I'm jealous of my boyfriend's lesbian friend?

[Anonymous]

They are like really close... he gives her piggy back rides (and he thinks its weird if couples do it -___-), and he hangs out with her so much when I'm not there... and he jokes about marrying her if he Doesn't get to marry me... and he's slept with her (like slept over) they're actually best friends, but at the same time it's a bit strange, Because I know perfectly well that she's lesbian... ITS JUST WEIRD. And I feel weird for being jealous, Because she's basically a guy and I know for sure he has 0 attraction to her... ugh yeah, and he gets SO easily of other guys... is he just using her to make me a bit jealous? I know he loves me a lot, and I'm sure of that... and I love him a lot too.. This is kind of stupid, I guess I'm not really asking for any solutions to this stupid jealousy problem, I just need to let it all out.

[chapeko]

I am experiencing exactly same thing as you. I and he are together for 1.5year. He met this lesbian friend 10 years ago before he met me. They had sex before but he was saying he had never felt sexually attracted to her, but when I and him had to be in distance for couple of months, he started hanging out with her while he and she stopped contacting each other after he met me somehow, so I had to concern a lot about that in distance, which felt so crazy, and we discussed a lot about the relationship. He and I recently decided to move forward to get married together since we realised the necessity of being together each other. He says he has fervent belief that she is a lesbian while her inconsistency presents in her current situation, and that's how he is viewing the relationship. It seems like she is a person who makes him laugh a lot with their common sense of humour and that's something I do not have much. He says he and I have our own certain chemistry each other, and our relationship is one of the most important. I decided to just get used to this slight change in our relationship and the situation he and she interacts daily by texting each other and hanging out once in a while. I decided to set my mind free for him to hang out with anyone he feels chemistry and for his happiness as long as he keep saying that he cares about me a lot and try to show me that in his behaviour unless it's to seek sexual relationship. I cannot expect more than that.

[chantelsunshine50]

There s no way. She must be bi or something. It just doesn't make sense why he would sleep there instead of with you at your place. Maybe he is just saying she s a lesbian. Think about it. Its the perfect excuse. The only really way to find out about it is to read his texts and find out. I mean I'm not a crazy freak girl friend but if it was bothering me that much I would look into it!

[holly916]

yeah you are a crazy freak

[geliebt]

Don't listen to chentelsunshine, it's perfectly normal. If she's a lesbian there's nothing to worry about. He loves you and you love him. You're only jealous because in the end she is a girl and naturally you will have those feelings but just loosen up about it or talk to him. Good luck :)

[Ingway]

Well, in nowdays movies, women tend to have a male gay best friend right? in your case it's the opposite, guy who have a female lesbian best friend. My advice get used to it, you're boy friend is that kind of "package" with that girl, take it or leave it. they share something in common with or without sexual attraction, bonds you may say...

[JellybeanKittycat]

This saved my life. I put myself in his shoes and saw from his perspective. Thank you so much.

[Dareon]

She might be bi. Still, talk to him, express your concerns, set your boundaries, and stick to those boundaries, don't let him cross the lines you've drawn, or he'll cross them again.

[Countrygurl007]

Hey! I'm in the exact same boat! So glad someone else is dealing with this too. I don't really have any advice because I haven't figure out how to deal with it either but I thought I'd let you know you aren't the only one.

[Crazyced]

Were they friends before you came around?

[chapeko]

Can I ask why you ask about it? I am just curious. I posted my own story and opinion below. In my case, yes my boyfriend and his lesbian friend knows each other and have been close each other for 10 years before he met me.

[Crazyced]

In your case they previously had sex, I'd say that changes the tone.

[Anonymous]

have lesbian sex with her and she will love you.