Can I allow my daughter and his friends to sleep naked in sleepover?

[Anonymous]

My daughter friends came to have a sleepover in our house and they are all se gender and same age 13-14 so they asked me that they can sleep naked at that time I said yes is it wrong? Would you allow it

[nightdrot]

It is perfectly fine. You seem to have said that they were all of the same sex. Given that, I cannot see anything wrong with it.

The presumption of the other respondents here is that the girls were all going to engage in lesbian sex. That is possible but not likely.

For more likely is that young teens at that age become somewhat "exhibitionists." At any rate, kids in that age group begin to lose that sense of modesty that they learned in their younger years and while there is a sexual dimension to this, it generally does not lead to sexual behavior.

(Fun fact - they are at about the age where they are most likely to start to sleep in their underwear or the nude. In the case of boys they will also tend to walk around the house unclothed more often. Girls, for various reasons, are less likely to do so.)

This tendency will ebb and flow with your child as she matures. Depending on how she was raised and a host of other factors she may tend more modest or not.

Bottom line, do not overthink it. It is not likely that they engaged in sexual behavior. If nothing else the percentage of lesbians in any female population is likely to be small in any random sample. The odds are that you have more to worry about with your daughter having sex with one boy than you do with a bunch of girls at a sleepover.

[Asker]

Thankyou for your clearest answer to help me out thankyou

[nightdrot]

Not at all. Glad I could help. By the by, my girlfriend works in family law and policy and she brings home research data on these kinds of things all the time that I then look at out of curiosity. Much of my answer was drawn from some of what I have read.

Anyhow, not to worry. Things'll be fine.

[Asker]

Thankyou if you can tell ur girlfriend about this may be a expert opinion and im glad if you post this ony reply thankyou

[nightdrot]

Sorry, I don't quite follow what you wrote as your writing is a little unclear.

Just to clarify, my girlfriend is not a child psychologist or anything like that. She is a lobbyist actually. However, they use research data to back their positions and therefore she sees a lot of such research on all sorts of topics related to the family - including human sexuality.

For my part, I just find such things intellectually interesting and so she brings home research from time to time just for my idle interest. Suffice to say, she would likely say the same things that I just did.

Hope that helps. If not, please clarify your writing and I will attempt to answer your question.

[Asker]

Thankyou I'm clear

[Asker]

And another thing what if it ended up in a sexual way

[Asker]

How should I react

[nightdrot]

You separate them and send the other children home. Then you explain to your daughter how her conduct was not appropriate and you punish her according to whatever standard you typically use.

Depending on what happened, you may be wise to contact the other parents and explain why you sent their kids home. However, you are under no obligation to raise their children, only your own.

Therefore, unless someone was hurt, you need not provide explanations to the other parents. That part is, as a result, at your discretion. For your own daughter, however, a long conversation - in a calm and measured tone as yelling will accomplish nothing - on what is and is not appropriate behavior for her age followed by grounding for an extended period or whatever punishments you usually use, would be recommended.

[Asker]

Thankyou again

[nightdrot]

My pleasure.

[jakerson181]

No, you''re not wrong and yes I would allow it. First of all, it won't be anything they haven't already seen in a locker room at school after gym. Second, kids that age in 2019 have a lot less hangups about nudity and being seen naked than adults do now and did when they were that age.

[iamdesperate]

Allowed, good decision but be careful. Some time back I allowed my daughter to do the same. Fine. Later I caught her with a friend (a girl) touching each others' sensitive parts. You have to see if your daughter or friends have any lesbian inclination. Otherwise it is OK and healthy.

[sukiaria]

they practically asked if they could have sex and you said yes, at that point it's up to your discretion

[Asker]

How can you say they will have sex

[sukiaria]

Of course, I can't say for sure. But if you allow them to sleep naked, they will almost definitely touch each other and that will then escalate.

[Asker]

They are around 14 if they touch too is it wrong? It should be guided?

[Carlotta78]

Of course I allow it, my 9 year old daughters organize a pajama party at our house every weekend with their friends who are their age, as soon as they arrive at our house my daughters welcome the other girls naked who immediately get naked too and stay that way until Sunday afternoon when they go to their house

[Avicenna]

Of course I wouldn't allow it. Why are you even asking anyone else? Put your foot down.

[SilverWolfy]

It's not immoral. But your daughter may be into girls. Have the talk with your daughter. By talk, I mean talk to her about sex and the emotional baggage that comes with that.

[face4sit]

U already know. U spy on them or u would em do something for you to spy on? )) my sister was always bring bitches for sleepover haha

[Ceasar97]

I probably wouldn't allow it, but I am sure nothing will happen. That is the age that they might start to experiment with each other and try things.

[KristenKT]

That's my age so I'm thinking this is pretty weird. For one I wouldn't ask but two I doubt we would even think about doing it.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with it at all. Firstly, I have always slept naked for as long as I can remember. Secondly, I was brought up in a naturist family, so nudity is not an issue for us.

[oncpl]

It must not be first occasion for them to sleep or stay naked. Let them enjoy in nude. Your decision shows your maturity and acceptance of age reality.

[Kan3Kiran]

Since they all are same aged, yoy you can allow them. There is nothing much to worry, they are just excited about their body transformations.
Tell her that it's not adviced to do so, but allow her.

[Nice222]

I don’t see anything wrong with it. Actually I am surprised that they even asked you. Surprised they didn’t do it in secrecy. When I was there age I would have been too shy to talk about it.

[SilentRonin]

Girls like to experiment... do you think they may be having sex?

[Asker]

I dont know they around 13 to 14

[SilentRonin]

I had sex when I was 13... what about you?

[Asker]

25lol

[SilentRonin]

When did you start playing with yourself? Lol

[Asker]

15 maybe

[SilentRonin]

What if they finger and fuck each other?

[Asker]

I dont know that why I'm posting here what to do

[SilentRonin]

Would you enjoy watching that?

[SilentRonin]

Or be uncomfortable?

[Asker]

Just reply of you want to helpe not make it worse

[SilentRonin]

I'm sorry... I'm just curious to how you would feel if it ended up going sexual.

[Asker]

If it happens I dont know how to react

[SilentRonin]

What if they wanted you to teach them?

[Asker]

I would probably say no and convey this to their moms

[SilentRonin]

Have you heard anything since they asked?

[Asker]

No not a thing

[SilentRonin]

That's good?

[rapfan107]

That's a bit weird I'd be a little skeptical about that.

[Anonymous]

i wonder why they wanted to sleep naked in the first place

[AD240pCharlie]

You can. But you shouldn't.

[Asker]

Why shouldn't

[Creepazoid]

lol no. i would not allow it

[Yammy]

How do you feel about the situation?

[Asker]

At the time nothing strikes in my mind I just said yes

[Yammy]

What are you thinking now?

[Asker]

I dont know may be they are cuddling each other sleeping

[Yammy]

Will they be bare naked?

[Asker]

Yeah

[Yammy]

How do you feel about that?

[Asker]

Nothing

[Yammy]

You don't mind it?

[Asker]

I dont know how to react to it

[Yammy]

Would it shock you then?

[Asker]

No they asked permission to me I know they are naked

[Yammy]

Like, just now?

[Yammy]

Or did this happen earlier?

[Asker]

No just now

[Yammy]

Have you checked on them then? Or listened?

[Asker]

Checked at midnight

[Yammy]

How long ago was that?

[Asker]

5hrs

[Yammy]

Maybe try checking again?

[Asker]

Okay

[Yammy]

Just be discrete I suppose

[Asker]

They are still sleeping

[Yammy]

Cuddled up?

[Asker]

Some are and some are occupying more space and hands are spread

[Yammy]

Ah okay... That's an interesting thing to ask at a sleep over though...

[Asker]

Okay thankyou

[Yammy]

Yeah, of course. Did you ever have those kind of thoughts growing up?

[Anonymous]

That is honestly weird

[COMMODOREII]

Im surprised they asked lol i guess its alright

[Prime_Sol]

If you don't, you're a shit mother

[TheRealQuestion2]

Are they planning to sleep in the same bed?

[abc3643]

Um... NO.

[mk200195]

LOL.

[reptocarl]

Weird

[This_is_my_username]

Um absolutely not.

[Sweetnessxoxo]

No tf

[Anonymous]

I smell troll farts