Do You Have A Frenemy
Hi guys and girls!!!! Today I will be covering some ways to spot a fake friend. A Frenemy is someone one identifies themselves as a friend but they are actually your worst enemy. They will come across as very friendly but demonstrate signs of resentment, jealousy, envy, and hate. I lost a friendship of ten years because she was a frenemy. The only thing I wish I could have changed was the time I spent in that friendship. She sought to destroy me and I almost allowed it until I learned the difference between a friend and foe. So hopefully this take will help you spot a frenemy. Please tell me about your frenemy in comments. If I left out anything out from this list please leave your examples. Let's gets started:
1. Never Happy For You
Did you just win the lottery? Anyone would be happy for you and celebrate your luck but not a Frenemy. This person will manage to find something wrong with any good news. Their response will sound like "Good for you too bad you have to pay all those taxes and don't get the actual dollar amount." Nothing you do will ever be good enough to impress this person.
2. Don't Listen
Do you have a friend who manages to talk for hours and you never get a real chance to speak. This person does not care about anything you have to say and will constantly cut you off, change the subject back to themselves, or make excuses to get off the phone whenever you are talking. For example, have you ever been on the phone listening to a friend talk and as soon as they finish, suddenly they have to get off the phone? You only listened to their problems and didn't even talk about yours. You never do. Then when they do decide to listen, it's unresponsive and dull. For example, they will start talking to other people while still on the phone with you, play music, literally stop listening and ask you to repeat, or say "that's crazy" after every sentence.
3. Very Critical
A Frenemy will find fault anywhere and with anything. They will have an opinion about everything. Did you lose 15 lbs and buy a new outfit just for your bestie to say "ehhh people would like you better if you were skinnier". This person is perfect at manipulating you into feeling inadequate. If you feel constant criticism coming from a negative place then it is a red flag to not ignore. "You Are Not Pretty Enough"
The Frenemy will attempt to ruin you if given the opportunity. They will try to get you fired from jobs, kill your other friendships, end your romantic relationships, cause chaos within your family, steal opportunities, steal belongings, etc. They want to see you fail by any means necessary.
5. Gossip Queen/King
The Frenemy will attempt to skew others views of you. They will say anything to make you look like an undesirable human being. They will exaggerate stories you told in confidence, lie about you, start rumors, etc. They do not want you to be seen in a positive light and will do anything to ruin your reputation or social status.
6. Compulsive Liar
The Frenemy will lie and exaggerate any story to get close to you. They will tell you anything to get close enough to you. They will lie and say they have the same interests or commonalities to create a false connection. You will constantly catch them lying and whenever you bring it up they make you the bad guy.
7. One Upper
This type will respond to any of your experiences or problems by telling a similar story that either has a more fantastic ending or a more catastrophic ending. This is their attempt to let you know that they are better than you. They think they make better choices, experience things better, etc.
8. Never Apologize
The Frenemy will never apologise. No matter how wrong they are they will never acknowledge fault and never take accountability for how they make people feel. This type has a hard time intaking new information.
This Frenemy can not be trusted or depended on. They are incredibly flaky. They will make and cancel plans randomly. They are never available when you need them. And they have no problem letting you down.
This Frenemy is typically a narcissist. They only love themselves. They will critique anything and always have an opinion on something. They have grandiose sense of self and inflated ego.
This Frenemy wishes to be you. They will take notes, stalk social media, and will ask you imposing questions to help create the best duplicate version they can.
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