Why Does She Act Like I Hate Her?

[Anonymous]

I know this girl for 2 years and she's always been a bit odd. We're in college. One time when I was exiting the classroom I saw her walking down the stairs with her friend and I pretended I didn't notice them. What I noticed however was that when I was passing by, she left the maximum distance she could.
I rarely talk to this girl so I'm not even talking to her.

Also, she once asked me "why do you hate me?" - Another time i asked her about something in class and she said "you talked to me !!" in a surprised manner. Why?

Here's also some key things I noticed :

- We text maybe once every 3 months
- I fely like she was talking to other guys in front on me to make me jealous ( I once caught her looking at me with the corner of her eye after talking to one classmate )
- We used to talk a lot last year
- On a certain period, she used to look at me with a sad look on her face (like a disappointed person)
- I once was getting out of class and politely asked her to let me pass, the next day I found she was pissed off which I expected (maybe because I talked to her like a stranger?)
-She almost never texts me (Neither do I)
-She acts friendly then ignores me the next day (I started doing it too)
-When I talk to her it's like there's a tension between us. (Only happens with her)
-She once said "why do you hate me?" (jokingly but seemed like it was a bit real)
-She sometimes looks at me with the corner of her eye (she rarely makes eye contact, it only started happening this year)
- One time I was getting out of class then I asked her to send me some stuff that I needed to study, she replied with : "You talked to me !!" - she was really surprised.
-When I talk to her I feel some kind of tension between us (only happens with her)
-Just so you know she's an OUTGOING girl so she's not shy or anything.
-One time I met her on the bus, she passed extremely close to me in front of me and she was smiling to herself.

Idea?

[Anonymous]

"What I noticed however was that when I was passing by, she left the maximum distance she could. "

She may have done that if she didn't think you had seen them walking to give you enough space without walking into them, or it may be because as you said she asked you why you hate her, so she could think feel awkward about seeing you thinking you don't like her.

What about her makes you think she is odd?
It could be that she isn't as confident in herself as you think or that you are unknowingly giving her vibes that you don't like her ( if you don't hate her you could acknowledge her in situations similar to when you were walking but pretended not to notice, smile or say hello as you walk past her)

"We text maybe once every 3 months"

How did you both get each other's numbers? Was there a stage that you would both talk more than you do now or was it more for class?
"I feel like she was talking to other guys in front on me to make me jealous ( I once caught her looking at me with the corner of her eye after talking to one classmate"

Not always there could be many different reasons
- you may have even staring so she was looking back
- she may have been looking at something else
- she may have been looking at what you were doing
some people will look at others while they are talking to someone but it doesn't always mean that they are trying to make that person jealous.

"We used to talk a lot last year"

What changed?

"On a certain period, she used to look at me with a sad look on her face (like a disappointed person)"

Was that after you both stopped talking as much? It may just be that she misses talking to you or wonders why you aren't talking as much as you used to.

"I once was getting out of class and politely asked her to let me pass, the next day I found she was pissed off which I expected (maybe because I talked to her like a stranger?)"

There's nothing wrong with trying to be polite when asking someone to move out of your way.

"She almost never texts me (Neither do I)"

When use do text what is it about usually? Also it makes sense that she wouldn't when she feels like you don't like her, I wouldn't message someone I thought didn't like me.

"She acts friendly then ignores me the next day (I started doing it too)"

When you say ignore do you mean you will talk to her and she doesn't respond or you don't try to talk to her and she doesn't talk to you?

"When I talk to her it's like there's a tension between us. (Only happens with her)"

Did

[Opinion Owner]

Did you ever date her or do you like her or think she might like you?

"She sometimes looks at me with the corner of her eye (she rarely makes eye contact, it only started happening this year)"

She may not be confident when she talks to you (which once again goes back to thinking you don't like her.)

"One time I was getting out of class then I asked her to send me some stuff that I needed to study, she replied with : "You talked to me !!" - she was really surprised."

I'll be honest this may have offended her if use were once friends as she may have felt like that was all you wanted but won't talk to her or acknowledge her at times.

"Just so you know she's an OUTGOING girl so she's not shy or anything."

Even outgoing girls can not be confident especially if they think you don't like them.

[Asker]

Here's more detail with answers to your questions :
-What about her makes you think she is odd? She's very moody and unpredictable. One moment she's friendly, later she pretends I don't exist.

-How did you both get each other's numbers? I asked her for her Fb account and no it wasn't really for class.

- What changed?
She suddently started to be friendly then ignore me last year at the begining of the 2nd semester. I don't know why.

- Was that after you both stopped talking as much? Yes

- When you say ignore do you mean you will talk to her and she doesn't respond or you don't try to talk to her and she doesn't talk to you? I mean she tries to avoid eye contact and pretend she didn't see me when I'm extremely close.

- Did you ever date her or do you like her or think she might like you? Never dated.

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[Opinion Owner]

It may be because you have admitted to doing the same thing to her (walking past pretending not to notice her) because you had made the step of asking to contact her which because it wasn't for class she would have assumed you wanted to be friends or more with her.

I think because she has just made the assumption that you don't like her she has changed or backed off.

"she tries to avoid eye contact and pretend she didn't see me when I'm extremely close"

You admitted to doing the same thing also though :-) maybe she is waiting to see if you will start talking to her especially since she acts surprised when you do.

Honestly I think the best thing you can do is go up and start talking to her more if you like her (even as a friend) because pretending you didn't see each other is not going to change anything, even if use are busy when walking past each other just acknowledging each other by a smile or hello or a wave will change things and make her realise you don't hate her.

[Asker]

I think i didn't mention something. You say I'm also confusing her and you're right but keep in mind that I only started playing the same game after a month of noticing that she's ignoring and stuff.

It was only way after she started doing it I also did. At that time I started to realize she was doing it on purpose so why should i continue to acknowledge her when she never does?

The point is that i only started to do the same thing just because she suddently acted weird

[theoddowl]

I think she likes u but doesn't want to show it