My boyfriend’s niece caught us having sex, and she is only 4 years old. what should we do?

[Anonymous]

We are both 20, and he always babysit his niece on the week ends, so he proposed me to spend the moment with them. After watching some cartoons, she was very sleepy so we took her to her bed, and then when we were alone on the living room, we started to cuddle, till we lost the control. But we were making love on the sofa when the little girl came to the living room. We were both naked and in the middle of the action! I don’t know if she even getted what’s going on, but she covered her eyes telling us that she did a nightmare, and that she wanted to stay with us. We were very very embarrassed. We putted our clothes again and tried to act like nothing happened, but right now we don’t know if we can tell to my boyfriend’s sister what her daughter saw. Do you think she understood what happened despite that she is only 4? What should we do? I know it was a mistake, but I’m stressed..

[Jaye234]

She doesn't know what exactly y'all were doing but she obviously knows y'all were naked and on top of one another.
Yep time to spill the beans to his sister.
y'all should have at least went and hid out in the bathroom or such.
I'm not sure what to tell the child as nothing I can think of sounds legitimate.
Good luck coming up with an excuse to tell the kid because I bet she said something to her mom already

[Toldol2]

Talk to her father about. Sex is traumatizing for a child

[MrKinktastic]

I might mention it to whichever parent will be more chill about it so they hear it from you not the kid.

Otherwise a 4 year old is probably still fuzzy on the details around sex so may have thought you were just naked on the couch. Regardless its not a huge deal, did you guys get scared/freak out? That would probably cause more of an impression than the sex itself :p

[Anonymous]

If you tell or say anything. Play it down and you were both wrestling together. Why naked well you spilled some blueberry juice on the both of you and your clothes were drying after you both got the stains out.

[Fred1998]

she knew what you were doing, but I wouldn't worry too much about it because that little girl probably snuck up on her parents doing it before. I say that because of her reaction to what was going on because at 4 you don't know everything and most would have thought y'all were wrestling naked and was going to ask what you were doing. Unless she goes to her parents about it you'll be fine, it happens to the best of us.

[Miristheiss]

Talk to her parents about it and let them deal with it.

Pretty irresponsible if you ask me. Go in the bedroom and lock the door. It's one thing if the parents themselves are caught by their kids but a completely different and irresponsible thing to leave your kid with someone else only for them to bring over a lover and do it right out in the open... as if kids never wake up and seek out the adults.

[Ninetales101]

Ok so not say its gonna easy but tell the truth to them, you made a mistake we are humans we make mistakes. If you tell them they should be a little bit easier on you. Its better that they hear it from you rather that the 4 year old girl telling them. Be honest will hurt but its better. They might never let you babysit her again I don't know but at least you ended up doing the right thing in the end

[Philyouup]

it was a nightmare.. and dont do that again.. you are responsible for her, so that includes being responsible yourself.. even when she is sleeping. you are responsible every second she is in your charge.

[EmmaMary]

I really don't think you have anything to worry about, for heavens sake she's only four years old, she's hardly likely to know or realise what was going on.

[Ninetales101]

I agree but i can go either way it all depends on the parents

[EmmaMary]

@Ninetales101 Indeed this is very true.

[madhatters4]

you do nothing unless she specifically asks and then you just tell her you guys were cuddling. she doesn't know what sex is and will most likely not remember it unless you guys make a big deal about it

[Johnnie1000]

let this rest. She is 4 and sex doesn't mean anything to her. At 4 seeing a man naked probably doesn't register and if she didn't make a big out of it , then it probably wasn't. If you took care to help her, that is what she will remember.
Relax

[Pink2000]

You should be embarrassed. That is so disgusting to me. You know she’s around. You couldn’t bother to go behind closed doors. My parents used to do that shit and it traumatized me and I was 4 years old and still remember 14 years later.

[Sucram]

I don't get it.
It's a completely natural thing to do, in nature the young ones can see it as well.

So what about it traumatized you, and why? Please don't take this in a negative way, I don't try to be mean, I just try to understand.

[Pink2000]

@Sucram why the hell would you fuck out in the open knowing that child could wake up at any given moment?

[Pink2000]

@Sucram cause it just did. It made me uncomfortable and seeing your parents have sex is disgusting and weird.

[5yrup]

i agree. i feel traumatised from stories that aren't even my own. i once read about a boy with mental illnesses and part of the reason why is because his parents would have sex in the same bed as him while they thought he was asleep. there's no excuse, i have no respect for adults who don't take extra precaution to protect children from adult things. hope you feel better dear

[Pink2000]

@5yrup my parents had sex in the bed with me in it too

[Pink2000]

@5yrup I don’t have respect for hem either.

[Anonymous]

She will remember for sure. I have read that after 3 years we can remember things. Just imagine your first memory, probably it would be something happened when you were around three year-old. Just don't tell it to anyone. You will be fine.

(peachykeen21, I miss you)

[Vankor]

Sounds like you 2 shouldn't be babysitting. Own up to your decision to have sex while baby. Cause that kid will probably tell.

[SirRexington]

It should have been done in a room first of all.

Second of all, I hope the girl doesn't accidentally mention it to her sister.

[Levin]

You had sex, which is a perfectly natural act.

You didn't stab a man or something.

[avalonbob]

Let it slide. She doesn't understand what you were doing and will never remember it.

[arun934]

Nothing to worry. She can't remember what she had seen

[Muhammad1999]

most likely she doesn't even understand it , its not a big problem.

[esotericstory]

nothing?