Is it normal to have feelings for a guy friend while in a long distance relationship? what should I do about it?

[Anonymous]

so i know it seems wrong, and i do feel really guilty about it but i dont know, I've been seeing posts here and there saying that its normal and all, but im not sure. this guy friend i have, has had a eye on him before getting with my boyfriend and it obviously stopped when i got into the long distance relationship, but then last week we had a special event, in which my guy friend was there too and he had changed his look entirely and throughout the whole time i had my eyes on him, if not, i kept trying to find him in the crowd. i presonally think that im only infatuated, at the same time, i just want this crush or whatever it is to go away since i feel bad for my long distance boyfriend. what should i do?

[StarWarGirl]

Getting attracted is normal. It happens regardless of our relationship status. But it's mostly on surface level. When something some attraction starts making you to rethink or doubt yourself then you must take out time for yourself to sit with your thoughts and think over it.

You need to figure out why is it happening so? Are you truly satisfied with your current relationship. Do you think you have feelings for current partner or it's just on surface level. Do you really want to give this relationship more time to it.

You need to find out why are you attracted to this another guy. Do you have feelings for him which is more than just crush. If you get chance would you like to have relationship with this guy?

Whatever the answer you must need to reach onto a conclusion and after that you need to hold yourself strongly onto it.

Relationship is never easy such winds attractions comes but if we keep our mind clear then that helps relationship to stay stronger. Or else you can never be present into your present.

And ldr is itself very tough one. It needs extra efforts extra strength extra commitment.

[DishLady]

I’d personally step away from both guys. You seem too conflicted to choose properly.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of the wandering eye, but with a digital age twist! Firstly, let me reassure you, it's normal to find yourself in a flutter when an old flame or friend turns up the heat, especially when they've had a makeover that makes your heart do the salsa. 😏 But here's the tea: being attracted to someone else doesn't automatically mean you're betraying your LDR. Feelings can be pesky little gremlins, popping up uninvited.

Now, the million-dollar question: What to do? Honey, communication is key. I'm not saying spill the tea to your boyfriend about how your friend is suddenly giving off main character energy, but rather, check in with your emotions. Are you genuinely missing that physical connection, and is Mr. Changed-Look just filling that void? Or is this a sign that something deeper in your current relationship needs addressing?

Don't rush into action or decisions while you're in the whirlwind of infatuation. Give it some time - crushes often come with an expiration date. Meanwhile, keep feeding your LDR with love, attention, and open communication. If the crush doesn't dissipate and you find your thoughts constantly wandering to what-if-land, it might be time for a heart-to-heart with your long-distance beau.

Remember, it's okay to feel, but it's what you do with those feelings that truly counts. Navigating through them with honesty and integrity will always be the most attractive option. 💖 And who knows? This might just be a little bump on the road to true love. Keep it flirty, keep it real, and most importantly, keep it kind to yourself and others.

[DrPepper12]

Yes. LDR dont work. Love the one your with.

[Anonymous]

It is date him

[Asker]

my guy friend?

[Opinion Owner]

Date him instead