My best friend now seems to like my sister more than me :(

[Anonymous]

it makes me really sad. I met my best friend in 11th grade. Me and my sister went to different schools at the time. My best friend is a year younger than me (lets call her J) and my sister is 2 years younger than me (lets call her T). I never had a friend like J. We became best friends instantly and always confided in each other, helped each other when going through a hard time, and had fun. So anyway, then next year I became a senior, J was in 11th grade and T was in 10th. That year, J came to our school. We all hung out together, but it was always that me and J were best friends and T was my sister who also hung out with us sometimes. We are all really close, but me and J were always closer than J and T. But this year, I went to college, and they're both at the same school. My sister is more silly & outgoing, and I'm more of a trustworthy/always there for you type. I guess it makes sense, but it still makes me feel horrible that it really seems that J likes T more and finds her more fun. Its just that I feel like I'm losing J, and me and T have kind of faded our close sister relationship because we're really different and argued too much throughout high school. I don't know how to describe how I feel. Its like the friend version of a heartbreak. I don't have other friends like J, and T has lots of great friends (even though she doesn't appreciate it). Idk...i know I'm just being an idiot but I feel like T stole J from me. And T is probably definitely more fun than me(even though I lived with her all of my life until this year so I know she's really an immature, careless bitch). Ugh I just don't know how to get over this. Has anyone else been through a similar situation? :(

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what it's about that makes people like another person more than someone else but I'm in the same place and have always been that way ever since I can remember basically, when I started to make friends which was around 12 years of age.

We are both chubby girls, but my sister is 2 years older than I and our childhood friend of 16 years is one year older than my sister Anna but she is tall and skinny. I don't talk much and my sister can talk more than me when it comes to other people, she will force herself to open up to people and talk to them even when shy, whereas, I will not and keep to myself but when it comes to her we laugh and have a good time, all three of us but our friend tends to lean towards my sister and they started chatting it up and laughing together and I feel so left out I just end up finding something else to do.

My friend is 3 months pregnant and she said I could be the God Mother but then she mentioned my sister being the God Mother and My Mom said how me and Brigitte (our friend) are very close and that I could be but there are hints about my sister still like when we left the conversation altogether we went upstairs and she was saying how My sister and her boyfriend could be the God Mother/Father. I just ignored it because she tends to do things to purposefully make me mad. Sometimes she says people say I'm ugly but then she'll say otherwise so I'm really confused but it hurts my feelings because I do more for her than any other person when she comes to visit. I will cater to her and other people will make her get what she wants instead of them doing it for her.

I guess she prefers my sister but she tries not to hurt my feelings; she won't always admit the truth, she will lie when it comes to asking her something but eventually she will spill the beans and tell you the truth.
I don't know anymore. I do too much for someone who doesn't do the same for me. What a backstabber. Stay away from people who are users!

[Opinion Owner]

You're right! My friend who is 15 while I'm 16 tends to like my older sister more than me and it hurts my feelings to because I am the one who buys her fits while my sister doesn't even care to pay attention her as much as me. I guess we do too much for others so they think they need not impress us in any way unlike how she impresses our sisters.

[philosophersdilemma]

Yeah, this has certainly happened to me.

It's definitely hard to lose friends you love... But consider it this way: you didn't really lose anyone. The way I see it, you're sad that your best friend will love your sister more, and that you'll be left with no one. But that's not the case at all. Friendships that are worth it (and it seems like yours is) require dedication and work. They don't come easily and keeping them takes a lot more effort than one may think. Instead of focusing on the negative (that you're not as directly a part of their lives anymore because you're in a different school), focus on the positives. People aren't drawn to negativity, and if that's what you project, you'll drive your friends away from you. Try to be happy that they're in your life, and be happy that they have each other as well. Being fun and being a good friend is about having fun together--if you bring up bad things all the time, you'll be less pleasant to be around. Just relax and go with the flow. This way, you'll attract more positive people and won't feel as depressed.

I hope that helped.

[olololl]

I don't know if you'll read this, but I think it's actually a blessing that you have a SISTER close your age, maybe you both are very different, but if you try to get along more with her I promise she'll be the best friend you've ever had, and then it will be even a bigger blessing that your best friend J gets along so well with your sister, your two best friends in the whole world. Don't be scared of T stealing your friend, be scared of J stealing your sister. Friends come and go, friends are just there because of the periods of time or places you share with them, like school, college, work, most friendships end when those periods of life fisnish, it depends on where you guys are, but the real best friends who will never leave your side are in your family.

[Anonymous]

This is incredibly EXACTLY like my situation; like, down to my sister's characteristics as well as mine. And I have no idea what to do! At first I just tried to think of it as a temporary thing - oh, she like my sister more, but it just seems like that for the time being because my sis has been around lately. But the more I pay attention to it, the more it makes me depressed. The two will text constantly and talk on Facebook ALL THE TIME, when my "best friend" texts me or messages me maybe once a week, if that. Before we used to be joined at the hip, but now she just seems so distant. What should I do?