At what point is having no friends a reflection of who you are as a person?

[Anonymous]

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I think it depends on why.

I have a pretty small circle of friends and prefer to keep it that way. I guess I just have a loner personality. However, I think no friends at all is also a bit different than a small circle, too.

But, it could be because the person never gets out and isolates themselves, or because they have a grating personality or aren't good people. I'm sure there are many other reasons, too.

I've known plenty of people who weren't good people or had shit personalities who had quite a few friends too, though, so I think it most likely has to do with very reserved people who tend to isolate themselves.

[smokeandberry]

I've had so many different types of friend groups and I really don't believe they're a reflection of who you are, or your worth. Sometimes having no friends just means that you're satisfied on your own, find interests in other things, or treasure actual connection that you can't really find in many people you interact with.
If you're struggling to MAKE friends then that's a different social problem.

If we're talking a reflection of what you're like as a human being (good or bad) then I'd judge that on your interactions with strangers and new people you get introduced to

[SoWhAt249]

The problems is not the lack of friends. The problem is the lack of will to meet new people. When you simply don't want to meet people to be around you, you subconsciously scream negativity, and even if people would otherwise want to hang out, will avoid you. Solitude is awful. It reveals who you are, because you don't feel the need to cover up and put up an act for those around you, for the better or worse.

[MalcolmNZ]

I've been through periods of lots of friends, small amount of friends, no friends.

To me what the difference is often between somebody with lots of friends and no friends is tolerance.

In my younger days I had very little tolerance if somebody had done me wrong and that was the time when I had a little friends or no friends.

[victoriaxoxo]

I don’t have many friends and sometimes I worry that it says something about me but then I remember that I spend most of my time gaming and avoiding social interactions. I also enjoy doing things on my own way more. Travelling on my own is most fun because I get to do everything I want to do. I don't know if it means I’m a bad person but I feel better having a few friends rather than crowds of them.

[Godofbliss]

Same

[Alice2398]

I think its okay to not have friends, saves you a lot of money and drama. I have friends but none are very close to me compared to other friends. Im a introvert and enjoy being a alone to a certain extent.

If its to the point were no one wants to be your friend or be nice to you maybe its important to take a step back and reassess why that could be.

[Dulaney10]

Never had a ton of friends... but I have family and my kids... sometimes friends can be exhausting... especially if your working and have kids and other things going on... I don’t think it’s a bad thing to not have a ton of friends so many people nowadays are so full of crap and as you get older you just realize all that drama is not needed

[FýrdracaDócincel]

It's not.
If anything, it actually speaks positively of who you are because you're not letting people control you.

I guess it depends on why you have no friends. Is it because you don't put yourself out there or because you naturally make everyone around you butthurt?

[Purpleronnie]

I don’t think it’s a reflection at all on the face of it , people may make assumptions sure but the reasons can be varied and they shouldn’t. Any decent person would get to know you and make their own opinion

[Anonymous]

I think these days most people have none or small amount of friends as we don't have as much live social interaction even before lockdown...

I don't speak about FB 'friends' or any other antisocial media 'friends', where you just click and you are 'friends' forever.

I speak about actual friends that are there for you like family.

[ariadneR]

I have very little friends, I am quite the loner. But I have a lot of people that want me in their lives, I am just very very picky with who i spend my time with.
I know I am well liked, but i dont pay it any attention

[Aislin9]

Tesla was pretty much a loner. He had a pigeon for a friend. He was a great man despite being a misogynist (I'll excuse him for that as it was common then).

[Laura_Marx]

Its a reflection of your high tonality of spirit. They are slaves to their ressentiment. Nietzsche understood this - there was a man with no friends!

[cute_short_nerd]

Be proud of who you associate with, having no friends to me just means that you didn’t want to associate with them or they were too judgmental to see you as the person you are.

[LeroyJenkins]

I don't think it actually matter, as long as it doesn't bother you at the end friends don't mean anything so it can't reflect on your personality.

[StephenCF]

I don’t judge people for their number of friends, I judge them on their intelligence, style and achievements (which many loners possess more than their “popular” counterparts)

[Sonorous]

When it comes to the internal, it only reflects how much tolerance you have for other people.

[thegirlfromthething]

Assuming that you had enough opportunities to make friends, I’d say around 12 years old.

[DiscomfortZone]

After about three seconds. Get a fucking grip unless you like being a worthless piece of shit :)

[OddBeMe]

As someone who as few if any friends, we just don’t care about our reflections.

[Elsa_Schneider]

As an adult.

Once you realize most people are shit.

[BestUserName100]

Could have had fucked up circumstances tho to.

[Iron_Man]

It means nothing at all

[Asker]

You don’t think that because you have no friends there isn’t a reason for that? Maybe it’s something you’re doing, how you act, etc.

[Iron_Man]

No not at all
many people have their children around them and their very busy in their life they don't need friends on the side.
Another example can be they're very strict and don't want any Tom Dick or Harry hanging around them.
Another reason could be their friends moved away and got married.
Another reason could be their self employed and work alone by themselves

[Asker]

All of that is true but for most people In the 20-30 range this isn’t the case. Something they’re doing is rubbing people the wrong way.

[Iron_Man]

Not 30s in late 20s mostly for teens in high school

[Aaron_Stone]

When you're suffering.

[Aaron_Stone]

Except if you're lone wolf 🐺