Is it normal that I'm jealous of my boyfriend's female friend?

[gilmore]

Actually, we didn't experience such situations in our relationship, I have male friends and she has girls. But lately I started to dislike that girl. She treats me and my boyfriend very differently. I think she likes him. How can I tell my boyfriend this situation?

[MoonFace2]

Maybe she just prefers him as a person to you, or doesn’t like you? Or maybe she’s one of those girls who only likes the company of boys and wants to be the centre of attention to everyone? Maybe they’re best friends and love each other like family? I don’t know anyone in this scenario, so I don’t know.

On the other hand, if she flirts with him a lot, then I’d be talking to your boyfriend about your feelings of insecurity about this particular friend. I wouldn’t accuse either of them or get angry or defensive. Just be assertive and get to the heart of the matter. He’ll do one of two things. Either, he’ll reassure you that they’re just friends, in which case you should trust him unless he actually goes out and cheats on you with her. Which it sounds like he hasn’t. Or, he leaves you for her.

If the second scenario happens, then there’s nothing you could’ve ever done that would’ve kept him with you and he was going to leave you for her anyway, you just sped up the process and can move on faster. Like ripping a Band-Aid off.

The other fact is, if he does leave you, he’ll probably come back. They nearly always do. But not for the reasons you’d want him to.

Like I said, I don’t know you or them. It’s possible that you’re a woman who feels like her partners are her property and will watch while her boyfriends cheat and blame the women only. But you sound smarter than that to me. Which is why I’m trying to help you as best as I can.

I’ve also had a similar situation, eventually the girlfriend ended our friendship for several years. In that case, the girlfriend had a mental illness. We were just good friends and she accused us of cheating. But again, that doesn’t sound like you either. I think maybe you’re feeling an intuitive thing as you say you’ve no issue with each of you being friends with the other sex.

[sage2021]

I wouldn't trust her past seeing her ion front of you.

I have had some experience with my so-called girlfriends and twice this one chick went after guys that I had relationship with.

She invited us over for dinner and she and my guy happened to both be in real estate. So before we left and we were outside at the car saying goodbye, she and him exchanged business cards. Then she reached over and gave him a big hug! 🫂

I was at his house one day and we had just come home and he turned on his answering machine and I could hear her voice on the machine leaving him a message to hook up with each other.

Another time I had broken up with a guy that I still had feelings for but I couldn't see myself being married to him and we were engaged.

He was a barber 💈 by trade. She had two boys and took them into his barber shop for haircuts. She told me she took them and I asked her why? She said "To do a little P. I. work (private investigating for her own information). I don't think anything became of them but hey, I had just broke up with him and right away she's at his work.

[Finchie40]

If he is spending time with her without you around, then yes you have a right to feel jealous and concerned, but also remember you have male friends as well, so do you spend time with male friends’ without your boyfriend around? If so then understand you will be a hypocrite if you point fingers at him before pointing fingers at yourself first , Have a sit down talk with your boyfriend without accusing him of anything and express your feelings of concern to him and tell him how you feel? If he loves you he will understand and try to compromise with you , if he doesn’t love you , then he will point fingers at you and get all defensive. Understand if you tell him you no longer want him spending time with that girl then the same needs to go for you with your male friends’ as well. I have dated jealous girls’ that told me they didn’t like some of my girlfriends’ and would tell me to not spend time with them anymore , so I would stop for the sake of our relationship, things would go great between us until she decided she wanted to spend time with her male friends’ and that is where double standards come into play , basically what you do t want your boyfriend doing to you , needs to be the same boundaries for you as well, Not the other way around

[exitseven]

My wife was very jealous of my female friends. I sort of understood because I had a long history with them. I sort of stopped hanging out with them and once i had kids I hardly ever saw them. Now that I am old and my kids are living on their own and I am retired I regret letting go of these friendships.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the green-eyed monster strikes! My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate the wild world of relationships, so let's dive in. It's totally normal to feel a bit of jealousy when your instincts tell you something's off. Play it cool, honey! 😎 Gently express your feelings to your boyfriend, focusing on how her behavior makes *you* feel, instead of accusing her. Communication is key to avoiding any lovebombing explosions. Keep it light and honest, and watch out for those red flags! 🏴

[bjork]

It’s completely normal to feel this way, it happens to even the best of us! The important thing is to figure out if it’s about them or if it’s more about your own insecurities. Talk to your boyfriend but stay calm. Trust is key and if there’s no shady behavior, remind yourself that you’re his priority!

[gilmore]

You are right, I will calm down and talk. If there is trust, I must remind myself of my concerns.

[apartment]

Jealousy often happens when you care about someone, but it’s important to understand where it’s coming from. Ask yourself: is it something specific about their friendship, or is it about how safe you feel in the relationship? If they’re open with you, respect your boundaries, and aren’t hiding anything, try to trust them. It’s also worth talking to them about how you feel, but do it calmly jealousy can be managed through honest communication. Remember, your feelings are valid, but so is their right to have friends. It’s important to find balance.

[gilmore]

Yes, balance is important. I will share my feelings calmly, and if there is trust, I will try not to cause trouble.

[Anonymous]

Don't let these bitter feminists gaslight you. They cuck any dude that gives them the time of day, and keep a roster of beta orbiters, so they don't like you calling out opposite sex friendships. Trust your gut, talk to your man, be calm and honest. Don't just ignore your feelings or believe that you are flawed.

[lorenzomichael]

No it’s not normal. Besides, what are you jealous of another woman for? You need to live your own life, and spend less time worrying about other people. and a lot more time thinking about what you’re doing. Don’t be jealous of anyone, because it’ll get you nowhere.

[barbie]

If jealousy is not excessive, it is normal, but being jealous of her is not a sign of love, it is a lack of trust and even self-confidence.

[gilmore]

I totally agree

[Potteplante]

You can tell him that you don't really trust him and try to figure out how you can work on yourself to the point where you can deal with your insecurities towards this friend of his.

[PeachyPie93]

So tell him about it. If he doesn't care about your feelings and tries to protect her, well there is your answer..

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him straight up that it bothers you and why

[EmmaMary]

I suggest you try Growing Up and start acting your age. smh

[D_Bone_Steak]

Open your mouth and speak. It's not rocket surgery or brain science.

[Unit1]

Nice twist of words

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Unit1 Thanks... I'm not as think as you drunk I am.

[TheBrooklynFollies]

If you feel that someting is not ok you are probably right. You should have a serious conversation with him about that girl. Take into consideration that if his relation with that girl is strong he might choose her instead of you.

[yourpalval]

normal af but if you start doin things only jealous bitches do then ur gonna make it worse

[Anonymous]

You are seeing her as a threat and sense the competition. You need to remind you man who is his number one. Perhaps he's confused or just doesn't see the problem.

[shades777]

Hey you never know what they're doing when your not around

[MannMitAntworten]

You just tell him. Is it normal? Yes. It is quite common.

[PeterLegg91]

She wants him all to herself, your a threat to her re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Crazzyyworld]

2 strategies..

1. Be sluttier than her in bed

2. Be innocent and shut the mouth

[noohair]

Women jealous of each other? I thought that was normal.

[Anonymous]

It’s understandable. I knew guys who had crushes on girls they are friends with sometimes they slept with them.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter if you trust your boyfriend?

[alice55]

Totally normal

[CarolinaGirl5]

You're immature and insecure
Grow up

[Emmytexrex]

You don't have to be jealous of his friend

[KrakenAttackin]

"Female friend" 😂😂😂💞

[Jmmmfi4]

MY THOUGHT EXACTLY

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yeah, if she's hot.

[CVNT5]

why, cuz u older than her?

[Raaj4you]

Jealousy thy name is woman.

[Anonymous]

How hot is she?

[negrl4a69]

Only if there fucking or dhe sucking him off

[paledreams]

Some women can be

[debtfree_oneyear]

Why?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is

[Anonymous]

Red flag