How do I convince my mom to let me stay one night with my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So my mom did something really sweet, and she bought my boyfriend and I 2 day park hopper tickets to Disneyland for Christmas. This was really sweet of her, and we're both really grateful that she gave us such a generous gift. We wanted to save them and use them to celebrate Valentine's Day. The park is about a three hour drive from my house, and we wanted to stay in a hotel one night so that we could have the two day experience, and not have to drive three hours back home after a long day at Disneyland.
Now.. my parents aren't fond of the idea of me staying in a hotel alone with my boyfriend. They flat out told me no when I brought up the idea. I'm 19, I still live with them, and I truly understand that whatever they say goes, because they're still providing a house and food for me. My mom is also the one who bought the tickets after all... But that doesn't make me not want to have a little romantic vacation with my boyfriend for two days. They don't consider me an adult, regardless of what the law says because I still rely on them.
I think it's a little ridiculous that they're being such sticklers over 1 night, considering I've stayed the night at my ex's house before with their permission and they didn't even like him. My mom loves my current boyfriend and tells me all the time that she's glad I'm with him.

I respect their opinion, and I will not go and spend the night if that's really what they want, but I'm trying to figure out how I can convince them to let me stay the night. Any suggestions?

Thank you for your help!

[Red_Arrow]

I thought it was a case of normal concern about their daughter having sex with a guy till I read that they have okayed your staying at a guy's hours in the past and also have provided you condoms and doesn't care if you have sex as long as it is protected. It does not make sense.

You should find a time that you can talk with your mother for a while about it (she has made it clear that she wants you to talk with her about things like this). I think just getting her into a conversation about this will get at the problem she has right now. And it may allow her to see that you are coming to her and can be trusted andthen she may allow you to stay over, even knowing you will have sex.

[Inlovewith1402]

Well you can sit down with your mother and have a talk with her. Ask her what she is so worried about. Why is that a problem. If she is worried about you guys having sex, you probably already do anyway. Just ask about her concerns and reassure her that you're going to be just fine.

[Asker]

I've talked to my mom about sex and whatever, but my mom isn't worried about it, she has come home with unsolicited condoms for me and she tries to keep communication about it pretty steady. She always tells me that I can come to her about that kind of stuff. She doesn't care if sex happens, as long as its protected. It's also a lot of my step dad, my mom doesn't care so much as my step-dad does and it makes me mad because he's only been in my life for 3 years and it's like you're not even my real dad? But i need a place to live lol so whatever he says goes.

[Inlovewith1402]

I still think you need to talk to her. Confront her, ask why is that a problem. If still doesn't work, you can say you and your boyfriend will book separate rooms at the hotel :)

[Asker]

That's a good idea, thank you!

[xkellier94x]

I feel your pain. I'm nearly 21 and my mother is against boyfriends staying over. Its a pain.

[Asker]

It is a pain, I'm just confused as to what my mom expected when she bought us two day tickets. Like did she expect us to drive 3 hours there and then 3 hours back? Parents are a pain in the ass sometimes.

[xkellier94x]

Tell me about it. We're adults and they treat us like children.

[Nujabes123]

honestly, if it comes down to it, you may have to lie about your whereabouts,

[Asker]

I feel like she would suspect me of lying about it because she knows the dates that we're trying to go. :/ Besides, I don't really want to lie to my mom.

[Nujabes123]

hmm, This one always works for me, I out and look realllllyyyy miserable and my mom eventually says yes, im the same age as you so hopefully it'll work if you try it!

[Asker]

I'll try and guilt trip her a little lol, thank you!

[Nujabes123]

no problem :)

[Sexualchrist]

Tell her he's rich.

[Asker]

My mom knows my boyfriend personally, and knows that wouldn't be true. I don't know how that would help me case otherwise anyway.

[Sexualchrist]

Invite him over your house a few days before you go to disneyland and just keep having really loud sex every night.
Then when it comes the time to go to disneyland, your parents will WANT you to use a hotel, hahahahahahaha!