Is a long distance relationship worth it for a minor?

Question

as you may have probably guessed already, yes, im a minor (whos also almost an adult) questioning my long distance relationship, why? cause although i love my boyfriend and he's a sweetheart, i also want to feel want to feel teenage love and do things together here and there without having to use my phone or pc just to do so. is that valid? i dont know. but yeah it just feels like im missing out on ome stuff and obv im okay to wait for him but id have to wait until im an adult to actually do things with him which makes me feel a bit sad knowing i can only be a teen once in my life.

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

I think it's really important for you to have in person relationships with people at your age. That's how you develop your social skills and your ability to bond with other people.

Long distance relationships involve a lot of fantasy and are not the same. Especially because you are feeling like you want to have someone there in person who you can enjoy being with and have that kind of closeness with I think that is what you should be doing. Your mind is trying to tell you something and you should listen. It's more natural that way. And I think it's better for you.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

Interacting with others in the real world is very important, personally you should think about the real world side of things more than long distance. There is also the entire how long is long distance, the longer the distance, the more expensive any travel. Then there is the safety thing, how someone behaves online can be far different to in real life, person to person. Concentrate on getting exams sorted and live in your local real world of friends and reappraise when you are say 19. A lot changes once you leave school, your priorities change a lot.

Alice18 · Accepted Answer

A long distance relationship is very difficult. This is a test that not everyone can pass, and the result is not always worth it. You can just waste time, nerves and get a broken heart without experiencing the pleasure of love.

If you would like, we can talk in DM, may I can help you and give a few advice

Lalalove11 · Accepted Answer

Depends how much you like one another. Ldr are hard eventually the choice has to be made to move closer. I've seen them work though. It's just a lot of work. If neither of you are planning to move closer especially cos you're young that's hard though :( ❤️

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to sprinkle some insights on your love conundrum, let's talk about the heart tug-of-war you're experiencing! 🌈 It's absolutely valid to crave those in-person, butterflies-in-the-stomach moments that come with teenage love. Long-distance relationships, especially in the tender teenage years, come with their own set of challenges – craving physical closeness, experiencing moments together that just aren't the same through a screen, and those pangs of missing out on typical teenage dating experiences are all legitimate feelings. It's like wanting to be in the painting but finding yourself outside the frame, peeking in.

Being almost an adult adds another layer to the cake – you're on the cusp of significant life changes, exploring independence, and discovering who you are. Remember, love shouldn't feel like a chain but rather a liberating experience. It can be beautiful to grow individually and together, even from a distance, but it's also okay to acknowledge that some chapters might need a different setting. This doesn't dim the love you have; it's simply recognizing what you need at this stage in your life. Always listen to your heart but don't forget to have a little chat with your head too. It's a dance between what feels right and what logically aligns with your dreams and desires. 🌟

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Are you suggesting that you want to be sexually active now and you can't do that because your guy is at a distance?

Alex-Snow · Answer

I guess it depends on what u want out of the relationship. It is probably more about having a long distance friend that any kind of physical relationship. But u have to face the fact that you can't be with him. Do you facetime him or video chat with him on What's App or something?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Tbh most relationships before you are 21 will be chaotic, short, sometimes emotionally hurtful. While wanting to be in love is a sweet dream you can still feel love with a person irl and for a year; doesn’t have to be LDR.

If he’s needing you to wait two years in my opinion that’s too long. You can certainly be friends and still trust him. But as you already expressed being irl with a boyfriend and experiencing touch and hugs etc would be something you couldn’t do until 2026 at least while your friends are already gaining that experience and learning rn

Make sense?

Levin · Answer

Unless he's 'the one'; honestly, it sounds cruel and heartless, but move on.

Like you say, you're young once. You need to be able to touch your partner. I mean, don't get me wrong, the magic of some wild holiday romance is alluring. But then it lasts for a week or so and then heartbreak?

Nah, not for me.

Usually the 'internet', in all its guises is a substitute for real life. So maybe the question needs to be asked why the real world can't supply you with what you need.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

Lost distance relationships probably aren't worth it for anyone, unless the two of you are going to be living close enough to have a real relationship in the future. And not like in the far-off "someday" future, but like in you know WHEN one or both of you are going to move.

There's no reason you can't talk to people online, but to put your real life on hold for someone you might never even meet in person is kinda messed up, in my opinion.

b_lova · Answer

Like I told my daughters you need to be able to smell him regularly to really build a relationship. Not just to test hygiene but also how compatible the two of you are in the moment.

With online relationships you can fashion yourself into the person you think the other person desires for you to be.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No. Absolutely not. Entirely defeats the purpose of learning how to interact with others. One of the most difficult things you can ever do. No way a teenage guy won’t be distracted by every other thing in a skirt. Don’t do it. You’ll be miserable and get hurt.

Daniela1982 · Answer

You're not a minor if you are 18, like your profile says.

Twalli · Answer

They're probably better than an in-person relationship, if the guy (in your case) is above the age of consent. In a LDR there's no possibility of you two having consensual sex (but legally it's statutory rape).

AlinaJanowska18 · Answer

My friend went through this stage in her life, and I can say with confidence that it was a mistake. Relationships are much more than texting and sending each other hearts.

strateguy632 · Answer

for minor that is perfect, talk from a safe distance, share experiences n emotions. but no pictures. even children tv of the 90s ballet is considered porn here.

exitseven · Answer

I was in one from the time I was 19 to 22. I was miserable the whole time and they were cruel and lonely years. I will never get those years back again.

12karen · Answer

I'd say depends, I have a cuz who is in Ldr, they were both minors when they met and he went to study abroad, when he came back they were still dating and he left again, they are not engaged but his girlfriend spends a lot of time at my aunt's

LazerBean · Answer

Are you planning on being married in the next 2 years? If no, then the answer is no.

Yannae · Answer

If you have the luck to find the right person it is always worth it. But you are still very young and I think it's dangerous to go trust someone online. I recommend looking for someone closeby.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is a complete waste of time for anyone.

genericname85 · Answer

is there any chance you can keep dating for some time while not being long distance?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It can be a helpful way for someone to dip their toe in the water of dating.

Anonymous · Answer

I married my hs sweetheart. It definitely was a waste of time and took out a big chunk of my young adult life. Experience the world. Take it from a guy who committed to a hs girlfriend.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Dude get off the fucking internet and get friends like a normal teen. Stop being a weirdo

Part2603 · Answer

Give it a handful of months, then move on.

Staximus · Answer

Long distance relationships are crap for everybody

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Minors shouldn't be dating, period

shortster · Answer

Long distance relationships don't work.

Anonymous · Answer

Your not 18 no

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