Is my younger sister sexually active?

[Anonymous]

she's 17 and when i was cleaning out the dryer i saw that she has lingerie not the super risque ones but theyre satin and silk. she has lots of lace thongs, lacy bras. they look expensive. and stuff like this
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yes probably

no probably not

[doodler0706]

She probably is sexually active because she's at the she when most teens are. The lingerie is probably because she just enjoys wearing it. And there's nothing wrong with you being concerned about her. Im glad that you're looking out for her. there are risks that come with being sexually active (STDs or pregnancies) and just because she's old enough to make her own decisions doesn't mean she's old enough to raise a child. the fact that you're concerned means that if she had any questions about sex or needed help, she couldppossibly go to you for advice. Just because you're not her parent, doesn't mean you can't be worried about her. I don't have a strong connection with my mom so i usually DO look to my siblings for help. that's what family is for.

[In-sight-ful]

The questions is... do you really want to know? I have 3 younger siblings and personally I do not want to know what they are doing with their sex life or if they even have a sex life. With that being said just because she owns lingerie does not mean she is sexually active, I owned lingerie years before I was sexually active, although there is a very good chance she is.

[AshleyMD]

Having lingerie doesn't mean she's having sex and if she is that's none of your business. It's no one's business except her's, who she's having sex with (if she's having sex) and anyone she wants to share that information with.
I hope you are wondering this just out of curiosity.

[KillerTaco]

To all the silly girls asking this guy... who is an OLDER BROTHER to his younger sister why he is concerned about whether or not she is sexually active. I feel sorry for you if you can't understand the concept of a loving brother looking out for his younger sister.

[Asker]

thank you!

[sovetskii13]

You can't really find out just by looking at what kind of lingerie she has. It's not evidence or anything like that.

[Blondiee2014]

She's 17 of course she's sexually active she's almost an adult.

[Asker]

not all 17 year olds are sexually active

[Blondiee2014]

@asker What do you define as sexually active?
Having sex or masturbating and thinking about sex?

[Asker]

having sex with a boy

[Blondiee2014]

Well maybe not, sexually active has many meaning so you should of been more specific.
She is 100% thinking sexually, she is 17, so if the oppertunity has arrised then yeah she could have done, but maybe she has maybe she hasn't.

[MiraMai]

as parent I would be more concerned about you going through her underwear and being interested in stuff like that than having my 17 year old daughter being sexually active...

she's old enough and can make her own decisions, as long as she keeps it safe there is no problem with it and it's nothing of your concern

[Asker]

im not going through her underwear. if you must know i was doing my laundry and when i went to use the dryer i saw all her stuff so obviously i had to take it out to use the dryer

[RestlessYouth_]

She could be, or she couldn't, why does it matter to you? That kind of thing is something only her parents should be concerned about, and only really concerned over if she's having safe sex. The fact that you looked up "lingerie" that looks similar to her's is just, strange. If she wanted you to know she would've told you, simple as that.

[KillerTaco]

That's her OLDER brother for crying out loud. Of course he'd care he doesn't want some guy using his sister or knocking her up.

[RestlessYouth_]

@killertaco the fact that you think that if she's having sex she's automatically being "used" already shows me that you have the wrong mindset about girls having sex.

[Williaaaaam]

why is this something you think about and care about? don't know anything about your sister sex life, all I know is that she has a creepy older brother.

[truthbeknown]

A lot of women just like this sort of stuff because it is comfy and feels/looks feminine and sexy. My sister had stuff like this at about 14 or so, and I am pretty sure she wasn't active at the time.

[KillerTaco]

This... This is very true. Silk just feels AMAZING on the skin. You feel like Royalty... even though you're not. Lol

[Anonymous]

Maybe. Maybe not. I remember my mom used to buy me lace underwear and bras just because to her they looked pretty. She would never condone me having sex but she bought me those things anyway.
So either she's wearing those because she likes them or because she's showing them off to someone else. We can't really know for sure.

[Opinion Owner]

Also I find it odd how some of the users on here are so against a guy looking out for his little sister.

[madhatters4]

maybe. she's 17 so she's at the age where the average person becomes sexually active. not sure the pics are necessary, haha but thanks for the eye candy

[itsallover]

Maybe, but that's not a sure fire way to tell. She may just like wearing them. Besides, why are you concerned with whether she's having sex or not?

[Suraya_]

This brings memories of when my brother found out about me. Just act like you never saw em. I actually had to confess to my brother.. So don't make anything awkward. I get why your worried though, you an older brother why wouldn't you be

[KiaTate]

Maybe she is maybe she isn't... you really shouldn't think about it.

[MysteriousChick93]

I love lingerie from young. doesn't mean I was active at that age.

[Anonymous]

Weird for you to wonder about these type of things...

[BiggsyDaBoss]

Why would that be?

[Opinion Owner]

perverts everywhere.

[SecretSomeone]

What makes him a pervert if he's concerned about his sister, besides he found about her stuff because he was going to do his laundry.

[BiggsyDaBoss]

@SecretSomeone
According to this woman child. I must be a pervert too. I have a teenage daughter & I take an active interest in her life, including what she get's up to with boys.

[Opinion Owner]

And you wonder why teens freak out about their privacy.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. A lot of women wear these things because they like how it makes them feel, not because they think some guy will think it's sexy.

[bubbletrouble]

A lot of girls buy that stuff just to buy it.

A little bit creepy for you to wonder this...

[wintergirl86]

I'm more worried about why are you wondering that.

[BiggsyDaBoss]

Silly thing to worry about. Would you say that about me? I have a teenage daughter & I am concerned about her possible sexual activities. Is that something to worry about? Are you worried? Silly girl.

[RestlessYouth_]

@BiggsyDaBoss you are her father, therefore you are in a totally different position.

[BiggsyDaBoss]

@RestlessYouth_
I was also the primary caregiver for my younger siblings, as my mother suffered from a chronic health condition. As their primary care giver, it was my responsibility to concern myself with what they were up to. I only had younger brothers, so I doubt people would be concerned if I made sure they understood the risks in being sexually active.

It's quite clear that people are projecting negative connotations on a situation they don't have anywhere near enough information on to do so.

[wintergirl86]

Thank you Restless!

As a father it's different. You have a right to. It's your child. As a brother it's different. Isn't a parent. Can't really tell her what to do. Don't call me silly girl. No need for name calling.

[wintergirl86]

Wait I thought this was about a sister. Now you're saying I'm talking about you. When before I wasn't. So which is it?

[Asker]

im NOT telling her what to do when did i ever say that i dont want her to get pregnant by a dbag

[wintergirl86]

Honey I meant it as if she is then what can you do about it?

[Freyjarocks]

I think a brother does has some sort of say because he is her older brother. There is a more likely chance that his sister might tell him or talk about it with him compared to their parents. I think its normal because he is just expressing concern for her and doesn't want anything to happen to her. I don't have an older brother, but I do have two younger siblings and one is a girl. I would be concerned if she started to be involved in sexual activities and she would most likely confine in me or even my little brother compared to my parents. I think any family member would be concerned.

[wintergirl86]

He asked if she was sexually active for wearing that stuff. He didn't post a concern. If he had posted a concern about worrying about her. I think some of us wouldn't wonder why he's asking. On this site we get a lot of silly questions. Even some borderline creepy. If he had posted that he was worried about it I would have told him to talk to her.

[RestlessYouth_]

@BiggsyDaBoss @Freyjarocks
All I'm saying is, I have two older brothers that care very deeply for me and that I'm close to, but they know that if I truly needed their help, I'd ask for it. Other than that they obviously respect my decisions as my own. I could see if it was drugs, or maybe her meeting a bunch of random guys over the internet and fucking them, but that fact that he's so "concerned" over the fact that she MIGHT be sexually active, pisses me off. She's 17, old enough to make her own decisions no matter how he may feel about them.

[BiggsyDaBoss]

@RestlessYouth_
Well it must really annoy you that I take an interest in my teenage daughter's decision.

[RestlessYouth_]

@BiggsyDaBoss Haha wow, I hope you aren't this stubborn and hard headed with your daughter because if so she'd never actually open up with you. Both of my parents have always been super easy to talk to and never have exactly been "worried" about me having sex, just that I always do it safely and tell then first so they could advise me. Because of them never making sex such a big deal, I ended up waiting until my sophomore year of college. When people make such a big deal about sex to teenagers, it almost never turns out good. But yeah, go ahead and have your concerns. I'm pretty much done with your portion of the conversation so good day.

[wintergirl86]

@BiggsyDaBoss She said you had a right as a father to be worried. She didn't say you didn't. No one said you didn't.

[BiggsyDaBoss]

@RestlessYouth_
I am as stubborn with her & she is stubborn with me. You'll be surprised at how openly she can converse with me, as when it comes to anything she needs. I am there for her. When she started menstruating & she was bleeding heavily & constantly. I took her to the doctors to get it checked out. She is afraid of needles, so I let the doctor take blood from me first, to show her it wouldn't hurt.

Being stubborn, isn't the same as being regressive or unsupportive. She has her freedoms & she knows my expectations. What we have is a relationship based not only on love, but just as importantly on respect.

"When people make such a big deal about sex to teenagers,"
Who said I make a big deal out of it. I express my opinions, she respects me enough to understand my greater understanding on these matters. She is also encouraged to question my understanding. You infer disparity, where none exists.

[BiggsyDaBoss]

@wintergirl86
My point was an analogy. You have no method for ascertaining what relationship this guy has with his younger sister. For family reasons he might've had to take on a more fatherly with her. I did, with my younger brother.

It's silly & bigoted to infer that he has any ill intent or that it isn't his place. Your first goal would be to ascertain if he does in fact have the right to involve himself in his sisters life. No, you went straight to judgement.

[wintergirl86]

Did you not see how at the end of it I explained myself for why I said it the way I said it? Then told him that if he was worried about his sister to talk to her.

[Your_boss960]

Why are you even looking at her underwear

[bubble_tea]

what if she was?

[jacquesvol]

No way to know it but asking her.

[RebeccaSJ]

Probably.