You Need to Now make a Choice tha Is going to be Very Difficult for you here, dear. Not many girls in a Real relationship with you would Want to Be... In a relationship with You Being in a relationship with a sibling who needs constant care and attention.
If you love your So, then a Compromise has to be made, or it will end up to be Your demise. Your honey who doesn't find any of this Funny in the least, is trying to tell you that she will not be Fifth wheel deal with You and sis and that you need to make a Life threatening Decision... Soon.
There are many girls out there who are More compassionate and understanding in your own scenario here, but the Ones who are Not and will Not love you Not because you want to Cuddle with your sis and her as well, will leave in a heartbeat and not hitch on to your welcome of two girls being under the same Relationship roof.
There are programs you can check with Social services with. I sadly am in a family situation right now where that was something that I myself had to bring my own self to. As much as it pains you, I see only two choices Here... Either do what you are doing until the day you Die Or... Hope to find Someone Special who will be tied to you no matter what and with every Cry.
Good luck and happy Holidays. xx
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It's hard because your girlfriend is probably uncomfortable with it and isn't as understanding, I think its wrong for her to tel you to stop 'RIGHT NOW' as things yes don't happen over night and it's not really fair to your sister to take everything that comforts her away. All though you made that bed, you offered this excessive comfort, she's in a habit right because you've been doing all this since she was 18. Your girlfriend isn't going to want to be treated how you treat your sister in the affection area, she wants to feel like a girlfriend. I understand you're trying to reach a middle, but you also have to tell your girlfriend it's not fair, then again she doesn't have to be over your place every night.
I know it might sound weird. But I had a hard life wish I had a brother to cuddle me. I went through the same life style as you. All you have is your sister and she needs you. Just break from her little by little thats all. Your girlfriend needs to try and be more supportive or she should try and cuddle with her and take your place and rub her hair at night. She can act like her mom instead because she needs love.
I think you should support your sister, but I really don't think now is the best time for you to be having a relationship. Any girlfriend you have is going to be a bit bothered by the fact that you show so much affection to your sister. It is understandable why you do it, but if you want a relationship you're going to need to be able to balance both by showing affection to your SO as well.
I think you should support your sister, from what you said it sounds like just leaving her like that would probably break her. But, you definitely need to start to tone it down and work to make her more independent from you. You can't always be there for her and she is going to have to be able to make it out on her own at some point. But still I would say that blood runs thicker than water so I would so you should probably continue to work with your sister so that she can get over her issues and start going in her own path independently.
Your relationship with your sister will be the longest relationship of your life. I think you need to keep doing what you're doing: support your sister, but also encourage her to seek other forms of help. Family's important. I'm sure you can understand why it weirds out your girlfriend, but try to help her understand why your sister needs this. Like you said, it's not something that can be fixed overnight, and if she's really giving you an ultimatum, I think you need to continue helping your sister.
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I think your girlfriend is being unreasonable with her demand. While I do see why it would bug her that you are cuddling someone else at night, she is a sibling and it is only a problem for your girlfriend if you are cuddling your sister when SHE IS ALSO THERE.
Therefore I believe her ultimatum demands are unreasonable and just because she demands something doesn't mean she deserves it. I voted B).A good girlfriend won't tell you to tone down the affection with your sister A good girlfriend would join you in for a group hug.
Family is forever, gf's/bf's come and go. If she is not willing to support you and your sister in this or try to be understanding, I would think she wouldn't be worth it in the end. the right woman would support both of you.
Family first man. Into heaven or hell. You don't have family. You don't have anything. I'm surprised you had to ask.
You cab support your sister but not be and enabler. Makes sense?
Help her recovery but don't be her dad..Your girlfriend is crossing a line. Family comes third, no matter what.
Girlfriends come and go, but family is forever.
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