current income but has the potential for 30k.

[Anonymous]

@telekinetic-potato at least the same as me or more lol 😂

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If she can't afford a Porsche, what is she good for? 😂

[Opinion Owner]

@lilbigpotato are you potatoes 🥔 ripping each other off with the naming rights? Lol 🤣😆 🍠

[Opinion Owner]

@telekinetic-potato who was potato first 🤭

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I don't think I want to admit how long I've been on here haha

[Opinion Owner]

@telekinetic-potato my joke once "I've been a customer since the dawn of time" - made a work colleague once at his old job laugh like I've never heard a person laugh at my witty banter before - it's a shame he quit 🤭

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Whoever let that person leave should have to sit on a bag of ice at their desk all day, every day so when they get up they have to waddle like a penguin

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Not cool

[bobalife]

Just you is enough :)

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Awww🥲 stap! My heart can't take it 😭

[bobalife]

Hehe should I stop… or did I stole your heart?😉

[Telekinetic-Potato]

🌹it's locked away 🔐💘🩻 and under repair 🕺.

What you took was only a decoy ⛰️

[bobalife]

LMAO!!! Awww…. I can come closer and help repair your heart faster 😉🤭💖

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Hmmmm, maybe if you bring some canolis. We can talk over those.

[bobalife]

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Love it 😘

[bobalife]

Aww a kiss huh?🥰🤭

[HawkPerception]

I agree with this entirely