Is 19 too young to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

I will be turning 20 at the end of the year and I have a wonderful boyfriend. I really want to have a baby but everyone is telling me I'm too young. I never thought being 20 with a baby was "too young" I want some honest opinions from everyone. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Yes people grow up change and mature in their 20's a lot and you mite think your boyfriends great now but in a few years he mite not be so great but you would have a kid with him. Also do you have a good job to support a child? Being only 20 means you probably don't have a college degree don't know if you attend college now or don't plan on it but every child deserves the best life possible and unless ur sure you can give that to him ur not ready. My ex wants to start a life and she's 22 she thinks she ready but she's not she's making $15hr and wants to start a life with some1 she knows won't last in the long run and I have nothing against people who make 15$ hr and are supporting kids with it im just saying to those people knowing what you know now don't you wish that you did something with ur life before having the kid? My ex is very smart and wants to go to school to be a nurse but she has credit problems and doesn't think she can get a loan which kills me because every1 deserves a chance to go to college just because she screwed up her credit when she was younger doesn't mean she shouldn't have a chance to go to school.

HAHA wow I got so off topic lol

[sexwiseman]

Have you looked at the cost of what it takes to raise a baby? Sure, anybody can have a baby, but the question is---do you have the means now to fully support this baby? And by that, I mean---do you have a good paying job that will let you stay home and care of your baby? Or at least, do you have family members that will baby sit for you, in case you have to go to work? Do you make enough money to buy diapers, food, medical visits, etc for your baby? And of course----does your boyfriend share the same idea with you now of having a baby?

[ajbrown8]

I read somewhere that by the time ONE child reaches 18, parents will have spent nearly 100k on that child, not including college. Crazy!

[Anonymous]

Make sure that the guy you are with will not run off, and that he is willing to support you in any way. That, and you guys should be financially stable. Though, in my person opinion, I think you are too young. These are the years where we're suppose to be out partying and enjoying our lives and experiencing it. That, and you become more responsible the older you get. And because you're so young, all of your friends are going to go out and have fun, and you'll be home stuck with the baby. And then you may come to the realization that it isn't want you want, and may put a strain on you, the baby and your relationship with your boyfriend. That, and you really want to make sure that if you do have a baby, that the guy you're with is the "one". Or at least the one that will stay around. So, I suggest you wait and enjoy life while you can. I hope this helped!

[Baby-Gurl]

It is really young. Have consider how much it cost to have a baby? Will you be able to support this child for eighteen years and send them through collage? Also your still your early twenties those are suppose to be the golden years the best years of your life. And with a baby in the picture your freedom is more concealed and you won't be able to do all the things that you want to do. I know this because I have friend around your age who made the decision to have a child though she doesn't regret having a child she wishes that she would have thought about it a little more and waited until her life was secure and concrete. Now with her your boyfriend is he going to stay? I mean have you talked to him about this? Now if you two are so great together then why haven't you gotten married? It's just a thought. Well I hope I gave some good advice

[shoegirl17]

Twenty is really young in general. You can't legally drink, you haven't graduated college, I don't even think you can rent a car! You're just starting your twenties, which are supposed to be the best years of your life and a baby is a lot of responsibility to take on when you are going to be wanting to have fun with your friends and stuff. Plus, you're not married and no matter how great of a guy your boyfriend is, a baby can put a lot of stress on that kind of relationship. Plus, guys mature a lot slower than girls, and having one now could scare him off from any kind of commitment in the future. You don't want to have to raise a baby alone!

[Bubbles]

Here is mine, I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first it was everything I wanted I wanted to start young and I wouldn't trade it for the world. No one liked the idea of it of course cause your still a baby your self to some ppl, but its your life now not there's. If you too want to start a family then go for it, its the best thing in the world. You are not to young at all, I think you are the prefect age.

[The-Nash]

Having a child is like a really responsible privilege. Not everyone has the capability to have children. Some people have child bearing problems and are unable to have children. And some children are born under unsatisfactory circumstances. This is just something you got to take into consideration. This isn't a perfect world and there and there could be complications along the way, you never know until they happen. You got to prepare for them and adapt to them when they happen. And you got to have the energy and time to keep up with your kids because they grow up fast.

Who is "everyone" that is telling you that your too young? Your Family? And did you ask them why? If they were people that were close to you I would think they would want to see you putting your best foot forward in this kind of situation. And I would think it's only because they see a lot of potential in you as a successful person.

And I would also think of other life goals too, like some people want to travel, have a good career and a family. So a goal like traveling I would get out of the way first so I can focus on the other two major goals. Or maybe I would focus on my career and travel on my off time/simultaneously. But I would prioritize in a way so that I wouldn't be questioning if I was missing out on experiencing life for what it's worth as an individual before making the choice to have a child/family(if it was left up to making a choice). And sometimes it just happens (well, when the person isn't careful, or something happens/breaks) and you/I/anyone doesn't have the choice and the best of a situation has to made.

[good-looking-geek]

Make sure the dad will not run away from you and eventually abstain from paying child support. I have no sympathy for girls who fall for guys who run away from them shortly after giving birth. You can tell if a man will be a dedicated father or not. Use your judgment.

[jessi-rabbit08]

I don't think so, I think it is a personal choice.

and I personally don't see anything wrong with it.

and I think if you want a baby then you should have one

but make sure you think about everything. But other than that I don't see a problem

[Milly]

Can you afford to have a child without depending on the state? Does your boyfriend want a child? All you said is that you want a baby. Why do you want a baby? Remember, a baby is not an accessory. Children are very hard work. He/she will be dependent on you for 18 years. Are you really, really sure you want a baby?

[haywire]

Way too young. Live life a little, I'd say 25+ purely because there are better things to do when you're 20 that aren't having kids.