My sister is better than me in every way, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I have a sister who is prettier, thinner, and wittier. I have ADHD and mental health issues, whicj she doesn't struggle with. Objectively I know I am just as intelligent as her, we have very similar IQs, but my friend keeps calling me the stupid sister, and when I make a comment refers to me as such. He calls her the better sister, and I'm afraid my other friends agree. I have low self esteem and this doesn't help. I can't stop being friends with this guy as we are in the same friend group at uni.

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Just to clarify, the others in my friend group think he's being a dick.

[FakeName123]

1. Your friend is shit for calling you the stupid sister.

2. It does not matter, if you are the better or worse sister. Even if you were - it does not matter. What matters is you building up self-esteem and confidence independent of others. No one is perfect to begin with.

And don't give me the "I'm afraid my other friends agree and this behaviour doesn't help"-excuse. You - and ONLY you - are responsible for your own well-being which includes your mental well-being in terms of self-esteem and confidence.

[HorrorFan]

The only solution is to murder your sister and mail a different part of her body to all of the friends that have ever claimed her to be better.

In all honesty, tell him to fuck off. You aren't in competition with your sister. You are who you are, she is who she is. That won't change. Get away from the cancerous bullshit and if it splinters the group, so be it. At least then you'd find out who your real friends are.

[LiaPuffx]

I'd sT, find better friends. cause they're not good ones.

I can understand how you'd feel the need to compare yourself. It's only natural for girls to do that. It sucks, but it's natural. you could try surrounding yourself with a positive encouraging support group of people, like a church or something. They always have nice things to say.

[lovydoey]

U don't have to compare yourself and u have to build up your confidence. Because u put yourself like if u live in ur sister shadows. Or that u have to be identical to her.

Building up ur self confidence, self love and self esteem will help u

[Elarra]

He sounds like a cunt. That's not a friend. Ditch him. And you're sister is not better than you, just different.

[Man4DaJoB]

the matter of thinner is if u want to get skinnier go for it if not don't, prettier I guess everyone thinks he is uglier than he actually is.
nobody by any means should make u feel uncomfortable in anyway just express ur intolerance to such a behaviour if not cut him off
finally do not think of your sister as a obstacle rather than a motivation also u can't blame her for working harder if u wanted work for it gal

[WalterRadio]

Don't compare yourself to anyone else besides you.

Are you a better a person than you were a year ago?

[YelahGrandi]

Well you can gtfo off this site and learn something on Coursera and prove that you're smarter than her.

[TryingToWriteBooks]

1. you're fucked
2. this friend group sounds useless
3. ditch them all

[holly6901]

I'm sure your better at something than your sister and anyway don't bother comparing

[Paul1236]

At least you're in univeraity, I can't ever get to university.

[AriadneSky]

Why?

[Paul1236]

@AriadneSky Sucky grades, lazy at highschool?

[AriadneSky]

you can still go to community college then transfer if you do well. not too late :)

[Paul1236]

@AriadneSky Some courses do that, not many. You're quite intelligent, how are you "stupid"?

[Paul1236]

I have ADD myself. Don't pay attention to them, they want to get at you.

[AriadneSky]

What do you mean some courses do that. course do not do anything. Get your core courses out of the way, then figure out what you want to major in Take the required course do well and transfer. minimally you get an associates degree. You can also complete your credits at a state school.

[Paul1236]

@AriadneSky I'm from Canada. There are "bridge" programs where one can go to college for the particular program and transfer to university after he/she has excelled.

[AriadneSky]

oh i see.

ok, and none of the suit your preference?

[Paul1236]

@AriadneSky nope

[AriadneSky]

but can't you take individual courses?

[Paul1236]

@AriadneSky yes but why? You're wasting so much money.

[AriadneSky]

mm true.

[AriadneSky]

you can stop being friends with anyone you want.

[Daynada]

Fuck your friends! Get new ones!

[Daynada]

Well he is