Boyfriend jacks off all the time?

[Anonymous]

So every night I don't want to have sex he goes to jack off making me feel like I'm replaceable I wanna know if I'm jealous or over reacting but I hate it he leaves the bed and goes to the bathroom. Shouldn't he be hiding it? It also makes me feel like he just wants to get off making me feel not appreciated in the bedroom

[Kairnoct]

Most days, I can't get to sleep easily unless I have orgasmed. My fiancee is not always in the mood, and sometimes we just don't have the time or energy to do full sex before bed every day.

Masturbation is like living off of diet shakes. It makes it possible to get through the day, but you never actually are satisfied. No matter how much I masturbate, I'm still 'hungry' for something real, but if sex isn't possible right then, I have to make do.

The other option is for him to lie to you. Unless you have a statistically unusual sex drive, there will be times he needs to take care of it himself.

Women who think their guy doesn't have to do that sometimes have been misled.

[Ram0n83]

I think you might be over thinking a bit, but not a lot.

He goes to you and wants sex. And when you don't put out, he then takes care of himself. It's not like he is going out and banging another girl because you said, "no."

But I can see your frustrations, too. I don't have an answer. I think relationship counseling might help, though.

[Wonderer89]

You're overthinking it. If you don't want to have sex that's fine, but doesn't change the fact he wants to so he's handling it himself.
Being replaced would mean he's calling a side chick and going to have sex with her instead.

It's not fair that you dictate when he's allowed to orgasm - which you're kind of saying should be when you feel like having sex, or when you're not at the house so he can masturbate without you knowing.
There is nothing shameful about masturbation, thinking he should hide it disrespects his needs

[Anonymous]

Well, tell him. In the beginning, when I had my period and was sleeping at his house, in the morning, I woke up to him jacking off in bed. I got mad and walked to the kitchen because I think it's unfair that I'm in pain and horny, and he gets to pleasure himself. He hasn't done that ever since once I told him how it made me feel.

[Seppelson]

what has your pain to do with him? I don't get that

[Opinion Owner]

I am horny but can't masturbate and he can whenever he likes. When you're hormonal, you don't appreciate seeing a guy jacking off and therefore making you more aroused.

[Seppelson]

why can't you masturbate?

[Opinion Owner]

Because of the massive amount of pain. The slightest bit of stimulation makes the pain worse.

[SarahsSummer]

Seems like he's doing it to make a point like a baby might pout. Do you not want to have sex a lot?

[Anonymous]

You don't want to have sex - he does. How is there a problem here? He's taking care of his own wants and needs because YOU WON'T.

If he was hungry and you were not, would you begrudge him getting something to eat as well?

"Shouldn't he be hiding it?"
Why? Is there something shameful about it? Are you trying to make him feel ashamed about it? Is this some weird way you are trying to control him?

" It also makes me feel like he just wants to get off"
That is precisely what he wants, GIVEN THAT YOU WON'T FUCK HIM.

When the day comes, as it seems like it will, that he stops trying to get you to fuck him, THEN you'll have a real problem. Right now, you're making this an issue.

[JCT666]

I can't believe you're even wondering why. He jacks off because of your unwillingness to contribute to your relationship's sex life and yet, you're mad at him for that? God...

If you don't like him jacking off, then stop refusing sex and expecting him to not release his sexual urges or break up so that he can find someone who will give him the sexual satisfaction that he needs.

[Anonymous]

I applaud his openness and now realizes that most of this at that age IS going to the bathroom RELEASE much needed, however he can get it, even in this less than satisfying way.

You will feel more needed if you at least go in and watch, perhaps in time give him a topless view to help out, then later take over and get it done w/o both having emotional damage.

No need to have emotions over his needing to poop nor pee, same as this

[cattertone]

he's not trying to make you feel this way, he just needs to pleasure himself and if you don't want to have sex he has no choice. even if you dont have sex it would probably help if you watched him, or stripped for him, did things do he didn't need to use porn.

[Robsinsf53]

You think you're being replaced by a hand? Seriously? Come on, stop it, I'm laughing so hard. The only thing I'd do different is I'd jack off in the bed, why's he have to go to the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Lol well you might have a son one day and you know what he's going to start doing? Jacking off because it's NORMAL. You said yourself you don't wanna have sex, so he goes to the bathroom and jacks off i don't get where their is a problem here and how you feel replaceable, you don't want sex ok give him a hand job? If not men will always jack off. If you can't handle that then you should not have a boyfriend and either go lez or be lonely for the rest of your life

[kkoll]

It is not uncommon for sort of thing to be going on. I get what your saying and feeling, but some lads have an extremely high sex drive in this case where they don’t have a choice. It is either that or sleep with numerous women. So with that said: You have to ask yourself: Do you just accept it or do you take a ticket………and get it line? Hope this helps.

[Matt95]

He goes to you first, you are definitely not just replacable. He is horny so he does what he can to release, if he has a stressful day, sometimes it can help so it's neccessary.

[Goodwifie]

Nothing can replace a 🐈

[disgustingweebtrash]

Lmfao would you rather he goes and fucks some other chick? That's when you're replaceable, if you think you are being replaced by a hand that's pretty damn sad.

[Cody01]

Dude it's a hand. You are replaceable though because the hand will always be there in times of need.

[EzzieD]

I'd only worry if he prefers masturbating and/or watching porn over being with you.

[Goodwifie]

Is there anything that he can do to put you in the mood more often?

[depressedwaffle]

its normal that us guys have a high sex drive, but if he makes you feel unappreciated that's something you should tell him. jacking off isn't a big deal

[daveses]

Well if you aren't giving him sex, why can't he please himself?

[Seppelson]

If you don't want sex you have to stand that he does it in another way.

[Pizzalover101]

See if you can share tbatveith each other Cuz he mite think you hate him for it make it part of sex

[zombiebabe]

you have to talk to him about it

[Osprey]

lol for how does he stay in the bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Well you are turning him down.

[CT_CD]

You are replaceable

[rajpotchh]

Jack off means

[rajpotchh]

i think he must masturbate instead doing sex with u if u dont want! does he know u dont want?

[Anonymous]

His body his rules.

[Anonymous]

well, have sex then.

[Anonymous]

Lmaoooo omg