My boyfriend's dad stares at my chest when I talk to him?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, living together almost 2 years. Anyway, I met his dad the first month we started dating.

So, his dad blatantly stares at my "assets" when it's just me talking to him sometimes... one time, when he was talking to my boyfriend and walked out of the kitchen, he looked me up and down with my boyfriend right behind him! I was shocked that he was so bold! My boyfriend didn't see.

I don't mind the attention, especially since my boyfriend and I have had a rocky few months. The stress of work and school are eating at me and him not helping around the apartment and giving me attitude/anger out bursts doesn't help. I don't mind his dad staring at my bust or anything but... am I supposed to respond to this? Like I really don't know how to. I have acted indifferent. He has not passed any boundary either. Ain't gunna lie, because I miss my boyfriend giving me that kind of attention, part of me wants to tease him. He won't act on anything, nor will I. At least, I strongly feel he won't. But, is it wrong to have a little bit of innocent fun? To tease an old dog who hasn't been with a woman in years? Or... should I act "offended" at him looking at me?

[DaniaMQ]

First of all, if your boyfriend is treating you like you want to then TALK to HIM about it. Dont go thinking about his DAD. and that's not called innocent fun, coz its not innocent tbh. And second this, sorry but how is he not supposed to look at your breasts when you are putting them on display? At least when you are around him you might want to wear something a bit more covering (if you dont want his attention). And in my opinion, I think you should stay away, dont tease at all or you will end up losing your boyfriend. Again, TALK with your boyfriend about the things that are stressing you out and all and try to find a solution. Good luck,:)

[Imfemale]

Honestly just because your boyfriend doesn't give you attention that doesn't mean you should "tease" his dad! That's stupid and wrong. Tease your boyfriend and try to work things out with him. If your boyfriend finds out then that's the end because it's gross to do something like that. In my opinion that's my version of cheating because of your intentions. Try talking to your boyfriend before you do something that can possibly end your relationship. I don't know that's mine opinion and it's truth. Try to think of your boyfriends feelings on this tho

[BuchitaBuchys]

You can't "act offended" as you clearly enjoy the attention.

Most women don't like that kind of attention but you seem to enjoy it. So I don't really get this question, as you pose it as if it's a problem, yet your details seem more that you want to be a tease.

I think in a few weeks you're going to make a follow up question "I slept with my boyfriends dad?" And you'll probably say it was supposed to be "harmless teasing" or whatever, and that you "didn't mean to".

[BuchitaBuchys]

You sound like a bad girlfriend though. Maybe your relationship would be better if you put less effort into teasing the dad and more effort into teasing your man? That may help? Or maybe you should at least talk to your boyfriend? Perhaps break up as he can do better than an attention seeker.
Teasing is borderline cheating or even cheating depending on how far you go, and especially with his dad? You're freaking gross and desperate

[Asker]

So, I'm a bad girlfriend supporting myself and my boyfriend, living paycheck to paycheck, working full time, going to school full time, cooking, cleaning, handling all the chores; while my boyfriend does nothing? Except, play video games all day, stay up late, won't spend time with me, and has anger out bursts and tantrums when he gets mad with whichever the wind blows. Hu, guess I am a bad girlfriend then.

[Asker]

On the contrary. Most women dress more provocative than I do. I've seen girls that are my age who walk around in shorts that expose thier button, flesh and all. Let's not mention tops. My shirts don't go nearly as far down as the girl in the picture. I dress classy, not slutty. The real question you should be asking is why does a girl with no history of cheating or casual sex now even consider teasing someone who is treating her nicely? She works full time, goes to school full time, takes care of all the cooking and chores, supports her boyfriend while she lives paycheck to paycheck. Does that sound like a girl who would do something like that out of the blue? What's the boyfriend on the pedal stool, everyone is glorifying doing? Anyone think to ask that? Is there a cause and effect here? Hope that points you in the right direction.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Blah blah blah. You're a terrible girlfriend and he can do better

[hmmmmidk]

''most women dont like that kind of attention'' then why are their so many of them in prostitution costumes?

[BuchitaBuchys]

@hmmmmidk yes because prostitutes represent the general female population
-______-

[hmmmmidk]

wow that comment flew far over your head lol

[BuchitaBuchys]

@hmmmmidk my response flew over your head

[hmmmmidk]

so now you are going to play this game? lol alright... what did I mean when I made my initial comment?

[BuchitaBuchys]

@hmmmmidk bye Felicia

[hmmmmidk]

yep i knew it lol bye

[BuchitaBuchys]

@hmmmmidk

[hmmmmidk]

lol..

[ciitruskiwi]

He's your boyfriend's dad. Teasing him is wrong. Imagine how your boyfriend would feel if he found out his dad was checking out his girlfriend and his girlfriend was letting/teasing his dad. The only thing you do is tell your boyfriend that his dad has been checking you out and also tell him that you miss the attention he used to give you. Communication is key in a relationship.

[1988fido]

Don't u dare to tease him.
Also Better to shut the door completely and try to wear more modest clothes there
But also have open transparent conversation with ur boyfriend discuss when this period will pass so like 1 month he will finish project so u 2 can resume lovely fuzzy action.

Also make him comfortable give him bj or take him to bedroom for a massage and talk chat discuss worries issues all that. His father thing tell him another day about it not same this conversation. Say it bothers u a bit

[Asker]

I'm the one with work, projects, school, manage chores, the house hold, cook, clean, etc. All my boyfriend does is stay home and play video games all day. I've tried talking to him. He has a mental break down. As for him getting "past" his issue... ya... not gunna happen any time soon. I'm his freaking care taker. I do everything and get no appreciation in return. I only considered it because his dad actually appreciates the things I do a tiny bit. I'm so tired of everyone rushing to his defense like he's some sort of hero. Maybe if people read more than my thoughts of teasing, they would give me more advice than call me a slot and condemn me. Half of them, I'm sure, how been around town and with more guys than me. Honestly, I don't usually "consider" things like this. But, I'm trapped in this situation. I can't do anything about my boyfriend. Except hope he stops throwing tantrums... for example, tossing his cane all over the place at a local pool hall because his shots kept sucking.

[Asker]

Talk about embarrassing and risking me paying for damages on my already currently living paycheck to paycheck supporting us both, income.

[1988fido]

Look I am
Sorry
But pm me I explain
I am not defending him
But u only
Said he is distant.
didn't specify why

So we assume normal
Thing that happens life comes in between couples every while

Am here to help u not to judge u or him

Am random idiot from the net get nothing in return but helping there make me happy :D ok?

[Asker]

As for my "history" I've only been with as many guys as I can count on one hand. Never cheated once. Never considered "teasing" anyone until now. I've never had casual sex. Only in my relationships, which are usually a few years long. As for provocative dressing, I don't wear slutty clothes. I wear pajamas at night. I wear figure flattering clothes sometimes and an occasional tank top. My skirts are knee length. I'm even overweight. So... why would I even want to show that much? Lastly... I only have so much cleavage because of my weight. They make clothes weird up top, can't help that.

[1988fido]

U should have mentioned these things
Not the fact u tempted o tease his father.

Now never do that coz it's cheating and erease the thought in ur head

Ur boyfriend sound like becoming a loser if not already one.
That's why must have he talk please. The talk is important and be clear also frank.
See a psychologist for him
Or couples therapy whatever u feel u want to do to fix this otherwise if u don't feel like fixing it leave him

[tflo95]

You're walking a very thin line if you do that. As you said, he's an "old dog who hasn't been with a woman in years". If you start teasing him, he may think you want some as well and it'll prompt him to act further than he is right now. I know it would for me. It's also kinda fucked up to do that just because your boyfriend doesn't do it as much anymore. That's not the right answer.

[Asker]

It's much more than just not "getting it enough". More like a "distraction" from my boyfriend being an ass, while I work my butt off to support us and go to school. I guess I feel like it's a little bit of pay back for him doing nothing, except play games all night... while I work, go to school, cook, clean... and he yells at me and things for getting a little bit upset. Or if I try to wake him up to spend time with him. I don't feel appreciated. His dad at least says thank you or complements my cooking. That's probably why I over look him staring at me.

[tflo95]

I get that. But that doesn't justify doing what you're asking if you should do. You talk to your boyfriend about it then, not take your frustrations out by sliding a titty out for dad. I'm sure dad will appreciate it, but that's not going to solve any of the problems you just listed.

[tflo95]

Thanks for MHO!

[godfatherfan]

that is NOT "innocent fun". Not only is it disgusting behavior on your part but if I was your boyfriend, and I found you did it intentionally, I would end the relationship immediately. Just because his father is a douchbag doesn't mean you lower yourself to his standards. If he is willing to do that to his son's partner, then yes, if you show willingness you can bet he will act on it.

[natured]

I don't know, if you show your cleavage like the woman on the picture then i think every one would stare, man or woman or even a dog would stare, it's a normal thing to do if half of the boobs are hanging out, i love shirts like that, trust me, but i dont wear them around my boyfriends parents out of respect, and my boyfriend loves me for that...

[Asker]

My shirts are no where near that short. I dress modest but classy. Only wear tank tops as an undershirt most of the time.

[UnknownXYZ]

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If my son's girlfriend has a rack like the girl in the picture, I would be staring too.

[bella75]

wrong to tease. that's obvious. don't you dare
maybe the whole ''him looking' situation is precisely BECAUSE you tease. Got your cleavage on display? Hike your boobs with push-ups? Go braless so have visible pokies?
I have zero problem with any of those things, but yes to even one of them means you're inviting the looks. But what's the big deal? You're a girl and he's a guy. Would be a little weird if he DIDN'T look.
An actual physical or verbal move on the other hand... way not cool.

[KrisPW]

If you find the attention fun, and your boyfriend is unconcerned about it, then no problems... You do need to keep your boyfriend in the loop though.

I have a flirty fun relationship with my guy's dad. He's cool with it and isn't concerned by either of us. Comments during hugs, or little whistles, all in good flirty fun.

[Topaz171]

Ok so let me list some things here:
1.) Why don't you tell your boyfriend what's going on?
2.) you can't really act offended if you just said you enjoy the attention
3.) DO NOT tease his father. That is wrong and disgusting on so many levels. You may think that's innocent fun, but shit can escalate real quick if you don't stop. Not only that, but what if your boyfriend caught you doing that? That'll put your relationship in danger

[Popo21]

He probably doesn't realize that he's looking. Sometimes, people look without any sexual thoughts lol that is pretty slutty of you to want to "tease him" just because you don't get enough attention from your man, doesn't mean you should be that desperate. Your boyfriends dad should be like a father figure to you
Where do you think the term father in law comes from
Have some respect abs don't tease
He'll think you're a slut

[Paultripp7221]

Many girls "think" a guy is looking when he isn't. Make sure of that. And tempting his dad makes you kind of creepy so avoid that as well...

[CheerGirl38139]

Teasing a man with no intention of doing anything with him is a bogus thing to do.

[Gmwatling]

Well firstly what size are your breasts, because as a guy it is a massive turn on when we see see woman with big breasts. Also how much are you showing of them if you were showing a lot in front of me I would definitely be looking at them, hope this helped a little

[JSmuve]

I'm predicting we're gonna see a question along the lines of "omg I had sex with my boyfriends dad?" sometime in the next few months.

[John182]

Get a new boyfriend, one that has bigger aspirations than playing video games all day. Chances are he will come with a better dad lol

[Anonymous]

You're a freaking slut for even thinking of doing something like that... gross!

[Anonymous]

Do not respond. Do not flirt or tease. Ask your boyfriend to have a talk with his father about being so obvious about it.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Neither. He's an old dude looking over a hot young girl. Please just leave it alone lol

[Anonymous]

Dump boyfriend, have sex with his dad who sounds more use as a partner.

Ok I might be biased as the old guy answering this...

[Asker]

Unfortunately, I don't think that would fly. And to add, he might stare at me.. but he doesn't seem to respond to me if I complement him. He doesn't say anything about it but man he sure acts nervous sometimes, around me. It confuses me. Maybe it's just in my head. But he gets usually observant when I sometimes bend over to pet the cat.

[pooper89]

Don't go there. You're risking your relationship by doing that. Think before you act

[zagor]

Ignore him. He may not even realize he's doing it.

And as someone else said, sometimes girls think guys are looking more than they are...

[Anonymous]

They are quite big I mean if I was him I would be aswell especially when there's cleavage, but then again I am 22 my hormones are all over the shot

[oldoldold]

issues 1 how my boyfriend is treating me

issue 2 do I respond to a new guy paying attention to me

[Asker]

Good break down of my problems.

[oldoldold]

just dont mix them up. they are not related.

[Asker]

They are, if you think about it. Significant other treats you bad... so, you feel trapped in a bad relationship. With broken self esteem, someone treats you better, you might start to wonder if you have a chance to forget your issues or something better. If you do research, you'd see most people who do cheat do it for emotional reasons. I'm not going to cheat, but between you and me... I like to let out my frustrations. Unfortunately, people rather attack you with moral outcry then actually give you logical advice or conclusion. How does that help anyone?

[hmmmmidk]

thats not an excuse. If you are a cheater, you are a crappy person period. If you dont like whats going then end the relationship but you have to be a special type of scum to cheat while you are in a relationship and excuse it for things not going in your favor.