Hi guys. I’ve been feeling super off & confused about my long distance relationship. Basically my boyfriend & I were dating in person for 2 months & the rest has been long distance. Next month we hit a year. We didn’t feel like anything was forced. I traveled up to meet his family & close friends. 4 months after that, we planned a trip together. He flew down & I paid for the entire package since I knew he was in debt & couldn’t really afford it. He was hesitant at first but I believe if my partner is struggling.. i’m going to help you out. I’ve been on solo trip before but I really wanted him to join me since this is my 1st relationship & it would be nice traveling with someone. Fast forward to this year. I sent him a Christmas gift (a cologne set, hand written card). He sent me a long text saying how much he appreciates me & how I appreciate the smallest things. I never got anything for Christmas (i’m okay). Everything was still good; no arguments, constant communication & then out of no where he breaks up with me. The convo was about how both of us are on a standstill with our career meaning that none of us can move since we’re trying to grow. I told him that I want to move but I need to be financially stable 1st. But the conversation on his end was super dry & it left me hanging with questions. I tried calling & texting him no response. 3 weeks later, I send him a hbd text. He calls me immediately & tells me he appreciates it & out of no where he breaks down. He basically said he's depressed n everything I want to hear. He was begging me to take him back. So we’re back together. I don’t feel confused about my feelings for him just more so the relationship. I keep getting told by family, n friends to let him go bc a real man would never let distance be an excuse. My dad said when men are in love they will move mountains. I feel stuck & lost. It feels like he only wants to be with me bc i’m a good women not because he’s in love. I don't know how to approach this
Guys, I’m feeling confused/lost about my long-distance relationship. What should I do when i’m feeling like this?
