How to deal with my girlfriend's manipulating friend?

[Jlong13188]

My girlfriend has a friend at school that is manipulating. If it's not her way then it can't be done. And I guess lately she's been on my girlfriends case about the two of us breaking up. My girlfriend and I are so much in love, it just with her friend on her back all the time she can't think straight now. How can I handle this situation? Because when I visit my girlfriend I know her friend is really fake towards me and doesn't like me. Should I say something to her friend? Or should my girlfriend and I just talk through this whole situation? I don't want my girlfriend to be influenced by her friends...

[Anonymous]

Of course she is influenced by her friends. Try not to be the one to make her choose between you and the friend. Girls need their friends. And guys need their girls to have friends. Her friend is probably not happy with being left alone while she is out spending so much time with you. OR she doesn't think the relationship is healthy for her friend, for whatever reason, and is letting her know that. This is really between her and her friend, and for them to deal with. If you love her like you say you do, you won't put added pressure on her about her girlfriend. And yes she may be acting fake toward you, but that is fine let her. You don't need to be friends with her but you do need to respect your girlfriends friendship with her by being just as civil to the friend. Don't get into a tug o war.

[Jlong13188]

I just don't like the fact that her friend has a boy friend of 2 years and is cheating on him. And she's trying to get out of that relationship. So I have a feeling since she's going to be single that she wants my girlfriend to be single with her. My girlfriend already has enough stress on her shoulders with school and work. So I'm not pressing the issue on her I just don't want to loose her. I love her to death. I just don't want her to be manipulated by her friend into breaking up.

[WeaponZero]

The only thing you can really do is hope that your girlfriend is smart enough and mature enough not to let her friend come between you two. If you talk to her about it yourself you may be indirectly forcing her into choosing a side which is a bad idea. If you talk to her friend you may be giving her friend more ammo to use against you.