“Isn't it ironic? we ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us." Any thoughts?

[kat_gran]

[jesshkah]

Seen this quote before, sounds like a confused person. And it's more dumb than ironic to me.. ignoring those who adore us happens because sometimes you can't tell or you don't like them the same way, so that parts fine. Adore those who ignore us is dumb to me.. I'm not for chasing after someone who's clearly indicated no interest, though I understand that sometimes you can't control who you like. The last two bits are totally silly. Don't hurt people in general, and loving someone who hurts you sounds like Stockholm Syndrome. It's a highly romanticized quote that seeks to brush off the irrationality of what we feel sometimes when we think we're in love with someone.

[kat_gran]

Aren't we irrational beings when we feel?

[jesshkah]

Not always. That makes it sound like just because you have feelings, every ounce of logic you have goes out the window, which isn't the case.

[kat_gran]

Exactly.. "NOT Always". ;)

[jesshkah]

yea but I feel like we should strive not to be.

[kat_gran]

Ahh! but that is something else.
One thing is what we want, another is what it is.

[jesshkah]

Ehh, but they can be tied together no? It's not like you can't change what is, to what you want.

[kat_gran]

It can, but sometimes it is not as easy as it sounds.
Life is not black and white. I was only trying to give a different perspective ;) that is all..

[jesshkah]

Yea i know lol I just disagree with this because it seems very like "oh this is just how things are, isn't it funny?" when you can take steps to not be like this

[kat_gran]

lol haha yes very true.. lol a little unconventional one, aren't ya? haha
you sound a lot like me haha

[jesshkah]

Lol oh yea? I guess you could say I'm a tad unconventional, yea 😁. Nothing I think too out in left field though

[XRabbitHeartX]

I think it feels that way if you are in love with the wrong person but if the right guy/girl comes along you won't ignore them and will want them. When my boyfriend came into my life I knew immediately he was the one for me and vica versa. There weren't any ignoring of any kind. It just worked. I do believe that real true love will just work with no complications.

[Nyriad]

There is a kind of "challenge" to be loved by someone who wasn't attracted by us at first, it's like if you desirved the love by what you've done to seduce the other.
The ones who hurt us are the one we love because we are hurt by people who we have a significant part in our life. That's somehow sad but here goes the world...

[Mustachekitteh]

in the 1920's this one scientist did a study with monkeys. It proved that when you are abused and thrown away. You crave to have their attention more than from people who don't hut you.

[kat_gran]

People are so fucking stupid.. I swear this is why I am not having any kids.. jeezus lol
Thanks for your answer by the way :)

[raio81597]

I'm not sure it's irony.
Ignoring those that adore us, is in it self a false sense of security, like having unchecked mechanics of a new car, just because it's new doesn't mean it doesn't wear out, same with adoration. Adoring someone that ignores us is about insecurity, we want what we can't have such as celebrities. Hurt those that love us, is more about taking things personal due to emotional connection. Not sure about loving someone that hurts us, maybe wishing the loved one doesn't hurt us is more like it otherwise we maybe toxic or have unfulfilled needs from childhood.

[Dim_121]

That might happen a lot but when to people are both on the same page it is an awesome thing to watch them grow in love together. Which is some what rare these days to see.

[Dim_121]

thanks for mhg

[kat_gran]

np :) you're welcome.
Thanks for your response!

[Anonymous]

Actually I'm kind of creeped out by open adoration, I pretty much don't notice people who ignore me unless it's a bartender or someone working a customer counter or something like that. I never intentionally hurt people who love me but they have to understand that loving someone does not give them any obligation towards you. Love is a gift, not a remuneration. I don't love people who intentionally try to hurt me, i generally avoid them.

This sounds like an unhealthily insecure person.

[kat_gran]

Very interesting point... "Loving someone does not give them any obligation towards you. Love is a gift, not a remuneration."
Very interesting take on that point...

[06CuriousMind]

this is too true for me right now unfortunately. I have guys in my life that are so good to me but i just dont "feel" it with, whatever that means. and the guys im interested in are assholes. It has to do with a clingy factor though. The guys that like me are borderline obsessive.

[BertMacklinFBI]

it's not really ironic, to me, because that happens all the time.

it just so happens that the attraction isn't there, and/or the timing is way off.

[Sara413]

That may be true for some people, but not well adjusted healthy adults.

[CheerGirl38139]

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[kat_gran]

? ? ?

[CheerGirl38139]

That's how ironic it is.

"It's like meeting the man of your dreams... and then meeting his beautiful wife"

[kat_gran]

Ohhh damn.. that's a good one! haha
I like your sarcasm haha good one :)

[CheerGirl38139]

Well in this case, it's kinda true. ☺

[Lickneatu2]

Cause your really a bunch of dumb asses you also fantasize about painful sex

[kat_gran]

LMAO HAHaH what an answer! hahah

[Lickneatu2]

Glad to know you laughed and of course you know wasn't referring to you bet you and i think the same way

[kat_gran]

haha i didn't take it for me but it was def. funny lol

[Jxpxtxr]

Not really ironic, just sad.
I guess you just can't help who you're falling for.

[kat_gran]

Hmmm...

[Anonymous]

I guess we just hate rejection or to much attention with out a challenge

[kat_gran]

Ha, interesting response.

[Floppy]

I don't have an opinion on this because I don't believe what is being said

[kat_gran]

How come?

[Floppy]

Because I don't believe it's true I don't believe we ignore those who adore us and vice versa. One can make up sentences that sound brilliant but they're not true. So therefore I don't have an opinion on the irony of it all. If you asked me a question, "guys who wear blue suspenders get laid more often." I can't answer that because I don't think it's true.

[kat_gran]

Hahha ok.. thanks for sharing your opinion :)

[Floppy]

You are welcome

[ThatBritishLad]

I think it's ironic that the sarcastic and ironic archetype in media that was once so witty and original is now so common that the majority of the cast in most shows, films or games are witty and ironic.

[llorando]

Happens in the animal kingdom too, so I'm not too surprised.

[JSmuve]

We're a fucked up species, to say the least.

[kat_gran]

I will agree to that one. ;-)

[Yanoa_Yanza]

For the people that this applies to? Yup

[kat_gran]

lol, hahah

[karahiri]

I hate everyone so...

😍😎😏😂🐑🐑🐑

[llorando]

Are you sure *whistles*.

[karahiri]

@llorando I do 🐷🐷🐷🐶🦁🦂🦀

[llorando]

:(.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XG6SCDUiFZs

[karahiri]

@llorando I hate Roy too 😮😮😮😮😮

[llorando]

OH NO!
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[karahiri]

@llorando LOL

[Blueeyes81]

😢😔😣😳👾

[karahiri]

@Blueeyes81 making me feel all. guilty now 😶😶

[Blueeyes81]

As long as you only hate me part of the time. 😜

[luvstoned4him]

Not intentionally... :(

[bente2]

Agree

[Decentguy]

yes it is, and its very stupid of us to do this.

[Anonymous]

That's not how it works.

[Anonymous]

SO True... its breaks my heart just reading that

[Anonymous]

I don't do that at all.

and I hate that song.

[kat_gran]

lol what song? it's a quote not lyrics.

[RJGraveyTrain]

"Daddy issues."

[Anonymous]

Not me. I'm attracted to any girl.

[Anonymous]

That's sadly true

[koko124]

No thoughts here