“ it’s better to be the one hurting than to be the one hurting others” ?

[mixedforever29]

My mom told me this once & honestly i don’t see how this is so? Can someone please tell me how that would be better. I mean either way is not good. It’s like picking your poison.

[NamerOfStars]

The pain of someone hurting you will eventually pass. The pain of realizing that you've hurt someone else- well, that'll eventually pass too, especially if they forgive you. But the knowledge that you've hurt someone; have, even if in a small way, made the world a worse place, is truly a rotten feeling.

Better doesn't always mean "good". Sometimes, it just means "less awful".

[abc3643]

Your mother apparently isn't a Christian because that belief is the antithesis of Christianity.

[mixedforever29]

I don't know what she is.

[AmandaYVR]

That's some weird motherly advice there.
Why bother stringing any of those words or thoughts together? Not everything has to be compared.
But I guess your mother's heart is in the right place - maybe it's her somewhat bizarre way of saying that one should do everything they can to avoid hurting others.

[MrsTurkleton]

Yes. I'd much rather be hurt than be responsible for someone else's hurt.
It's an awful feeling.

[COMMODOREII]

I agree with you. Its ok to not hurt someone but hell if i let someone hurt me. I fight back.

[bklynbadboy1]

I honestly do want to be either one believe it or not it is a choice

[GreenGold1992]

yes it is, hurting others would be worse

[mixedforever29]

yes but how.

[GreenGold1992]

lack of empathy