I always tell my girlfriend that I love her but when I ask her do she love me she would say "no I hate you" jokingly then she will say haha.
Why does my girlfriend tells me that she hates me jokingly?
The little girls that used to try to flirt do the same thing with me. They do that with those they have a crush on. Some don't grow out of it. It's not a bad thing, unless it becomes mean spirited.
I teach at an elementary school; I was talking to a student last fall, and she had a Jonas brothers travel cup (it was hers). The mom comes in to pick her up.
"Don't forget your Jonas Brothers cup!"
"Eww, no I hate them! That's not mine! They're disgusting and ugly! and they sing bad!"
"Well, it's not mine. It's not Miss Seyburns... at least I don't think so... So which one do you hate the most... uh... there's a Nick, right?"
::interrupting:: "Nick, Kevin, and Joe"
"What song do you like the most?"
"I hate 'What I Go to School For' and 'Burnin' Up' - I hate all their music!"
"Wow, for hating them and not listening to them much, you sure do know a lot about them! I think you doth protest too much!"
"Eww! No I don't! I hate them!..."
"Let me get this straight... you hate them, yet you drink from your pink Jonas Brothers cup; you bring them up in class, (which she did) and after. You know their names, and their songs..."
:The mom pipes in: "and she's got a few posters!"
"Really?" ::amused:: "and you have like 20 posters on your wall that you kiss goodnight and..."
"No I don't! I only have 2 posters!"
:doing an impression: "Oh Jonas brothers on my cup, I wish you were REAL! ::smoochy faces::-
"NO I DON'T!"
Well, if it's not your cup, then I'll just bring it to the lost and found, then!"
"No!" ::Grab:: and she runs out the door with her mom laughing.
I think it's just something they come up with from an early age; Just be playful and tease her back a little - don't be cruel, but just a little... gutsy.
"I hate you!"
"No you don't, you think I'm a studmuffin! You can barely keep your hands off me!"
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Tension is usually a good thing. She's probably just trying to create passion. You are probably OK.
Do NOT say you love her to often. It can be over done Seriously, this is so hard for a lot of us to accept because it is the opposite of what hollywood teaches us.
I have a question, has she NEVER said she loved you? If she was avoiding saying it, that would imply you loved her a lot more than she loved you. That would make for a very unhealthy relationship.
But if this is just a joke she says sometimes, it sounds harmless.
man I hate girls like this... she's trying to flirt with you dude. she thinks its cute, she doesn't mean it seriously, but yeah if its starting to get on your nerves, just tell her. I know a lot of girls that find it funny to say "i hate you" or "shut up, you're a retard" because they think its apparently seductive. just tell her its annoying. she'll either take it and appriciate the honesty, or freak out, if she freaks out, then its stupid because you're just being open and honest with her. would she rather you suffer in silence. good luck bro, hope she's just an awesome girl going through an annoying phase :) tc.
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She may not know that she loves you yet. She may not feel loved enough to know she wants to love you. She's proably been hurt in the past by someone who said lved her and she loved them and said it, so she figures she won't get hurt(or at least not as much) if she doesn' say it. There are many reasons to why she doesn't say she loves you. But to me it sounds like she's afraid to say she loves you but she's trying to say obviously I love you by saing no I hate you. I can go much deeper, so please feel welcome to chat/friend me. And anyone else who wants to chat/friend me that's cool.
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My boyfriend will jokingly say I hate you to me too, but, he's just playing around with me, and he likes to see how I'll reply...he thinks it's cute when I pretend to be mad at him. Idk, sounds like she's just being sarcastic, if it bothers you, ask her why she does this. Has she said I love you to you before?
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You might not believe this but what you're doing is annoying her. She likely feels like your question "do you love me?" is REALLY needy and unattractive. And instead of encouraging you by saying, "yes dear" she's trying to make you STOP by teasing you.
If she's with you then does it really matter if she loves you?
Figure out why you're being so needy and do your best to resolve it before you scare this girl away.
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hoenstly bro I belive she with you for something other than love. I don't know if that would be sex, money, materialistic reasons but I really don't believe its love. Even though there are sarcastic people out there that literally live with the trill of toying with peoples emotions which it seems pretty clear she is. I would have to say be careful because it sounds like you can be dispensible.
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She could just be joking with you or maybe she's not comfortable saying it yet. But I tell my guy friend that I hate him in a good way. I tell him that because I know that he likes me-he told me-but I'm not sure if I like him like that. But I always say it in a jokingly way and to think of it I think he would prefer me not to say that...
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as a girl, I can tell you, that if she actually hated you, she would NEVER joke about hating you.
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Maybe she thinks it's stupid that you're asking her if she loves because she thinks the answer is obvious.
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either she's unsure of how she feels or feels like you should know the answer to that question. has she said that she loves you before?
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Stop asking her if she loves you. It makes you look needy and desperate. If she wants to say it let her say it on her own.
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yeah girl say that subconsciously to evoke a response out of guys. they want to see if you would care if they really did. weird I know
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If I did that with my boyfriend, that means I'm joking but I care a lot for him.
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Maybe she is unsure that she loves you and doesn't want to say it until she's sure.
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Let her say it on her own. She might love you, but it's not ready to say it yet. Give it time man.
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We are girls were confusing we always do that stuff! Trust me she like you more than ever
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it's just a cute little saying lol
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Its a way of flirting, playing hard to get.
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