How do I deal with my boyfriends dad constantly glancing at my boobs?

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I have noticed my boyfriends dad several times looking at my boobs/ cleavage. I don't want to sound conceited but I do have pretty big boobs and I don't necessarily try to show my cleavage off but with the size they are sometimes it just shows. About a month and a half ago I had a little incident in the pool in front of his dad. We were all at their house having a cookout there were several kids there that I was playing with in the pool. I picked up one of the little boys above my head in the shallow end and the other little boy that was in the pool reached up at me to pick him up and when he did he grabbed a hold of my tube top bikini and pulled it down all the way to my stomach and I could not quickly coverup because I did not want to drop the boy. I tried to use the little boy I was holding to block the view of my boobs until I could set him on the edge of the pool because he could not swim. My boyfriends dad and neighbor saw the whole thing and I know they saw my boobs. 

My boyfriend and the rest of his family were inside I told my boyfriend what happened and he just thought it was funny. Ever since that day I've noticed several times my boyfriends dad looking at my boobs and it's starting to get a little weird. I've not said anything to my boyfriend about it because it's pretty awkward for one and I'm not sure how my boyfriend would take it. 

What should I do in this situation? It doesn't matter if I'm wearing a shirt that shows cleavage or just one that's fitted to my body he still looks. I don't necessarily want to start wearing big baggy T-shirts like a hobo but I don't know what else to do.

SüßeJäger · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I don't think you can stop him. Maybe you could tell him to stop and embarrass him but he still will sneak a peak when nobody is watching. So he will still do it just less obviously. That's just part of being a guy when there is a beautiful woman around. Now, it can be trained out of us but most guys don't bother. I have trained myself not to look at other girls just out of respect for my gf. Even if they are a little less than fully dressed. Even at that though, I don't think its 100% effective, maybe 95% but its so deeply engrained in us, its very tough to do. Don't think that Im saying its ok but it is what it is. If a guy does train themselves not to look like I have, it is beneficial to us too. You feel less like you're a slave to beauty but still love it, and its impressive around your SO and she appreciates it and makes her feel good which I love to do.

Crash_Bandicoot · Accepted Answer

Talk to your boyfriend about it, if his Dad is really making you uncomfortable then you need to be open with your boyfriend, maybe he will talk to his Dad about it, if he doesn't then princesswitch's comment about catching him out with a firm "hey my face is up here" comment will embarass his Dad so much that he won't look there again.

You should feel comfortable enough to tell your boyfriend these kind of things, be open with him, you should eb able to tell him anything. He won't judge, it's not your fault after all.

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

Men will be men.

I've caught my partners Dad staring at my ass as I am walking away.
My partner sees it and finds it funny.
He admires attractive women of all ages.
Yeah, it's creepy to know a much older man is looking at you that way (especially your man's father)
But as long as he is not acting inappropriate by suggesting things to you or touching you, let him look.

PinkAcid · Accepted Answer

Tell your boyfriend so he can have a word in private but if he keeps doing it or your boyfriend doesn't want to say anything just call him out on it, you shouldn't have to put up with his dad perving on you it's disrespectful and creepy. Tell him what princesswitch told her exes dad

princesswitch · Accepted Answer

I had a similar problem with an ex's dad. I just called him out on it with the "my face is up here" thing. He got really embarrassed and turned all red but I never caught him doing it again.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That would be the most uncomfortable thing ever talk to ur bf and maybe he could talk to his dad even tho he might not like u after or want to deny the whole thing.

Ezio1981 · Answer

Call him out on it and embarrass him. He won't like it but he won't do it again. No guy likes to be embarrassed like that

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

catch him doing it and make it obvious. embarrass the shit of him and make him feel shame

jacquesvol · Answer

It was funny, indeed. Don't get worked up over it. Ignore it. Many more other men will look at your boys too (certainly did it since you were 16 or so, thus you're supposed to be used to it by now)

jessieswims · Answer

tell your boyfriend to ask his dad but not to tell him you asked then find out why and hopefully your boyfriend will explain to his dad that I makes you uncomfortable

funkadelic5 · Answer

Why is this a problem? Someone likes looking at attractive young girls, god forbid.

mario1321 · Answer

Next time tell him too take a picture, in front of his wife and son

Anonymous · Answer

put up a rule like he has to pay 100 bucks if he stares at your boobs

Anonymous · Answer

May be its hot. Why do you care anyways

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