Is 19 too young to have kids?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. First of all congratulations.. second of all you going to be very happy
I'm happy that you are a leader and not a follower
and you're taking responsibility for your child because it is one of the most beautiful things that you are ever going to experience.

No matter what be happy be patient
.
Because your child is coming into the world to teach you so many different things

that's right
that's what I said because.

Your child is coming to teach you so many different things about life

About happiness about sadness
About love the true meaning of love

Unconditional love

The true meaning of patience of struggle of commitment

So remember this everyday the moment your child arrives he will start teaching you

be open-minded
And you have to learn it quickly
Because in the blink of an eye they will start watching you your every move your body language your facial expressions how you communicate

And then that's when you start teaching them every word that comes out of your mouth they will soak it up
Like a big old sponge

So stay calm at all times cuz if you have an attitude they're going to have an attitude
if your mouth and rude they're going to be mouthy. And rude
if you didn't learn how to love in the moment they were teaching you you won't be able to teach them..

Your job is to become the best parent ever your job is to make your child 100 times better than you
In everything possible
no matter what it is
your job is to make them better human being than you

And then this is when you have to make choices this is when you have to take a good look at yourself and see if your parents taught you the right way did they teach you morals values ethics because in everything you do you have to incorporate those to your child

When you ask the question I said yes and no

That was the no part because you're taking responsibility for another human being your child

I'm only going to tell you a little bit of the yes partner because it really doesn't matter
anymore.

Because we are here in the here and now in this moment you have decided to give up everything to have your baby

There are a lot of people out there that are selfish and would not do what you're doing you're going to find out it was well worth it all the things that you're going to miss out on you're going to gain in a different way

I'm not even going to go there on how much money you need to raise a child
Not going to go
And tell you how much is going to drain you
Some mentally prepare yourself and get yourself in shape make sure you take your vitamins
Make sure you get some sleep and take care of yourself
I'm not going to tell you about all the things that you should have in order before your baby arrives to make your life easier

I'm not even going to ask you if the father is going to be in your child's life
Because things change in heartbeat
If he's going to be congratulations if he's not
He needs to understand how expensive it is to have a baby to bring a child into the world and you need to teach him some responsibility by getting some money from him to raise your child as a single parent

No matter if he's going to be or not going to be in your child's life he needs to be responsible to one way or another

If he's not physically going to be there he needs to be there financially it's a 50-50 deal

Most men are not man enough to put their 50% in it's usually a struggle to get anything from them just be strong no matter what
And if you're on your own take it on it's a challenge
Take that challenge on full steam your child depends on you
There's going to be moments that you want to give up because it is hard
But depending on who you are you will find that strength and you will build on that strength to become even a better person in that struggle your child has come into the world to teach you many things you need to teach your child no matter how tough life gets you take it on and you win you become the best you don't show them weakness you show them nothing but strength and love because that's who they will grow up to be
I say good luck
And love deeply your child depends on you to do so

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

There are four factors to consider: biology, psychology, relationship status, and finances.

As everyone else has noted, biologically, it is a great time to have children. If you do all the right things, you are more likely to have a healthy pregnancy and a quicker recovery.

Psychologically, having a child means the end of living a life for yourself and the beginning of dedicating your life to your children. Once you have a child, it can't be undone. It means not going to the beach with your other female friends, not going out to clubs, and not doing many other things that you may have been doing up until now. It means waking up during the night to feed your baby, occasionally staying up all night because your baby is sick, and doing all of this without resentment or anger about the imposition on your life.

What is your relationship status? Every baby deserves to have both a mother and a father actively involved in their life, and that means marriage? You may think that you can be both a mother and a father to a child but you can't. No one can do that, because there are fundamental differences between mothers and fathers. If you are married, you should give your marriage at least two years to make sure that it will not fail in the early stages, and to give yourselves time to adapt to being married and prepare yourselves for starting a family.

Do you have the financial means to support yourself and a child? Having a baby with the plan of receiving public financial assistance is horribly selfish and condemns your child to living at a subsistence level. That would be irresponsible.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

I think a lot of factors are at play with young pregnancies, the biggest one being support systems. Does the mother have the support she needs to care for her child? Are the grandparents helping her out financially? Are they helping her out by giving childcare when she can’t?
The other main factor is the father, his age, his financial status, his job, his background, his relationship status to the mother, his commitment to fatherhood, etc. which fuels other questions about whether or not the mother being a mother at all is 100% her choice or it’s something she feels she HAS to do or risk losing one of the two factors above. I don’t see anything ethically wrong with being a young parent as long as they are supported by others and committed to raising the child to the best of their ability. It takes a village, after all. However, if she’s doing it because she doesn’t want to be shamed, or forcing a marriage, or because someone has threatened to leave her life/push her out of their lives if she didn’t carry the pregnancy to term, I find that to be a reason why she shouldn’t have a kid. Teenagers are incredibly vulnerable to manipulation by older peers and family members and shouldn’t go through with such choices if they’re only doing so because of that pressure.

thatshydork · Accepted Answer

First, I’d like to say that there’s nothing wrong with having kids at a young age. However, it does tend to be a lot harder because typically as a teenager/young adult you don’t have steady finances yet and are still learning how to have a good work-life-balance. That’s hard enough with adding a kid on top of that. Same goes for if you’re going to school and raising a kid.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Depends! Because many things can come around.. For instance...
If you "didn't live" you teen life then later on you'll realise that, and you could abandon the baby & the fater... Another is that can mess you up mentally, like if you lived in a toxic/abusive environment, you found the "escape route" by getting with a partner and building a family where you can "build" your own "bubble"... another is physical.. if you're to skinny you might have read that getting pregnant can "built" your body such as the extremeties, ofcourse that comes if you were complexed about the look of your body... and list can go on...

Zack-Bann · Answer

Physically no.

But for every other reason: yes.

I could list all the stuff you will miss out on but you already know them. And you’re willing to sacrifice them because the baby fever has you completely in a trans.

So I will just say this: a kid is not a project you can stop halfway. It’s for life
The commitment is bigger than marriage, there is no divorcing your kids

So the second you ring that bell you cannot unring it and that you should be made aware of when making your choice

My humble advice remains: 19 is too young to have kids

Tarifa · Answer

There is no right or wrong age to have a child. The correct age is when it feels right for you.

That being said, I think the most important questions to ask yourself are:

1. Do you have the full and unconditional support of your boyfriend (or simply put, the father of your child)?

2. If not, are you prepared to raise your child on your own? Not everyone is prepared to do so from an emotional point of view.

3. I’d try to make sure you have the full support of your closest family members, being your parents, brothers and sisters if any, uncles, aunts. They’re the ones who are going to be there for you when you badly need it.

4. Make sure it doesn’t get in the way of any plans you might have for the near future, most importantly your studies and, by extension, your professional career.

lightbulb27 · Answer

physically, it's a great age. my parents had kids around that age... back when your parents give you a few acres of land and a mule, you could make your own life... with your husband.

these days... girls better have a lot of family support. Govt will give you some $, but it's a lot to manage... those little kids. When don't have $ to deal with life, life gets hard and child suffers.

you could go in the military... but that's hard too.

So it's not advisable.

Trouble is... the human has not evolved hormonally to align with the economic times. So you have to ptry to postpone all that activity your body is demanding you to do... because it knows it is on borrowed time.

you still have 20+ years to make kids, that's plenty of time.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, it isn't, but will you be able to take care of them on your own just in case, and yes it does happen often.
Not saying having kids is a bad thing but they are a life sentence and will change your life forever.
They will get sick, teething, you will get 2 hours of sleep, have to go to work, it never ends.
A lot of women manage to raise them just fine, but being so young you will be missing out on a lot of things with your friends.
It might be better to wait another 5 or so years.
You will be olde, more mature, hopefully more financially secure, and will be able to provide them with a better life.

Anonymous · Answer

It 100% depends what your life situation is like. Age makes zero difference in the discussion. It's just that older girls typically have better life situations. If you have stable finances, a stable man, and a supportive family, there is no such thing as too young.

The main reason we even have age of consent laws so far past the age of sexuality is because of pregnancy and how young teens pretty much never have what I mentioned above. Initial case/law precedent even made pregnancy the focus of the law and excluded males from being victims of it. Like, until the late 90s it was 100% legal to sleep with underage boys, if you were a female. Because boys couldn't get pregnant. Look up the Edward Furlong situation. His parents were helpless.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really. It depends on a few things:

1) Are you in a great relationship?

2) Do you feel ready for kids? Or at the very least are you excited about having kids with your partner? Is he excited about it too?

3) Do you have a good financial base? Either some wealth or decent income?

If yes, then you're good to go! I actually think it's better to have kids when you're younger if you can. That way you're in great shape when you eventually have grandkids. You'll also have the right energy to raise your kids.

How old is your man?

aquamoon · Answer

The ideal age for having kids can depend on various factors such as emotional maturity, financial stability, and overall readiness. While some people may feel prepared to have children at 19, others may feel more comfortable waiting until they are older and more established in their lives. Ultimately, the decision to have children is a very personal one that should be made based on individual circumstances and readiness.

MisterWack · Answer

As long as it isn’t under 18, you are in good mental & physical well being, you have a good financial standing, a life partner, and you have a place to call ‘home’ for that family then I don’t see why you shouldn’t be able to make that important choice.

glennos89 · Answer

Personally I would advise you to wait a few more years because you are secrafising the best years of your life when you get pregnant at 19 years old.

Be wild and young and enjoy your youth a few more years. You can get children later but you can't get your youth back once you get older

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

It's young yea but if they have the stability financially and the parents have a healthy relationship, I don't believe I'd have any reason to say the couple aren't ready for a child when mentally they can be as ready as people that are older, it all depends on the maturity of the parents and their financial position.

EzOwlz · Answer

Your body your choice anything over 18+ is fine if you and your partner are okay with it having kids go for it. I'm assuming you've already had tons of talk with family and friends before I hope.

art84 · Answer

My friend was 19 years old or 20 when she had her first baby. I don't know if she was ready to be a mom at a young age though she had a husband who was in his late 20's. He probably didn't want to wait any longer to be a father and they were dating for 2 years. Both had an apartment and jobs to support the baby and family members to help out.

LeatherDame · Answer

While I personally recommend waiting, there are certainly perks to having your kid already be entering middle school around the time you’re 30 and still able to go out and live a life.

Raaj4you · Answer

No, I don't think so. If you and your boyfriend/ husband are making enough money and have good financial backup then you should get pregnant. It's okay to become a mom at young age. Some career oriented girls are afraid of dating, marriage and kids. But you can learn everything on the go, study and get a job. You will be ahead of others in terms of creating a family. You will have more experience than others as a mom, you can set an example for others.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as the father has a career you're fine. As long as the father is not a drug addict living on Section 8 housing which is very common to see.

Gold618 · Answer

That would depend, on lots of things. For example, whether or not you're able to afford to look after a child at that stage in your life, and whether or not the father is the kind of person to actually hang around and not abandon you.

itsannalee · Answer

Nope as long as you are ready in financially and emotionally. You have to think 20 years ahead to support and provide your children. If you think you can afford it, there is nothing wrong with having kids in the young age.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Not really it depends on you and your level of maturity also whom your having the baby with and where his head is at. Are you in a good situation financially cause it cost a lot of money to raise a baby. If thst you in the pic congratulations and your pregnancy really agrees with you

Finchie40 · Answer

Apparently not, I know girls’ that had babies at 16 17 years old , and the babies came out fine , so nope , 19 is t to young apparently

butterly248 · Answer

If they have a safe home, support, and you are financially and emotionally ready, then no, it's not too young

worldscolide · Answer

Biologically no, its the best time for your body to have kids.. Psychologically, only you can answer that. Only you can answer weather or not you're ready. When I was your age I definitely was not ready, nor was my wife. So we waited.

Abbycado · Answer

If you have to ask, you shouldn't be having kids at that age.

AviatorTom · Answer

I wouldn't recommend it, but if you are in an emotionally and financially stable relationship, and have no problem giving the next 18 years or so to your growing child, 19 is not too young.

genericname85 · Answer

yeah. but life happens. it is what it is. hope you can cope with the responsibility cause you gotta have some maturing to do still that people usually do slightly later in life cause they don't have kids yet.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

If you can afford a living situation, pay bills, out food in the table, save for retirement , and a little for the kids future you're in an optimal situation. If you can't do most of these then no in my opinion

CharlieTheNerd2008 · Answer

Too young for planned pregnancy yes but unplanned, teenages dont pay attention in class and are shocked when their partners up the daff

Purpleronnie · Answer

Physically and biologically , generally no obviously not but mentally , emotionally and life experience wise in my opinion … YES !

Surely · Answer

At 19. Your body is better able to handle the physical stress of pregnancy. But lots of people are not ready for the mental challenges that having children brings to light. Hopefully, you are not one of them. Good luck!

exitseven · Answer

If you have enough money to support both you and your baby than it is okay. If you have to go go welfare than no.

4ngelic · Answer

biologically no practically and mentally yes

Gwendoline · Answer

If you haven't a partner who can support you yes. I have a child.

AnonAndrew · Answer

As long as there's enough money and other support to take care of the kid, then it's fine.

molonski2 · Answer

My then wife had our first at 19 years , biologically speaking its actually the best time.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's not too young biologically. I know I wouldn't have been able to handle it at that age, though.

Desi_Butcher · Answer

It's all dependent on how mature the particular couple is and how well they can go about this responsibility.

Anonymous · Answer

well umm lets just say you probably can't support yourself much less a child unless the guy is like 37 and in that case well you got issues there starting with creepy

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

D**N SKIPPY !!!(If we're talking marriage, men shouldn't wed until forty, women thirty to thirty-five, and if bethrothed younger, twenty-five to thirty-five is a great age to have children.)

LukeAurelin · Answer

Apart from financial burden it is obviously ur choice

slatyb · Answer

Many 19-year-olds do have children. Raising them is another problem.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

If it's by choice then not, if it's by accident then yes. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Yes. And this is coming from someone who was a young parent.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Not if you're physically capable but, it's best to wait `til at least 18.

Makeushiver · Answer

What a lovely body. I'd be happy to hold those tits for you if that would help. I am here to serve

animesenpai · Answer

The ideal age is when you financial stable enough to support them and give them th3bhest life possible

Yannae · Answer

If you are an indepent functional adult that can already get by and thrive on your own, no it's not.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think so but we all have different values and desires. Just enjoy some protected sex for a while

kiktimbu · Answer

So long as you have the necessary support in place it's fine.

Kelly6 · Answer

Yes it is safe, I had my first kid when I was 19

Massageman · Answer

Too young to be married, yet alone have kids. Human brains don't mature until after 26.

RingOfFire · Answer

Biologically no. But in the vast majority of cases it's too young to be a good parent.

TallAnon · Answer

No, but consider that your entire life will be about your kids from now on; Perhaps take some time to enjoy your own first?

TrustOfWorthington · Answer

The question is if you are financially, physically and mentally ready for it. In the End it is your choice. And your responsibility.

Anonymous · Answer

all these negative comments are looking for the worst case scenario possible SMH

lorenzomichael · Answer

Yeah it is. When I was 19 years old I didn’t know shit. Not a dam thing.

jahaims · Answer

99.9% of 19 years olds are too immature to be a good parent

msc545 · Answer

Far too young. A 19 year old is a child herself.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

It's the ideal age.

Slim57 · Answer

Yes. People under 30 are too stupid these days to have kids.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think so it's a bad age... in some cities younger age girls getting matured and become

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