Boyfriend going out all the time?

[sara2]

My boyfriend goes out all the time. I know where he is going so I know he is not cheating but it seems like he chooses to go out instead of being with me. He tells me he misses me. What should I do? I told him I want to see him all the time

[muddbubble]

been in this situation before but mine was a little different he would tell me we would hang out then I wouldn't see him until really late so the best advice I can give you is to tell him it bothers you for the simple fact he says he misses you but then goes to hang with the boys in all understanding yes guys need time alone but going out all the time without you is frustrating trust me I understand and my bfs friends were a bunch of dbags that didn't have respect for him having a girlfriend so I made him choose between me or them because it gets old fast. And obviously they weren't that great of friends because he chose me and were comin up on our 1 yr. So be honest with him and ask him to share his time equally between going out with friends and you and if that doesn't work try my technique some men don't understand what they have until they're about to lose it

[Anonymous]

let him go out alot. guys like that & never pull him back. don't tell him. you can do smth different. call your girlfriends & go out have fun without him. dress faboulous, join gym...etc..do whatever to make him feel you're enjoying without him. guys will feel intimidated more than if you tell him bluntly. do & keep me updated :)

Ah & when he tells you OK I'm going out with the guys never moan & say oh I miss you oh go out with me stay with me. never even if you feel so. tell him innocently OK honey enjoooooooy! it will make him go crazy :D

[Anonymous]

Let him know how you're feeling. Tell him that it upsets you when he goes out all of the time without you. If he says he misses you but then does nothing to change that, that's a definite red flag. You should tell him that actions speak louder than words and that by him leaving you alone and doing his own thing you're not feeling close to him.

[ebrady5]

believe me, you want this kind of guy in your life. By this I mean you want a guy who can be happy by himself, without you. You would get sick of a guy who has to be around you constantly, or anyone for that matter. I think its a good thing when both people have their own separate me-times to just do what they normally do, and it has the effect of making you miss and want to see the other person more(its working on you, right?) Absence makes the heart grow fonder. However, if he is spending a lot more time away than you would like, perhaps you should arrange something for you two to do together, or just make plans to hang out, etc.

[Anonymous]

yeah have you told him what you told us?

I feel _____ when you do this _____ can you please try to do this _____ instead? I would appreciate it much! Thanks!

well, and what does he say?