Was I too harsh setting boundaries with this chronically ill teen?

[Smileygirl2000]

So, I am a one-on-one care provider to a young lady who has a heart condition. She is in 10th grade. She is mentally capable. There is nothing wrong with her in that area she's just physically a sick child. So her teachers have been trying to help her succeed and provide her with a good amount of time to get work done. So when we got to her class, she had none of her work done. Her teacher asked her why, and she came up with excuses. I've been personally noticing her on YouTube watching cartoons during class. So I told her teacher she hasn't been doing her work and has been watching YouTube videos. He sad thank you so much for that because I was feeling bad like is it me or is she taking advantage. I told him no, she's taking advantage. Then, in her next teacher history class, she had her earphones on watching YouTube while he was teaching. I told her ," Please be respectful of your teacher. You should not have your earphones on while he's teaching. If you fall behind in class, I will not be staying after school with you until you complete your work. You'll either have to repeat the class or your mom will have to come." Like I get she has a heart condition, but I feel at this point she's using it to get over on her teachers and to take advantage. At this point I'm starting to see the kid differently and not desiring to be their one on one as there are other kids who would love to go to school and learn that don't have the opportunity

[RavVid]

Yeah good on you. It is more than schooling she is missing. It is having work discipline because school work is work.

It was good you didn't protect her because a future boss will just sack her lazy ass.

So help someone else if she won't be helped.

[OlderAndWiser]

There is nothing good that comes from excusing this behavior.

[Smileygirl2000]

Ok so I was well within my rights? Yeah I don't want the teachers to be easy on her such as let her pass just because she pulls the "sick kid card". If she keeps it up I will not be working with her

[OlderAndWiser]

Right. Your job is not to get her a free pass.

[Tamera952]

No not at all. Her behavior is not acceptable, regardless of her condition. She has to bring something to the table, so to speak. Headphones and videos in class is indicative of her not holding up her end of the deal.

[7Phoenix7]

Not at all… kids need to be taught what’s important.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been caring for her

Im sure you did the right thing we dont know her like you do im sure you tried talking to her first about it
I probably would have let her parent's deal with it first
Or I would have talked talked to her about her future

And how she is going to live a healthy life but she has to start preparing for it now
And I would have explained to her your her care taker and you will never give up on her so dont she fucking dare give up on herself

By telling her teacher is another bump in the road depending how he deals with it

[Lliam]

No. You did the right thing. If she doesn't want to apply herself, she has no right wasting everyone else's time.

[msc545]

You need to have her see a mental health professional. This sounds a lot like depression that you have not recognized.

[Smileygirl2000]

1. Her mom needs to do that. 2 . making excuses for her will only give her more reasons to think she can disrespect and take advantage. Her behavior was not appropriate at all.

[NathanDavis]

you're doing your job... that's all

[Nikki1989]

No, I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

No you weren't