Maybe talk to her about safe sex and choosing partners wisely, because if you go telling parents or even lecturing her about not having sex at all, she'll keep on doing it even more just because she was told not to. I definitely wouldn't tell your parents since it could cause a LOT more trouble than you'd originally thought since it was a girl she was with. I don't know what kind of people your parents are, but you don't want to risk getting your sister disowned or thrown out for being bi/lesbian. So yeah, I'd recommend just talking to her about being careful who she engages in sexual acts with, even just oral, since you can still contract STDs that way. Good news is, if your sister's a lesbian, there's no pregnancy risk and that's pretty much the worst part about kids getting started on sex so young.
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I see that at youth shelter for the LGBT youths lot are disowned some young as 12.
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Only talk to her casually and with a positive attitude about sex and safe sex... like.. be the cool older brother. My bro is 12 and he often asks me things about that and I explain it to him like I would explain it to a grown up.
At her age, I was really attracted to a few girls, at 13 I was in bed with a guy for the first time (nothing happened, though) so what she did is nothing strange or unnatural.50 Reply
+1 yHonestly, because she's so young I'd say something to your parents. I know it's not cool to "out" people but she's a minor, and while the other girl is too I really think they need to step in to make sure this doesn't potentially turn into anything dangerous. Not that sex = you getting into risque behaviour but if not properly discussed and monitored at a young age, you never know.
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Outing someone not cool at you don’t do that to anyone.
Anonymous(25-29)+1 ytell your parents immediately! wtf. what if she was having sex with a boy and got pregnant. This is so wrong. 12 year old shouldn't be having sex. What's with all these retards saying you should forget about it? would you all say the same if a boy was sticking his penis in her vagina? Morons
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Maybe they wouldn't say the same thing, but the point is they SHOULD be saying the same thing if it was a boy and a girl. Talk to her first. What exactly do you think is going to happen, or what will be learned, by punishing her for normal explorative sexual behavior? Give me a break.
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+1 yTalk to her first. At that age, sexual exploration is perfectly natural. Do not let the parents know, that will make her hate you, probably fear or hate them, and no good will come of it.
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+1 yI think talk to your little sister but know this is pretty normal. I’m really really sorry you had to see that though, that must’ve been awful and now you have all this responsibility.
Girls are honestly a lot like boys, we do things that make us feel good. What your sister was doing doesn’t sound that dangerous. I definitely think the younger people start having sex the worse.
But I think your parents are more likely to help then hurt. I made out shirtless with my neighbor who’s a girl when I was 9. My friend fingered her neighbor and vis versa when they were in elementary school.
My best friend made out with her friend from 3rd to 5th grade. I think it’s just girls are allowed to be more physical with each other.00 ReplyAre you kidding me!! YES! She's a 12-year-old? Are you kidding? That is considered rape for a reason. And she is underage. Stinking 12 man. And the name of the girl she was with also needs to get found out immediately besides her parents. This is why you don't leave your kids alone like this.
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Another 12 year old considered rape?
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@SavagePatchKids Unfortunately that's the way the law works, yeah, because law is black and white even though life is great. But yeah... this is a stupid way to handle the situation, completely stupid. Reporting her or whatever for normal, explorative sexual behavior is going to do absolutely nothing positive. She needs some education, not punishment. Good God.
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This is what happens when you don't teach your kids to wait for marriage to have sex and the consequences of these things. Not just condoms and birth control. It is exactly what happens when you allow your kids to do what they want without supervision. And knowing who they're getting themselves involved with.
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That's how girls like her end up getting themselves raped, kidnapped, killed, or getting into alcohol and drugs because they already doing the stuff now. I don't know what happened to their father but this is why you do not have this mess going on and you having kids. There's only but so much a single parent can do and they have to work which means somebody else has to be able to provide and supervise the children. The type of behavior a lot of you are suggesting is the behavior of rebelliousness because y'all did the same exact thing with your parents.
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Or your parents didn't care they taught you just be safe and wear condom and make sure you do this and that instead of teaching y'all to wait. This kind of situation it's illegal. Which means teachers are going to have to get involved and I also needs counseling is going to have to be implemented.
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Wow. It sounds like you have a lot to say about all this.
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@btbc92 that's a lot of assumptions, and yes, she is a child, she's not gonna know any better
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@SavagePatchKids I don't have to assume. I know because I pay attention. Common sense tells you how these things happens. And I know plenty of people whom I grew up with who ended up in those situations. There are no assumptions. This is something that has to be stopped NOW before she will indefinitely ruin her life and possibly others along the way. That's how depression, oppression, cutting and other mental and psychological illnesses start's.
You say she doesn't know any better yet she is having oral sex, sex at 12 with a girl no less? Yeah. Okay. Next somebody is going to say she never seen porn before either. The way he is describing it, it looks like this is NOT the first time she had sex. - +1 y
Not getting the proper attention she needs from her mom, that's another assumption
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And that may not be the reason she's not getting into sex so young, there could be many, many factors, some not when relating to anything you've just said
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@SavagePatchKids Basically.
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At her age that is often the reasons why otherwise she wouldn't be doing it not would she be behaving in this manner at all. I've seen this type of behavior plenty of times. If nobody else is in the house then how did the asker not know what his sister was doing, let along the girl she was having sex with? Who is being responsible for her well being and safety? Who is watching out for her? Why hasn't anybody notice anything stranger going on with her? That is clear sign of neglect.
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Alright, we get it, you're a snowflake
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Nah it's not me
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Funny? Wow the assumptions are real, how did I find it in any way funny?
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Yes, you are taking it seriously. Way, way too seriously.
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Insulting someone just because they fin don't take something 200% seriously...
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This is not being insulting. This is something really seriois and he's thinking it's nothing. Any parent or adult with common sense would not take this lightly. And it's that kind of attitude and mentality is why we have such a mess up world today. Because the kids aren't being taught right.
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Then when the laws will get stricter, you want to bemoan and be pissed. And when the parents wants to get on your case, which is what a parang should do, you want to do whatever you want. You get in trouble, you want somebody to bail you out. And when nobody wants to be involved with your mess, you want to call them traitors or people who are disloyal to you.
417 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. Talk to your sister about it. She's way too young to be having sex.
Also talk to your parents too. If she was 17 I'd say leave your parents out of it but she's 12.50 ReplyYou can't un-see what you've just saw tell your parents so they know what she's doing in your house and if you tell her she's just going to promise that she won't do it again and don't tell but we both know that she will still do it.
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 ydefinitely tell your parents. It is not a problem that it was a girl (don't make her feel bad about that because if she is a lesbian it will make her feel ashamed and like it is wrong) but she is definitely way too young to be participating in sexual activity
30 ReplyDon't tell your parents
Be cool and talk to her about it and about safety
Don't be the one to tell and literally ruin her relationship with her parents and the girl30 Reply
+1 yDon’t tell your parent unless you want her to hate you for the rest of your life. Plus might not be a lesbian she could be bi just discovering. It took me years to get comfortable.
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Are you gay?
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Then you don’t know what it’s like being outed when your ready on inside you feel like a freak.
+1 yI dunno man, it's not really your business. People are sexual, and experimentation is normal. If anything, have a private conversation with her, brother to sister, before saying anything to your parents.
10 ReplyI wouldn't say a thing maybe talk to your sister when's she's alonev
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+1 yForget about it and only care about your own sex life
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yShut your mouth. Don't say a thing. Don't talk to her, don't tell dad unless your 5 years old.
maybe you will want her to tell how you like to wear a 12 yo panties. She is 12, go back to your boyfriend.00 Replydont tell to anybody, never talk with her..
but control her00 Reply
+1 yDefinitely talk to your parents
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+1 yWhy you care, it's her sex life
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Why? Because she's only 12 wth
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@Ismash9116 So, you're his spokesperson lol
You people like to butt into other people personal lives. Now, how you would feel if I did that to yours? - +1 y
I don't have a sister but if I catch up my 11 years old brother doing that with another guy I'd beat the shit out of him
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@Ismash9116 You must have anger issues, seek therapy
Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yAnd this aroused you?
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40 Replyjust talk to your sister first but talk politely
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Seriously, I don't know why this isn't the answer most people are coming up with.
Forget what you saw.
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+1 yForget about it
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+1 yDo not feed him.
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+1 yAsk to watch
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yTell your parents
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