I just had a agnostic muslim friend (he was raised Muslim, and his wife and daughter were Muslim) from Boston come stay at my house, and I walked in on him dead, right before I went to work to.
He lived out in Michigan near our house, some years ago back in 2009-2012 then he moved to Oklahoma. Then in 2016 he moved to Boston. He always would come visit for a week and crash at our place (Dads house, my older brother, and me). My dad would take him out drinking and they would just relax have a good time. My brother and I liked to just take walks with him and talk about life and philosophy. He was a very brilliant man, loved Ernist Hemingway, Mark Twain, was a former doctor, did nothing but read and watch movies and listen to music. He had an arranged marriage with his wife. They had one daughter together. She was from a very wealthy family and she was a nurse. So she pays for everything, he stayed at home with their daughter.
He came out this year, my brother and I picked him up from the airport, and on his first night here May 9th he went out drinking. His hands were shaking and he was out of it, but seemed more sober than he used to ever get in the past. He went to his room, closed the door and the next morning I went to check on him, his door was unlocked, I knocked no answer. I went in and saw him lying there, cold to the touch. Called 911 immediately but as you guessed it was already to late at this point... He was supposed to be out here for seven days, and he was planning on letting me take him to church and he was thinking about becoming Baptised, but he was a servere drinking problem and was on multiple psychiatric medication for stress, anxiety, and depression. His best friend some Muslim women you was childhood friends with said he always kept to himself and never talked openly about his problems. Or health issues. We told her he smoked like a chimney, and had the drinking problem, and he was on all those different meds. We don't know what the cause of death was. The toxicology report is not complete yet
He just turned 40 and that was when he got really depressed. My dad met him first in case you were wondering back when he was in his early mid thirtys. But he was kinda like a cool older brother to my brother David and I
Many.
Time passed. We went different directions. I moved around a LOT. Had a very good friend die.
Except for the one who died, it all boils down to not making enough effort to stay friends no matter what the other reasons were. In some cases it probably wasn't worth the effort, in other cases it was.
However I'd still consider all of them friends, even the ones I haven't seen or had contact with in 35 years or more.
I have lost many friends... Or people I thought to be my friends, but they weren't. One moved away and didn't keep in touch, although the fact that she returned for vacation and did not even once consider to come and say hi, did help me "get over" the situation. One just stopped talking to me due to a misunderstanding. We talked a few years later, I never found out what really made her mad, but we are not as close as we used to be. One ditched me because she found a new "bestie" who eventually stole the guy she was interested into despite my constant warnings about her "bestie's" sneaky nature. One moved away too, but despite my best efforts to keep in touch with her, she never tried to do so as well. One just decided to leave me all alone during a school trip, knowing that I had no other "friend" to be with and prefered to hand out with her other "friends" who were more or less the popular girls of the school. And the final blow came from someone that I really thought to be my best friend, but she turned out to be a back-stabbing bitch, who was very happy to transfer some very insulting things a few "friends" of her said about me and my family, did not even get in trouble to defend me, lied to my face constantly and probably used me the entire time we were "friends". I have such a great record...
As you become older, you will lose lots of friends.
I lost a close friend of mines. I don't know how. She just simply ignored me and changed when she had new friends. She became unreliable, always changing her mind when hanging out with me and our old friends. Everything is always about her now.
I realized now that she is fake. It took me so many years. Our old highschool friends didn't want to be around her and I never knew why until now. She is a narcisst and doesn't know how to value herself which is why she doesn't value her friends. Ditched me and our friends to go impress this one guy who she kept complaining about. I don't talk to her as much anymore. Because then it would mean it's okay for her to use me.
So the pic quote is so true. I didn't lose a friend. I gained more life years by distancing myself away from negative and emotionally draining people. ++++
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I lost my best friend in domestic violence and miss her so much. She died in 2014 and was/is the true definition of a best friend. I was also in domestic violence and during these hard times wished everyday she was here. She was the only best friend that I had from high school till the very end. We sat next to each other during classes, stayed laughing and talking. After graduation we were still friends, and even after I moved away for college. It took me a while to let her death go and forgive myself. Our art teacher called us partner in crimes because we stay together. We shared sooo many laughs that the day she tried to reach me I was in domestic violence as well. I didn't have any way to communicate because my abuser broke my phone. I had to remove all social media and didn't know her family were looking for me. I didn't know anything happened to her until I returned home. I returned home to my cousin telling me something happened to her. This entire time her family was looking for me, and I was in my own blood. Nobody was able to reach me at all until I moved back. I snapped out of my own pain and ran to her family side. I seen the pain on her daughter face and couldn't do anything but cry. The entire family were all looking for me and wondered what happened. I regret it till this very day not running away sooner and regret not having the strength. I placed my blood, sweat, and tears into her homicide case. Nobody could tell me anything different about her not one damn day. This was in fact my best friend and I didn't give up helping detectives place her killer behind bars. It was heartbreaking looking into her Facebook seeing she was trying to contact me. I miss my best friend so much and it took not even a month for me to help bring him to justice. I owed my best friend that and know she is so proud of me. I learned from her death that not everyone know what is wrong with the person and she was always good at hiding stuff. Her inbox looked awful and broke down crying immediately. I missed all the signs because her Facebook page looked way different than the inbox. I lost my very best friend in 2014 and won't forget it. I never forget us talking for hours and the hugs. She told me things that found out later she never told anyone, and should have made sure she told her mother this. It turned out she never did. So I was left with all her secrets feeling guilty thinking she told her mom already as she told me she did. I miss her so much :(
People just grow up and pass you by. In elementary school, I had friends who I thought were pretty great because they were kind. They moved away. We didn't go to the same middle or high schools. In middle school, I didn't have any friends except one during my first year. I changed middle schools and got some friends after that. Not all of them were kind, and I was kind of moody after some troubling events in my first year of middle school where I developed into becoming suicidal. Middle schoolers are harsh. I still think I could have grown up to be a better person if I wasn't surrounded by such a negative environment. Anyways, in high school, it got a little better, but it wasn't really great.
About 3.
But like, real friends.
I'm not counting just temporary people cause that's closer to 50 or something.
2 of them are brothers, they were just not good people to be around, I definitely made the right decision leaving them behind.
Another I ended things with cause she became super annoying and I just completely lost interest in her. This one was hard to let go cause we'd been best friends for like 6 years, we had feelings for each other the whole time. But I don't miss her; never really think about her.
I had friends when i was 13 my mom was abusive emotionally and mentally and control freak she screwd up my friendships.
i met a guy at 14 we kept being friends until he went to med school and started to strive to be accepted socially from his classmates and i walked away
i went to college i tried to have friends they all were emotionally abusive and envious i left them all
i went back to college same thing happened
now i can say i have no friends the only friend i got was that guy when i was 14 now he is going to my fam almost daily begging them my number but i already moved on.
I lost all the people I tought they were close friends. But actually most of them are trash that wants no school , just drugs , sex or alcohol. And since I broke ties , Im feeling better.
The only true friend I have. Its my boyfriend (i know its sound sad to many but for me its enough ). We play sports together. Go to gym. Cook dinner or try to do it. He sometimes do makeup on me and help me choose clothes etc.
He is the best influence in my life. Even my parents like him.
But I still have some "friends" , people who I talk to and go here and there at a coffe etc. But I dont consider them close friends.
No, I don't even have any that died. But there is one who betrayed me and I kinda never confessed what he did to his face, but I rather stayed like a friend to him and psychologically made him feel like not cared, ignored with my other best friend. It was better to put him into a situation like that and he deserved it completely. He was my best friend for 9 years and I do not seek any regret of it
Also they say 18 to 25 is the period where you meet a lot of temporary people in life. They can't be considered as ur friends (usually)
I've had a group of friends last year. One of the girls was being manipulative, and tried for everybody in our group to fix her problems. She would call us, text us non stop, say things, and blame others for her faults. It got to the point we couldn't take her anymore, we had to stop being friends with her. Although after that, I didn't talk to the other people in the group after that.
I've lost a few pretty close friends, mainly because they moved away and we didn't managed to really keep contact. We still got eachother on facebook and stuff but only message maybe once every other year.
A few of my friends died. One committed suicide. The quote doesn't exactly apply in those cases. With some we have still kept in touch but they moved away after getting married. It is the way of things. All things come to an end as I see it.
Some are living in different countries now which with different times and all that which causes us not communicate like before not being able to spend time and hang out with together and some they just changed and live their lives. Miss them a lot!
I have lost every single friend I ever had. I have one friend atm but we’re graduating soon so I will lose him as well.
Lost touch with a number of friends over the years. People move to different places, people change over time, lives get in the way. Going back a few years social media wasn't so prevalent so easier to loss touch
I have lost several people I used to consider close friends, we just went our separate ways in life.
But every once in a while someone will return to your life and you may pick up right where y'all left off.
I agree though, real friends can never be lost no matter how long of the distance or time between speaking to each other.
ohhhh. lost as in grew apart. i thought you meant died.
I lost some but I'm glad im not friends with them because they were backstabbers.
I’ve lost a few but as I’ve gotten older I realise I don’t need 100 friends and I’m happy with just a few and I really enjoy being on my own sometimes
I have lost many but I don't miss any of 'em... they shouldn't be called friends I guess
I mean you can lose friends if they die... but thankfully this hasn't happen to me
To put it bluntly, I've lost all of my childhood friends.
That used to be a fear of mine is losing friends. But over the course of my time and having to lose someone I was really close to. It was hard at start but you learn not to care later.
Lmao yes and I hate that bitch. She was my ex best friend.
Just one... My younger brother..
He snapped in his top floor
I have lost many throughout the years.
After having a baby most of my friends disappeared because I couldnt go out anymore.. That was probably the hardest
Only the mean one's who only care about hurting you.
Yes i have lost so many and to be honest i dont really care
I lost one to time, one to suicide, and many to distance.
Yes, he was sick, he died. I loved him like a brother litteraly and yes I miss the guy.
One of my friends I sat with in economics committed suicide and another got hit by a train.
Friends come and Go but God... He is Your Bestie. xxoo
Yes. I played "hide and don't seek" with them. In retrospect, I'm a terrible (but hilarious) person...
I don't contact a girl I used to call a friend because she lives abroad, also one friend failed to help me in a very important case.
Yes, 4 of my friends died in their 20s and one at 33.
one died three weeks ago
thank you
Never... cuz I have only 4 friends
Like pairs of socks, they come and go.
Yes best decision I have ever made in my life
They just moved out of the country
Or went to colleges in other cities
Yeah it happened to me
Mine mostly just drift away.
Yes i have. Some even started to hate me smh.
This pic is wrong on so many levels
Well, you come in this world alone and then you die alone.
Many of my friends are dead
I do not want to say why he is gone
I've had a lot of friendships that just fizzed out
A lot of good ones
Yes people do die.
Some.
Yes..
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