Girlfriend smoking weed with male friend?

[Anonymous]

hey guys

just found out that my girlfriend, who has previously cheated, was at a guys place few months ago just them two and she smoked weed with him for the first time but lead me to believe she has never done it. she also admitted to having been a few times to two guys houses to just hang out and swears nothing physical has happened.

she said she thought it was alright because they were just friends and said that she needs me to give her boundaries and tell her what she can and can't do.

ladies with boyfriends: would yous smoke weed with a guy at his place just you two if it was your first time doing it?

[Anonymous]

Regardless as to if it was my first time smoking-- because that's a little different for me- (you know, a sort of rite of passage in my mind...at least that's what it was for me)

Yes, I would go to a guy's house just to smoke with him. And it would be fine and nothing would happen.

I have a lot of guy friends. And they are just that-- guy. friends.

They know their place, I know mine.

Talk to her about it-- but if she has a lot of guy friends...she will hang out with him. And you know what? She might even sleep over their houses.

You just need to tell her what you're comfortable with and what you're not.

If she's a good person, she'll listen and take your feelings into account.

[Asker]

Shes cuddled two guys in their beds? lets guys pick her up? kissed a guy when she was drunk?

no she has no self control and isn't acting like a girlfriend should.

:P

how can she be trusted to smoke weed with another guy?

especially fall asleep at their place as you suggested?

[Opinion Owner]

You're right. She's not acting like a girlfriend should. And if that's the case then you need to tell her that. I'm not saying that she deserves any more trust than you already are giving her.

In your question, you didn't state the specifics of the situation and you asked what I would do. I told you what I would do. I'm also not a cheater though. I was just backing up the girls with guy friends.

If you can't trust her, talk to her about it. And then decide whether you wanna work on it or bail.