This is about my own experience, someone else's experience can be completely different. There are different types of narcissist's and they don't have to be the same.
1. They are there for you when it comes to stuff but not there for you emotionally.
My dad and my sister usually ignores me or laugh at me if I'm hurt and my mom talks about it all the time and tries to use it against me until it drives me crazy. For example if someone in school is mean to me, according to them I'm either overreacting or it is my fault.
2. Blaming stuff on you
They can never be wrong. So a lot of times it's your fault. My family members always finds excuses for their behaviors. My mom used to tell me to apologize to the people who bullied me because I deserved it.
3. There is no bond
You know that thing where you can go and talk about almost anything with your parents? That bond you see a lot of friends have and on TV have with their parents? Well, that doesn't exist here. If you tell them a problem you have they will make it worse or blame you for everything.
4. They lie and manipulate
They will make up both unnecessary lies for fun and manipulate people for fun or to gain something. My mom gaslights a lot. (Gaslight=manipulate, fucking with your head leaving you confused). My dad mostly ignores me but they all do that stuff pretty often.
5. They don't show normal remorse
Let's say you fall and get hurt or you are in the hospital for something serious, they don't really care. If someone dies they usually smile. They don't care if you die and they let you know nobody does. They also love to see people in pain and they will abuse you.
6. They act nice
They will never be nice to you for NO reason, it's always to gain something. But they can also be nice of course, they are really good at being nice when it comes to giving stuff but never emotionally.
7. They will talk shit about you
They will talk shit about you and make up stuff so you look bad and the same with your friends because they want you to argue.
These are my experiences, can you relate?
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